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The-One

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I'm surprised because no one ever says another person is ugly or unattractive. It's all "oh you look lovely, so cool, can't see any problems whatsoever".

Everyone here is single and horny, yes? All the virgin threads and where's a nice guy threads?

Surely the cost of petrol for a tryst would still be less than say an hr from an escort who do outcalls.

Why hasn't ALonelyLife evolved into a massive free for all sex fest?
 
I'm single, but I'm not horny. You're over-simplifying things from your point of view of what people should do.
 
Because it's about attraction. I doubt anyone here wants someone to be with them out of pity. That's not why you should be with someone.
 
First off the mark---some of us are married or involved with SO's and not looking for a Sex-A-Thon but seeking interesting communication on a deeper and more enriching level than what we find in our local areas. Others have issues they want to vent but can't in their everyday world so they seek the anonimity of the internet. Lonliness goes way beyond wanting to get layed.... Folks may not go around insulting each others looks because maybe,... just maybe the person looking is seeing something a more shallow person might miss...
 
The-One said:
Why hasn't ALonelyLife evolved into a massive free for all sex fest?


For starters, this is not a dating site. If this were just a site filled with single horny folk whose sole aim is to get laid, then I'm sure it would have potential to rival FuckBuddies.com. As it is, there are people on here who might be more interested in a meaningful long-term relationship. There are also people on here who are in committed relationships but who are still looking for another level of connection with people.

You could probably start up a match-making thread here, though I don't know how long it would stay open.
 
attraction is key. its not as simple as Im a male, your a female, lets do it.

plus people are crazy here :) seriously, its a forum dedicated to lonelyness, so ofcourse a common factor of being here is to be polite and friendly to members. But once your face to face, its a different arena. And no, its not so attractive to girls that your lonely and may find it wacko to date anyone here. Sorry to sound blunt but, Im pretty sure they rather have a superman come save them from their lonesome than a Clark Kent.

But Im up for a hook up, anyone want to date me, Im weird and lonely and feel bad about life!!! Even though Im depressed, Im sure we can have fun together, huh like being depressed together. lol

No it doesnt work like that.
 
Assumptions indeed. Yea, I'm single. But I want to be. I don't want to be bothered with being with anyone right now. I'm not horny either.
 
SophiaGrace said:
I'm single, but I'm not horny.
Oxymoron much? I mean, come on, people are not plants.

Nina said:
First off the mark---some of us are married or involved with SO's and not looking for a Sex-A-Thon

What's a "SO"?
 
The-One said:
SophiaGrace said:
I'm single, but I'm not horny.
Oxymoron much? I mean, come on, people are not plants.

It's how I feel 90% of the time, if not more.

Some people have low sex drives believe it or not. They're just not interested, even though there could be a small spark of sex-drive within them somewhere. These people are just on the opposite end of those who mastrubate all day and have constant erections ect.

Is that so hard to conceptualize?

Others are asexual in orientation, some people just aren't interested in sex, but yet crave emotional intimacy with others. They're called romantic asexuals. Aromantic asexuals, dont have a desire for emotional intimacy, but would prefer all their relations to be platonic in nature.

Now, where is my watering can, pot of dirt and patch of sunlight? (UN)
 
The-One said:
SophiaGrace said:
I'm single, but I'm not horny.
Oxymoron much? I mean, come on, people are not plants.

Nina said:
First off the mark---some of us are married or involved with SO's and not looking for a Sex-A-Thon

What's a "SO"?



Uhh, how is that an oxymoron? Not everyone lives for sex, breathes sex, or thinks about sex... I'm sorry that you do. Not everyone is like that.

And SO means significant other.
 
Also, another thing has occured to me. People who have been sexually abused tend to have a lot of difficulty trusting people, and it might scar them in ways that prevent them from wanting to engage in sexual activities and/or having relationships. I can easily see how they may feel lonely though. Wanting so badly to be close to people, but, not being able to trust or build relationships.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Little_Albert_experiment <= great example of Classical Conditioning that applies to what I said above.
 
SophiaGrace said:
Also, another thing has occured to me. People who have been sexually abused tend to have a lot of difficulty trusting people, and it might scar them in ways that prevent them from wanting to engage in sexual activities and/or having relationships. I can easily see how they may feel lonely though. Wanting so badly to be close to people, but, not being able to trust or build relationships.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Little_Albert_experiment <= great example of Classical Conditioning that applies to what I said above.

This too greatly effects me. It is probably my biggest set-back in relationships.
 
This reply is in reference to the title of this posting, not the disgusting
honeysuckle the OP advocated in his explanation.

Well, here's my top 5 reasons for not actually pursuing DATING on here, among others:

1) I am gay (not stereotypically) and 99.9% percent of you all are not
2) Most people here are VERY long distance
3) I am not in the position to be in a relationship right now
because of things going on in my life that need some sorting out,
but if I happened upon someone who somehow made me
forget all of that, perhaps my mind would change
4) I'm not in desperation, as some people on here honestly seem to be
for a relationship
5) Been there, done that- pretty jaded about relationships after a failed
engagement
 

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