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hugs right back at ya :) I actually find more solace in the realization that there is no God. I used to be Christian, but eventually I realized that if this place was actually cooked up by a thinking being he'd be one seriously sadistic lunatic. The world really only makes sense to me when I...

Catharsis, that was absolutely prophetic, very well put, thank you. That is precisely the problem, the menu of people that I have to be around just isn't what I want. I should spend more time seeking out people that I would truly enjoy being around, quit comparing myself to every person I meet...

Totally agree in theory, but in practice that little devil just refuses to go away. It helps to seek out people who are sorta similar and are doing well and take solice in that. My aunt is sortof my hero, she's had a great career but spent basically her whole life single and living alone in a...

Maybe you have ADD or something, there are ways of coping with it and still doing well in school (even without drugs). When I was in college I honestly could never listen to the lectures, they would just go in one ear and out the other as I sat there daydreaming or mindlessly dictating what I...

You're 20, most people feel that way when they're 20, it's the most stressful time in your life. You're just out of high school, maybe in college, maybe working, maybe both, you're in a state of independence limbo where you're still dependent on family for some things but are also making...

Thanks for the replies. I realize that post was really unfair. I should really delete it. What can you say to the guy who's basically daring you to give him a reason to kill himself? How messed up and selfish is that? Sorry about that, I was drunk and when I'm drunk I turn into a sad and macabre...

I'm sitting here yet again, half a bottle of wine down, two klonopin down, waiting for my anxiety attack to abate. I feel like I'm too old to still have to be doing this. I wish I either had the wisdom to figure some way out of the hellhole I'm in, or the strength to accept that it's hopeless...

Relative to my own personal existence I'd say people are overrated. I'm the dreamer of my reality and most of the time people just muck things up for me. But in general I think people are basically good.

Well you've got a community of people rooting for you man, best of luck and keep us posted!

I've gotten the same vibe from people. I think it's because all people are basically lazy (you and me too, let's not kid ourselves) and regard shy people as requiring more "effort" to be around. People instinctively interpret shyness as fragility, and out of compassion they feel like they have...

If the intent is to arouse, then yes. If the intent is therapeutic then no.

Just be careful you don't get emotionally attached to these girls (a tip might be more practical than a bouquet of flowers). Sex workers are basically actors who prey on lonely men. If you've got the cash it can be a fun thing to do, as long as you're mindful that it's just a job to them (no...

That is so beautifully put, I feel exactly the same way. The greatest gift a person can have is the ability to create their own happiness. This Halloween was the first in five years that I actually felt a little self conscious about being alone, mostly because my younger, hipper friend made a...

I understand the spirit of what you're trying to convey, that you have to accept a certain amount of mistakes on any given path you choose, and that learning from those mistakes is what helps you reach your goal. I've actually heard something similar from a psychiatrist I saw a few years back...

Yea I think it's an evolutionary tactic that keeps us from danger. When faced with an unknown, we magnify what little info we have so that we can feel like we have some control, and that makes the unknown feel less threatening. It's a lazy way of feeling safe that hurts more than it helps...

Believe me I feel your pain, I work at a major engineering company and I'm surrounded by some of the biggest dickheads on earth, and the more expensive the school they came from, the more acidic and impregnable their egos are. I think part of the reason I hate being thought of as an engineer is...

I'm not sure anyone on the forum is from Indonesia. It's a shame, because you sound like a real sweetheart! Don't feel bad about not having had a boyfriend yet, one of my dearest friends is still a virgin at 35 and she's one of the happiest and most secure people I know.

Most importantly she has to be compassionate and understanding. That mixed in with some common interests and mutual respect is all I need. Any other barriers wear down over time. I've found that even if the physical attraction isn't immediately striking, it grows over time as you get to know...

Just curious. I still know so few people out here. I'm a 33 year old Phoenix, AZ native who's never really seen water before, or this strange color the locals call.. "green"? Am I spelling that correctly? I'm used to all life having thorns, pinchers, or scales. There are leaves on plants up...

Thanks :). I don't think I realized how much I needed to hear that. I think my heart's a little like a bathroom rug, it indiscriminately absorbs everything that touches it, it tends to make me a little uncomfortable around people I don't know (and who I can't tell if they're being folksy or cruel).