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I don't understand. Who knows who's right for you more than you do? I understand that this is the way it works in some cultures, and I'm not knocking them by any means (to each his/her own). Culture aside, however, it just seems to me that one's own personal judgement is a precious thing to...

Sure sounds to me like she has a lot of anger, much of which probably has nothing to do with the OP or his actions. He just happens to be a convenient target. The idea of teaching her son not to acknowledge his dad in her presence (i.e. calling him by his first name only) is especially...

There is a difference between being alone and being lonely. One is a situation and the other is a state of mind. I've know people who live alone and are perfectly content with their situation. Others I've know have been relationships or surrounded by people and have felt a great deal of...

No prob. I sent ya a PM. Hang in there!

The most important thing to remember is that your kids have nothing to do the issues between you and your ex. You seem to get that. She obviously doesn't. It is totally unfair on her part to involve your kids in this and use them as a battering ram against you. She doesn't realize the harm...

It's easy to let past experience influence future encounters, but it's really counter-productive, not to mention it just doesn't make logical sense. Everybody is different. Not that we can't learn something from our experiences, as long as we don't allow them to cloud our judgement. The key...

Agreed. I would have been tempted to call the young lady out on her remarks, although there really would have been no point to doing so. The OP certainly handled the situation with tact and dignity by just letting it slide and moving forward. The reality is that there are people of both sexes...

One of my pet peeves is people who play mind games, and that's exactly what she was doing with you. Thank God you saw her true colors when you did so you didn't have experience more of her crap. While nobody knows for sure what was going through her mind, I would concur that her motivation was...

I can certainly relate to the bullying issue, as I was a bully-target all through my childhood and adolescence. No doubt it has a detrimental effect on one's self-esteem and view of his/her attractiveness. I remember being at a school dance in the 7th grade. Two girls who apparently had...

Well, the primary purpose of the sex drive IS procreation after all. There comes a point in a woman's life when reproductive ability ends and the drive responds accordingly. We men, on the other hand, can produce sperm until we die. Kinda puts us at a disadvantage.

Since we've already discussed it at some length, I hesitate pushing her too much further. She seemed rather upset that I had discussed my own sexual issues (mainly the impotence) with my doctor, saying that I should have discussed it with her first, and perhaps she's right. However, she still...

I would tend to agree. Hopefully the OP didn't respond to her message. I'd just let it drop and move on. Honesty is good, but politeness is just as valuable. Some people just have no filter and don't think about what they say or how they say it. In this case, the young lady was clearly...

I've suggested marriage counseling (sometimes very emphatically), but it doesn't seem like she wants to go that route. We both take antidepressant medication, which I know affects libido. I recently cut my dosage in half, as I tend to experience impotence at times. I think, however, that my...

Good point. I try to keep that in mind every day. I do think that our sexual energy can be redirected to other avenues and released in useful non-sexual ways. However, I think it takes somewhat of a "re-wiring" process to achieve this. Having once been addicted to alcohol, I know a bit about...

Believe me, I understand what you're saying, and I felt the same in my earlier years. Sometimes I wondered if I would ever meet someone I could have a sexual experience with, or who would find me attractive in that way. A lot of it had to do with the fact that I didn't feel sexually attractive...

I was a virgin until the ripe old age of 30 (and 1/2). I felt that it was odd at times, but it was ultimately my choice. There were opportunities for me to lose my virginity before then, and I declined them because they just didn't feel right. The stigma of the "40 Year-Old Virgin" that...

I sounds like she could have been a bit more tactful in her message. Perhaps "it was nice to meet you, but I really don't feel a connection between us" would have been a better way to word it. I can understand you being upset when she says "I don't think you're right for me". Such a statement...

I need some objective advice. Don't really know how to proceed here.... I've been married to a wonderful woman for 14 years. We have three awesome kids and a great family life. She is the love of my life and the most beautiful woman I have ever known. I can't imagine my life without her...