futurecatlady
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Does anyone else really, really hate it when people say that? Or some variation, like "Men are trouble. You're better off single" or "Trust me, you're the lucky one." I find it so insufferably patronizing. Sorry bub, being alone my whole life does not make me better off, and if your boy is really that much trouble, feel free to dump him and join me in my palace of good fortune.
I was having dinner with friends the other day, some of whom are like me and perpetually single, and others who have/had boyfriends. The single ones were being admittedly sappy and naive with talks of love songs and wondering if we will ever feel that spark. In the midst of our cooing, one non-lonely member of the group just had to pipe in with, "Hahaha, while you are thinking that relationships are so wonderful, we know the truth, am I right? Screw love, right?" and the other one emphatically nodded.
I love my friends, but it took a lot of effort to keep myself from choking the both of them.
I really can't stand people acting so weary and war-torn, as if they are the wise elder and I am an innocent child who is dreaming of a fairy land. I know as much as the next person that relationships are a lot of work, and I've seen the devastation that a broken heart can cause. Of course I don't think that love is made out of unicorns and magic; I just hold the relatively uncontroversial belief that it beats coming home to an empty house every night. Telling me that I'm better off without love is like yelling "Money doesn't buy happiness, you know!" to starving children in India while driving around in a Mercedes. It's, like, 110% true, but a moot point when you're talking to people who have nothing.
Anyway, WOW I am going to shut up before I am drawn and quartered for boring the eyeballs off every hapless visitor to this thread. Sorry for yet another obscenely long post.
EDIT: And by boring I mean yawn-boring, not like some sort of violent assault.
I was having dinner with friends the other day, some of whom are like me and perpetually single, and others who have/had boyfriends. The single ones were being admittedly sappy and naive with talks of love songs and wondering if we will ever feel that spark. In the midst of our cooing, one non-lonely member of the group just had to pipe in with, "Hahaha, while you are thinking that relationships are so wonderful, we know the truth, am I right? Screw love, right?" and the other one emphatically nodded.
I love my friends, but it took a lot of effort to keep myself from choking the both of them.
I really can't stand people acting so weary and war-torn, as if they are the wise elder and I am an innocent child who is dreaming of a fairy land. I know as much as the next person that relationships are a lot of work, and I've seen the devastation that a broken heart can cause. Of course I don't think that love is made out of unicorns and magic; I just hold the relatively uncontroversial belief that it beats coming home to an empty house every night. Telling me that I'm better off without love is like yelling "Money doesn't buy happiness, you know!" to starving children in India while driving around in a Mercedes. It's, like, 110% true, but a moot point when you're talking to people who have nothing.
Anyway, WOW I am going to shut up before I am drawn and quartered for boring the eyeballs off every hapless visitor to this thread. Sorry for yet another obscenely long post.
EDIT: And by boring I mean yawn-boring, not like some sort of violent assault.