I made some mistakes in the past that ruined my reputation amongst my friends.
What I did was: I moved away from them entirely and built new relationships, made new friends elsewhere.
I know it sounds like a cop-out, but it did work for me.
That's...disturbing ..how they find out where you are and get to you somehow...
I think you should build a friends circle outside of your religion..
This is a good place to do exactly that. Though I'm not sure how much an online friends circle would be able to help you in your current...