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Well! The thing is you probably aint any more ugly than most of us, cos we sure aint all film stars and models! The problem is you THINK you are ugly and you FEEL diminished. It is  a real symptom of depression as I do know which makes you focus on every tiny negative thing about yourself or the...

Interesting. My problems began when father died, mum was ill, lost home and located to other side of country to live with Gran and sent to awful school! The only way I survived was to go inside my head and I'm still there. I don't think fantasizing is in any way bad - a great coping mechanism -...

Well! I'm old and I'm single and I do regret it when I see folk who have families but.... I also know a large number of folk whose relationships have gone south with all sorts of collateral damage. In some ways I'm glad I'm not involved in the horrible breakups and seeing love turn to hate and...

Well! In for a pound? I guess I'm one of the 16% who annoy the first poster. For a start yes I have been right to the edge of the cliff and down the bottom of the well and I'll probably never be "right" and still have problems. Life's still a struggle but I'm not in despair now and have come to...

Ah! bootiful! You only get one mom and when she passes it's devastating. What with my father dying early and family rows, there was just me, Mom and my prodigal brother. We were very close and I supported her through life's problems. She passed 10 years ago and, of course I miss her but she, her...

Whatever helps you feel better - do it! Talking and sharing helps but don't get into a discussion of how bad everything is, look for some positive. I've been there but trying to help friends who just endlessly seek agreement with how awful everything is doesn't help. I even know someone who...

Yes! What you guys need is help, counselling, maybe medication but someone, perhaps a professional, to help you get out of the situation you are in. And you have to accept that you will have to make an effort and work with them. It's not easy and it's slow but it's essential that you try because...

Yeah! I've been there. A real problem with all anxiety and depression is the constant questioning and analysing "why?" Also we expect to have an interesting social life and be appreciated, even loved and we beat ourselves up if it doesn't work out and then we feel there's something wrong with...

I know exactly where you are coming from; my life was totally disrupted as a child by a parent's death and losing our home. So I grew up not trusting anything and became prey to extreme anxiety and shyness that has impacted on my life since and caused many black episodes and a disconnection from...

Well Chronic sounds pretty pissed off. Why? Because you think a site like this can cure you ...and doesn't? All we can do is swop ideas and suggestions; there aren't any magic solutions and the realisation that this is so is the first step out of the woods. Blame and accusations are just self...

Being lonely, feeling anxious, depressed even feeling angry - well it sure aint fun and one of the characteristics of all this is the obsession with constant thinking about negatives. I'm sure some won't like this but dwelling on how bad it is won't get you anywhere. You have to fight, you have...

Well! You know; sometimes you write something and if you get very few replies, you kind of think no-one is interested so that's why many folk don't continue. Myself, I'd like a discussion but if you look at this section, it seems to be a whole list of folk just listing how awful they feel and, I...

I'm glad my thoughts were appreciated; I had thought some might react by saying "I didn't understand!" But I do, I've been there. Today I went for my prostate cancer checkup - I've had frequent psa (indicator) tests, I've had scans and nasty biopsies (12 needles up yer bum) and it seems it isn't...

I'm almost 70 and alone. Been on my own most of my life; had friends and loved ones die, failed at relationships, had addictions, weight problems, heart operations, being monitored for prostate cancer and experiencing the problems of old age such as arthritis and impaired mobility. I would have...

There isn't a meaning - or a purpose to life and no one has ever found any provable evidence that there is, though it helps the "rulers" to keep folk in check by promising them it will all be great after you're dead so long as you shut up and suffer now - and behave yourselves! I'v'e seen the...

I agree with you Cleanair.  The world is endlessly fascinating and I still want to know more about it and what's going to happen tomorrow.

Me? I'd say there isn't any "meaning of life!" It's all random and biological and often down to luck and opportunity. Thing is it's the longing and wanting and believing we should be rewarded that screws us up - and yeah I know!" But if this aint a rehearsal, just take what comes and enjoy the...

Well Andy. I'm getting on a bit now and yeah, wanted to be in love and loved - tried and got spat out a couple of times and now.... I aint loved, I'm on my own and not in best of health so...? I keep going, is what I do, keep trying to find interesting things to do, or learn; get up, go out, go...

I wouldn't want this thread to be too depressing but rather a place where we can swap ideas of how to cope. I've told you my tale of how I've been messed up early and damaged and its very helpful to know one is not alone and others can relate. Of course one of the key features of depression is...

Counselling? Therapy? Yes, I've seen shrinks of several sorts but not really anyone who has been effective. With funding as it is, there just aren't the people and certainly not the time. And then the quality of the operatives and what they are offering. The last couple of folk I've seen were...