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Hi there. I'm really glad things turned around for you and that you held on in there. As I continue to mention in this thread, I am still not looking for "The Right Girl" (or any other phrasing) and generally just want to be found attractive by more people than zero.

See, I don't want to call 'bullshirt', it just seems like an odd move that anyone in these forums is hanging out at swanky rooftop bars and has no issue approaching a group of random attractive women, asking if they want to join them. Maybe it's a cultural thing, in the UK that's just not a move...

Right... ballpark figure here sparky, how many times would you say you've been at a swanky rooftop bar, and approached a group of attractive strangers whom you've never spoken to before, to ask one of them out?

Right, but whatever it is, there's an audience, something is done to you in front of several others, that in some way lowers their perception of you. Someone who is already not going to go out with you, she's already made that up in her mind, telling that to you because you asked, does not fit...

I can only speak from my own experience; I felt that Unsigned was speaking for all of us when he said that being rejected is humiliating, which has not been my experience. That is to say, whilst I am being rejected at a depressing rate, I don't consider it "humiliation". Humiliation is public...

Speak for yourself, bud. I've got a rejection rate of **** near 100%, but I've never felt "public humiliation" as you describe it. Largely, because I tend to ask people out in a more one-to-one setting. Yes, hot guys have it easier, it's hardly a newsflash, but this idea that ugly people, and...

I understand it's hard to take my word for it, but I honestly don't believe I'm only talking to shallow women, they really are from all different walks of life with different personalities and mindsets, personally I just believe that women wanting a man who embodies "The Full Package" includes...

Absolutely not. Hand/eye coordination is a learned skill. We all start with a baseline of next to zero, we're flailing babies, and it is developed over time. Children who take up sports and physical activities have far better coordination than those who do not, you might say that being forced...

I'm sure we've had this before, but there really is no such thing as 'talent' as in a magical gift you're born with. Tiger Woods isn't Tiger Woods because he's naturally better at golf than anyone, he's like that because his dad (also a pro golfer) put a golf club in his hands at 18 months old...

That's certainly an interesting one for you, what exactly about yourself do you think is insufficiently masculine to compete in today's dating game? Really, as society becomes more gender-neutral, a man no longer has to be the burly protector or the breadwinner to do well for himself, I know...

Yes, that's basically the mindset that is resonating with me, and I hate that it does. Most of my friends are moderately attractive to very attractive, and they don't believe me when I tell them it's a different world out there for me. Right, for the record I've got no confidence issues...

If it's a choice, it sure ain't my choice, it's theirs! 😂 Honestly, it feels like that entire reply was written by ChatGPT.

I'm really glad that change in approach has worked for you, my dude! I suppose my question to you would be; what would you do if you did those things, and it still achieved the same results? Like, that's where I'm at. Socially confident, in good shape, no issues making friends or asking women...

So, I've posted here a fair bit over the last year. I believe I'm a fairly 'average' guy, am in good physical shape, socially confident, I have hobbies and interests and earn a decent living. Nothing spectacular, nothing terrible. Problem is, I've never had a girlfriend, and very extremely...

I suppose for myself, the painful truth I had to accept, is that I'm not going to get a woman interested in me just by existing, which happens to most people I know. People I know can just show up to work somewhere, and within a couple of weeks they'll have a date with a co-worker. They can...

I feel like you're not really asking me these questions, and if you are, how the hell you'd expect me to know such intimate details of a friend's life is beyond me. I'm sorry the above things obviously happened to you, but this isn't a "Victimhood Olypmics" here, two people can both have...

I do agree that both sides come with their own set of problems. I know a girl who constantly gets bothered because she's pretty. She's not the typical "hot girl" type, she's just very petite and naturally pretty, dresses very casually. She'll be walking to work and have cars slowing down and...

We still get on personality-wise, I guess we've just prioritised different things? Some have prioritised their career, or starting a new family, and let their health & wellbeing take a backseat. Growing up ugly & unwanted, I've had to make my health & wellbeing take a front seat in an attempt to...

So, this is a slightly unique one, but I can't be the only one. I'm 31 now, with most of my friends being similar ages. I spent my 20s taking care of myself, eating reasonably healthy and exercising regularly. I also like to party on weekends. My friends did not, many are overweight and do not...

It's true, they do, my point was just to get everything in writing, as then they have no deniability. Too often at my work, we can have an informal talk about something serious, then weeks later they can deny all knowledge of it. I'm now doing a fair amount of communication via email, which is...