Kenneth Johnson
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I'm not shy when I'm with my friends, but when I'm alone talking to people I get shy, and I hate talking over the phone, any suggestions? :l
BrassMonkey said:You're not shy when you're with your friends because you're comfortable and not afraid of them judging you. Try to clear you mind of any negative or obsessive thoughts like "what do they think of me" or "what should I say". Relax, act like you do when your with friends. Don't hold yourself back from saying what you want. If you start to feel shy, stop for a moment. Breathe. Reassure yourself that there is no reason to be shy. Listen closely to the conversation and engage yourself in it. If you are actively listening and participating in the conversation, that's where your mind's focus is and it won't have time to process the thoughts that cause you to be shy.
As far as talking on the phone, nobody can make you like it but yourself. I don't really like talking over the phone either so I minimize my time on it. I call friends when I need to contact them quickly and find out where they are or something. Any long conversations I dislike, but I do it anyway because I know it will make the other person happy. Understand that the person is just trying to reach out to you and the least you can do is listen to what they have to say. You don't have to stay on the phone forever. Politely end the conversation and you're free.
Lol. Brass monkey junkie, that funky monkey!EveWasFramed said:BrassMonkey said:You're not shy when you're with your friends because you're comfortable and not afraid of them judging you. Try to clear you mind of any negative or obsessive thoughts like "what do they think of me" or "what should I say". Relax, act like you do when your with friends. Don't hold yourself back from saying what you want. If you start to feel shy, stop for a moment. Breathe. Reassure yourself that there is no reason to be shy. Listen closely to the conversation and engage yourself in it. If you are actively listening and participating in the conversation, that's where your mind's focus is and it won't have time to process the thoughts that cause you to be shy.
As far as talking on the phone, nobody can make you like it but yourself. I don't really like talking over the phone either so I minimize my time on it. I call friends when I need to contact them quickly and find out where they are or something. Any long conversations I dislike, but I do it anyway because I know it will make the other person happy. Understand that the person is just trying to reach out to you and the least you can do is listen to what they have to say. You don't have to stay on the phone forever. Politely end the conversation and you're free.
All I can think of at the moment is Beastie Boys, lol, sorry.
BrassMonkey said:Lol. Brass monkey junkie, that funky monkey!EveWasFramed said:BrassMonkey said:You're not shy when you're with your friends because you're comfortable and not afraid of them judging you. Try to clear you mind of any negative or obsessive thoughts like "what do they think of me" or "what should I say". Relax, act like you do when your with friends. Don't hold yourself back from saying what you want. If you start to feel shy, stop for a moment. Breathe. Reassure yourself that there is no reason to be shy. Listen closely to the conversation and engage yourself in it. If you are actively listening and participating in the conversation, that's where your mind's focus is and it won't have time to process the thoughts that cause you to be shy.
As far as talking on the phone, nobody can make you like it but yourself. I don't really like talking over the phone either so I minimize my time on it. I call friends when I need to contact them quickly and find out where they are or something. Any long conversations I dislike, but I do it anyway because I know it will make the other person happy. Understand that the person is just trying to reach out to you and the least you can do is listen to what they have to say. You don't have to stay on the phone forever. Politely end the conversation and you're free.
All I can think of at the moment is Beastie Boys, lol, sorry.
Kenneth Johnson said:I'm not shy when I'm with my friends, but when I'm alone talking to people I get shy, and I hate talking over the phone, any suggestions? :l
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