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No-one wants to be around a middle-aged man trying to replicate an unlived youth, and since it's apparently selfish (along with unlikely) to try for a family at my age, a normal life is out of the question now. What's does that leave? The very things that helped put me in this situation in...

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...difficult to believe some of these people were still in their 40s even. It felt like I was at a teacher-parent meeting with me as a naughty teenager. I knew I would feel out of place but it was worse than I thought. The conversation never veered away from older adult concerns: adult children...

According to Myers-Briggs I'm consistently INFP-T after testing a few times. Apparently the most common 'lonely' personality type is the low agreeability, low openness spectrum type. But a disagreeable individual is at least more likely to succeed in their career and can come across as...

Last Christmas holidays, out of the blue a "friend" invited to me to a gathering of his friends. They were staying in accommodation for the week, already booked and arranged. I was expected to leave same day while they stayed on and celebrated New Year's Eve together. Against better judgement...

Basically, I grew up around narcissistic, aggressive a-holes and have trouble keeping that to myself. Some topics just aren’t suitable for everyday conversation. Nothing good ever comes of it. I end up regretting presuming on someone’s patience and making things awkward. But I keep doing it...

Young people appear pretty nice these days, sometimes it’s like I’m talking to a different species. A lot of out and proud LGBT individuals. But oddly, the biggest change seems to be with straight men, who are generally less aggressive. There’s a bit of bro talk here and there but it’s nothing...

Everywhere you go, there you are. And also, there are young people, living the lives you never had, and they surely don't want a middle-aged man tagging along. Which means doing everything alone, in unfamiliar surroundings, surrounded by groups of young adults or older couples with kids in...

So I have one relative left, 73, and I'm pretty sure nobody will be at my.... internment (?) I'd be very surprised if any acquaintances or so-called friends bothered. I came across this post on Quora which sums up the mentality a lot of people have towards this. Funerals are for the living...

https://www.rawstory.com/socially-isolated-people-have-differently-wired-brains-and-poorer-cognition-new-research/ Along with problems concentrating due to loneliness, I've always had trouble keeping up in social situations; people talking too fast, being unable to follow an argument or only...

I'm in my 40s and still think about this daily. Bullying is misleading as it rarely got physical - more continual rejection, mocking and frequent humiliations over having "no mates" and generally not being liked. I don't hate those people, as bad as some of them were. I hate myself. I want to...

Yup, you dated before: in reality those "dates" were just outings with female acquaintances with you hoping for more, but she doesn't need to know that. And those couple of official dates you had years ago where it went nowhere and ended badly: that's a short term relationship. I could just...

Whenever I look at early youtube uploads, old flickr or FB photos and see something from the 2000s I have to shake my head and realize that was 15 years ago. There's something unsettling about the passage of time without the haze of memories or aging film/video stock. People don't look that...

I was thinking about attending another 'professional singles' meetup in the city tonight. I usually browse the attend list first... This time there's only about 2 women I could find attractive on that list of 150+, and they would probably be the no-shows. Most looked like middle aged...

Everything ahead seems depressing and empty. I constantly look backwards, looking up old series from the late 90s/ 2000s, old games, music, news items, celebrities, presenters, events, which is easy to do now with various archival sites, old webpages and retro themed YouTube channels. Or I'll...

Positives. Potentially sanity saving for general loneliness. Made a few friends while visiting places I would never would have otherwise. People who turn up are generally friendly. Negatives... As far as potential dates... no. Most of the women at the interest based groups were over 50 or...

If I want to date now I have to be a pure being only interested in the emotional connection. If I want to have friends now I have to accept most people my age have other priorities and aren't interested in repeating the fun times they had in their youth. To be honest, I look around at my...

As a socially stunted, now middle-aged guy, this is a problem. I had to take care of terminally ill parent for years then became a depressed borderline alcoholic for a few more; never got to date, etc. etc. Said all that before.  To sum up I'm mostly not physically attracted to women in my age...

Finally thought I try it ten years after this became socially acceptable. At least it might frame my features and make look more masculine I thought. 3 weeks in and I look exactly like I expected, creepy and unshaven, like I hadn't showered in a month. Dirty, and no more masculine. Yeah I...