burndownmyhouse
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Probably the only reason I have had any success over the last year and a half is the fact that I have been watching him. I have learned a substantial amount about myself and our collective mind. It has helped me in more ways than I can imagine and has become a source of both rage and optimism. Even my family has changed since he has come around. The power of babies I guess because alcoholism and cancer didn't seem to stir any of us much.
I remember being so unsure of myself that I never even held him for the first two/three months. Something I don't regret since I've held him a million times now, but I feel as if that was some other person. How foolishly foolish. I have actual hands, capable of touch, capable of being helpful. I can actually see emotions from others, I can read them, I can feel them. I do not need words to express myself to others, the wall that all who are shy run into repeatedly like birds to glass.
I have helped myself because of him, for me.
How in the world could I possibly help him if I can't help myself?
This is the portion that makes me happy.
The portion that makes me unhappy is knowing that this is what is possible from experiencing being a man. How fantastical is just the thought alone of someone caring half as much about me, especially knowing now that I am able to reciprocate it, possibly. That is all wonderful, what isn't is that I can do this for a child, but a woman near my own age I feel more like my nephew than his uncle.
I'm fiercely ashamed of myself for doing this, but I've been trying to use my nephew to meet women. I get so angry because for the first time I think I actually understand at least some semblance of maleness and unless I am misinterpreting it (likely), I don't like what I see. Women get treated like total dogs, everything they do is thankless. I love my nephew but he doesn't give fresia one about how I feel or what I want and is essentially like everyone I've ever bitched about. But he wants me to hold him.
Is all that bullshit about talking down to them true? To think I just thought guys were ******* ********, I guess we're just supposed to be. I had the chance to treat women like honeysuckle when I actually really didn't give a **** at all about their feelings, but I failed even myself in that mind set. Now I can actually relate to them and there can't possibly be any other reaction other than high pitched squeals on their wierdo detectors.
So far at the very least I learned how to make some wonderful cheyenne bell pepper medleys from an older woman at the grocery store.
No more eating just ramen alone in my dreams now!
I remember being so unsure of myself that I never even held him for the first two/three months. Something I don't regret since I've held him a million times now, but I feel as if that was some other person. How foolishly foolish. I have actual hands, capable of touch, capable of being helpful. I can actually see emotions from others, I can read them, I can feel them. I do not need words to express myself to others, the wall that all who are shy run into repeatedly like birds to glass.
I have helped myself because of him, for me.
How in the world could I possibly help him if I can't help myself?
This is the portion that makes me happy.
The portion that makes me unhappy is knowing that this is what is possible from experiencing being a man. How fantastical is just the thought alone of someone caring half as much about me, especially knowing now that I am able to reciprocate it, possibly. That is all wonderful, what isn't is that I can do this for a child, but a woman near my own age I feel more like my nephew than his uncle.
I'm fiercely ashamed of myself for doing this, but I've been trying to use my nephew to meet women. I get so angry because for the first time I think I actually understand at least some semblance of maleness and unless I am misinterpreting it (likely), I don't like what I see. Women get treated like total dogs, everything they do is thankless. I love my nephew but he doesn't give fresia one about how I feel or what I want and is essentially like everyone I've ever bitched about. But he wants me to hold him.
Is all that bullshit about talking down to them true? To think I just thought guys were ******* ********, I guess we're just supposed to be. I had the chance to treat women like honeysuckle when I actually really didn't give a **** at all about their feelings, but I failed even myself in that mind set. Now I can actually relate to them and there can't possibly be any other reaction other than high pitched squeals on their wierdo detectors.
So far at the very least I learned how to make some wonderful cheyenne bell pepper medleys from an older woman at the grocery store.
No more eating just ramen alone in my dreams now!