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I use discord a reasonable amount. Would love an invite link please!

My ideal person doesn't exist other than in my imagination. That's good enough for me. I'll go with what works.

We're all damaged to some degree, but it's worth baring in mind that it's often those with more damage that will gravitate to the the 'online' dating scene. Believe me, I've been there, seen it, done it, and sworn well off of it for that reason. You'd be far better off cultivating an amazing...

Me neither, I've never done a cold approach with the intention of anything more than starting a friendly conversation. However, for obvious reasons, I've been treated as though I had ulterior motives.

I don't think love, by its very nature, can be selfish. Selfish love is an oxymoron to me. Silk - I hear you. The question 'does true altruism exist' is a philosophical musing I have pondered often. I do agree with your stance, for the most part. I think it's just the way us humans are wired...

What about those that have learned to love themselves? What is selfish about that love? What about if one does not need love, but is able to give it freely? Is that selfish too?

Of course an environment where one HAS to attend will be vastly different. Work/School/classes of any sort. 'Out in the world' is just that though. Believe me, I've been 'out in the world' all around the world. Of course there are exceptions to every rule, but it still stands that it's tricky...

There's something wrong with all of us Jessicat. No human escapes childhood unscathed, and nothing affects us more in our adult lives than the events of our childhood.

Any relationship this long is going to go through this stage. I would ask; where's the gratitude? So many people want this deep down. If it's gone this far, it's worth working for. To mention that 'separation talks are not yet in the works' without mentioning what has yet been discussed and...

My experience has been quite different. As somebody who talks to anyone, anywhere, I find that the younger and more attractive a female, the more likely she will assume off the bat that you're trying to hit on her. Therefore, insta-shield. I can't blame them, given how many douchebags will...

You've got love confused with chemicals that originate in the brain. Do you not love your parents? Grandparents? Siblings, etc?

I would argue that it's you that's confusing it, and then projecting that confusion onto 'people'. How do you KNOW what you state above?

Not in the slightest. Feeling a feeling does not guarantee that one will act on it, in any human, in any situation. I am, however, suggesting that a 'crush' is to 'love' what cocaine is to enlightenment.

You don't get anything in return for YOUR (Your?) 4th Anniversary, and suddenly you question feeling love for others? Either you're having a massive overreaction, or you're just venting, or you're INCREDIBLY entitled. The world, including everybody in it, doesn't owe you a **** thing OP.

I don't think one can demonstrate it in a manner any different from the one in which one displays any love...? Feeling it though; that was what hit me like a ton of bricks. Happened in one night, although it took me a couple of weeks after to integrate it and figure out what had changed...

I think it's indisputable that man is a social creature; our ancestors roamed the planet for something like 55,000 years - always in groups - and the fact that we are so social and can maintain our groups and bonds is what has led us to be so successful. However I totally get that, as a thought...

Chemicals produced in the brain and body are what compel animals to breed. It's amazing to me how many people get this feeling mixed up with love. That's just following your cultural brainwashing to a T. I say fresia that; think for oneself. Love is the absolute pinnacle of the human condition...

Aside of the fact that by forcing a relationship by playing the numbers game, one will only end up with something more a compromise than a dream. The really good ones only come when we're least expecting them, and not looking for them. OP would do much better to work on himself and learn to be...

That's because a 'crush' does not equate to 'love'. As I said, it is more likely chemicals than anything else.

I find the easiest way to not be boring in this life is to take a passionate and vested interest in the subtleties of the human condition. It's something we all know, can all bond over, and can laugh and cry at the joy and hardships together. It all starts by examining, and being as honest as...