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Thank you for replying. I agree that we all have issues and it's not a competition.  E and I both have issues because of narcissistic abuse from our families.  So I have tried very hard to be compassionate and empathetic and considerate towards her.  This last month, I've been cranky because...

Thank you very much for the response. I've been thinking about this, and I'm starting to realize there are some disturbing parallels between E and one of my sisters – the most toxic and abusive of all my sisters.  To be fair, both E and my sister suffered terrible verbal and emotional abuse as...

Thank you! It really helps to hear you say these things. Right now I just feel so triggered and unwanted and defective -- and every little bit of reassurance helps. So thank you for taking a moment to help a stranger.

Did I post this in the wrong forum? Is this section just about romantic relationships? Seriously any reply would mean so much even if it's really short. I feel so defective and unlovable and I have nobody :(

I'm trying so hard to believe I'm not a defective person.  I'm trying to believe there is not something horribly wrong with me.  I try so hard to be nice to people, and considerate, and empathetic, but I don't understand why people don't like me. I grew up in a very dysfunctional narcissistic...

In a word, no. Solitude can be good. I'd even go so far as to say some degree of solitude is very beneficial. And I agree that it's much better to be alone than to be in bad company. Sadly, the world is full of selfish, self-absorbed, and abusive people – and nobody should ever put up with...

Hi Northern Lights, Boy, can I ever relate to what you said. Well, not the part about racism, because I'm white. And not the part about finding a partner, because I'm still alone. But the rest of it, absolutely yes, I understand how you feel. I was also in a deep emotional hole just a few...

YES!!!  I've tried to make my peace with being alone, but it sucks.  Especially now that I'm in my fifties and my health is starting to fail.  I've heard, and read, again and again that loneliness is bad for our health, and I believe that is true. When things are going well, I don't mind the...

Usually when I sit through truly bad film, it's because that film is part of a franchise I love. The Godfather Part 3 springs to mind. But for me the undisputed king of all bad franchise films is The Phantom Menace.

No, I don't have a single friend right now. I had one good friend, but he died years ago. I tried to be friends with his wife, but she never liked me and dropped all contact after he died. I thought I had made two real-life friends who cared about me, and that meant more to me than I can even...

I'm sorry you're having such a rough time. I can really relate to what you said at the top of this thread. For a very long time, I was mostly OK with being alone. Then suddenly, I wasn't. It all crashed in on me and the emptiness was devastating. Then I managed to crawl out of the muck and make...

I definitely have problems with shyness, social anxiety, and low self-esteem, and have my whole life. But I also think I've had some significant improvement over the last year. I can't afford therapy so I've had to make do without and I can tell you what I think has helped me lately. Mainly...

33. My score probably would have been better a few weeks ago. I'm going through a real rough patch. Thanks for finding this.

Speaking for myself, I don't tell ANYONE in my real life how lonely I am. Almost everyone in my family is toxic and they don't want to hear anything about me, let alone be supportive. I have managed to make a handful of casual friends, but they are still only casual friends and I don't want to...

Traveling sounds like a wonderful option for helping with loneliness. Unfortunately, that is not a possibility for me right now. I'm stuck here. Most of the time, I'm OK with being alone. But there are times when it really gets to me and becomes very difficult. 1) When I'm sick. 2) When...

Pretty much my entire life, yeah. And I'm middle-aged. I'm really trying to fight that feeling now. I'm trying to act as my own therapist (since I can't afford one) and figure out where this feeling came from. It's easy to tell myself that I'm not a loser and I shouldn't feel that way anymore...

To mintymint, Scotsman, Edward W, and 9006 -- thank you so much for the welcomes. To ladyforsaken -- Yes, I've been lurking here awhile and there's some very nice people here. I'm looking forward to getting to know you all better. I guess it's pretty typical for siblings who are far apart in...

I understand what you're saying but, it's complicated. Family always is. I could go on about them for pages and pages...but I'll spare you. There is a lot of dysfunction. I don't exempt myself from that, I'm no angel, but I do think that as the youngest I've been on the receiving end more than...

Used to go to the movies alone all the time. Stopped doing it just because my finances got bad, so now I wait for the DVD and watch movies alone in my house. But I'm thinking of going to a movie alone on my birthday later this month. That will be my big treat of the day. Money aside, going to a...

About a seven...I can tolerate being alone for long stretches at a time, and even need to have a certain amount of alone time. But there are days when I feel like I would sell my soul just to have somebody to go out to lunch with, or have somebody call just because they want to talk to me, or to...