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Evidently, it's unlikely you mean that or you wouldn't have adopted your avatar name. Thanks!!

I'm not a "handyman" for others, per se, just for myself. I've been surprised at how much suffering we all endure, but I think the key to riding out this life with some intermittent joy is to keep a hand out and reach, with the other firmly protecting our dignity. As you essentially stated...

How did you help them?? Was it monetary or emotional support or both?? And did they leave you when you actually needed them?? The reason why these questions are important is to discern whether you are giving them a fair shake or if they were truly unworthy. If they were the latter, why did you...

I don't understand why it would be a "pain" to you. Nor, frankly, do I believe you. None of us want to walk this life alone, nor should we. I think there's a difference between friends and acquaintances. For me, I only want deeper connections. I suppose that's the hard part for me but that...

I agree. I think it's a pleasantry, and not something most people regard as a serious question, particularly when posed by strangers or acquaintances versus friends. Thanks!!

It's all a question of the degree within which a person can hurt another. In my experience, people who have had a solid foundation - meaning a loving/nurturing foundation - in their very early years, are better equipped to handle abusive behavior and tend not to internalize it as adults. But...

Perhaps it's time for you to accept that she may be withdrawing from you and your life, and perhaps it's time for you to do the same. You sound like a nice person. If you give yourself half a chance, you'll find the support you need to move on or at least exist independently without so much...

I can sense that you want to help out the seller, but my advice to you is to keep on track with your current dispute. The reason is simple. Sixty bucks. Thanks!!

If I had been strong enough, I would have cut off my family entirely when I was eighteen, but by then, I was so emotionally damaged that I couldn't see who and what they were or the repeated trauma they were causing. I had a cousin who did exactly that - cut off her parents entirely when she was...

Roxiee, I'm going to assume that you're fairly young. People can only devastate you if you aren't centered. If I were to offer you any advice it would be to tell you that your priority - something I didn't learn until later - is to embrace exactly who you are and see yourself as valuable...

Interesting, but I'm not sure that's entirely true. On a personal note, I am a very different person than I was when I was in my twenties. As we age, priorities and points of view can radically change. It only stands to reason, that changes in perspective will impact personality. It's simply...

You don't have to be a man to do that. But seriously, my guess is the guy envied you, hence his remark. Remember "envy is the sincerest form of flattery." Thanks!!

Very true. It's hard work and it takes a long time, but I think it starts by being able to forgive ourselves for being human, tasked to contend with all our vulnerabilities. Thanks!!

I had very difficult parents. They weren't "parenting" material, in as much they were both suffering from what we now term narcissistic personality disorder. They were, however, exceedingly bright. That made it even more difficult for their offspring, given that they could be highly...

I believe the level of violence during the 19th century and even during the Middle Ages is exaggerated. Up until WWII, humanity didn't even have reliable antibiotics. Longevity and the survival of family were predicated on avoiding violent conflicts that brought about infection. Just as the...

It's not technology per se that is making people "stupid, spoiled and lazy." Rather it's the destruction of smaller communities and within them, small businesses that tended to act as a bonding agent. Large corporate entities rely on rules rather than self-reliance and the necessity of...