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Anyone else feel like they are always the one that doesn't belong?
#51
I used to feel that way but now I've matured and outgrown that feeling.
#52
I'm 20, and I understand where you're coming from. I am at that age where I am starting to want relationships and things like that. But I realize that can never be, and use my time for other things. Smile
#53
I don't feel like belonging anywhere. So why bother longing for relationships?
If you think you want relationships, then try until you find one. I think you can find one someday.
#54
Belonging depends - some people need to belong. Be a part of a group. But others do not. Of course I wished that things were different - that I'd grown up with the vibrant social life that most have. But I feel like I'm too far set in my ways to be worried about it.
To quote a popular werewolf film - 'Everyone's cursed.  It's called life'
#55
I feel the same Hewhowalksalone. 
Think some traits is burned so deep inside of me that they are not going to change. Trust issues and the battle within myself will never let me connect with someone as easy as it should be. This Christmas and New Year’s Eve was just another example of that. My bf and I had some of his friends over, I made dinner, we had a few drinks, we laughed and had a decent time. Yet, I don’t feel like I fit in. 
Since I was very young I have felt like I don’t belong in this life, that I was supposed to die. Now I’m just a ghost of something I was supposed to be and I have to carry that with me every day. Looking at life with this inability to be myself cause I’m not what I was supposed to be. I’m changed against my will. I think this will be a critical battle for me. Can I get to the point where I see myself and not his taint on me.
#56
We are the same. Smile
To quote a popular werewolf film - 'Everyone's cursed.  It's called life'
#57
I've only read the last couple of posts cause I have to go to work.But I felt this way for a very long time right through school and on to my 20s to 40s.Even with the few friends I've made a long the way I could only be close to them ,I never really fitted into a group.Ive been part of a group of lads for 25 years now ,we have a games night about once a month but even though we have the usual banter I still don't feel part of the group bit of a outsider after all this time.

But weirdly this year I seem to have turned it around.Someone I've known through my wife for 15 years they have always been friends but only about twice a year that I saw her has become a really good friend.She really gets me gets my weird sense of humour and I really feel like I've got a real friend at last.We all go out together a lot now and she often jokes with my wife that I'm her best friend now and not my wife,all banter of course because they are more like sisters.But it's such a nice experience being able to be myself and still feel I'm not pushing this friend away.

So all I'm saying is it can change for you ,just like it has for me you just have to meet the right people something my social anxiety had always put a block on.
#58
Kind of. Outside of directional purposes, I try not to think in groups.  For one thing, I have underdeveloped social skills, and for another thing I'm quite eccentric. When you're a creative person, you don't really fit in anywhere, which is one of the cons of it. Though admittedly, I wouldn't change being creative for anything, either.
#59
Do not let this feeling of being different trouble you too deeply.

Consider.  Look around.  

Are most people stupid, lazy, cowardly, shallow, dishonest, conformist?

Is it so bad to be different?

Perhaps not.  

Read.  Find the most "different" people that have lived.

Would you like to try to change things the way they did?

Would you actually like your life to have mattered at all?

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(01-07-2019, 09:12 PM)Jessicat Wrote: I feel the same Hewhowalksalone. 
Think some traits is burned so deep inside of me that they are not going to change. Trust issues and the battle within myself will never let me connect with someone as easy as it should be. This Christmas and New Year’s Eve was just another example of that. My bf and I had some of his friends over, I made dinner, we had a few drinks, we laughed and had a decent time. Yet, I don’t feel like I fit in. 
Since I was very young I have felt like I don’t belong in this life, that I was supposed to die. Now I’m just a ghost of something I was supposed to be and I have to carry that with me every day. Looking at life with this inability to be myself cause I’m not what I was supposed to be. I’m changed against my will. I think this will be a critical battle for me. Can I get to the point where I see myself and not his taint on me.


Well, it seems to me that the only answer is to do something exceptional.

Prove that you are different for a purpose.   Fitting in means you are meaningless and worthless.

Be more. Demand more.  

None of this revolting "change your attitude" garbage.   DO SOMETHING exceptional.

Even if that only means you strap a bomb to your body and go create justice somewhere.

Make your difference count.  Make your difference matter.

Do good? Build a hospital?  Sure, sure.  Shovel some more sand hopelesly  against the tide if you
think that means being exceptional.

Or actually remove actual evil from the Earth forever.

Imagine how much difference that would make, imagine how you will be forever remembered 
as so much better than the rest.

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#60
Was considering replying you in emojis. Hmm. 
I decided against it. 🤪

Yes, I get your point. 
Really sure you want to send me out to cause mayhem and destruction?
*start to make a very special belt* 
😂
Ahh. I think I’m in a goofy mood today.


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