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Luna
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When I look at my 13-year old brother, I see a broken, tormented, younger me. I know the pain that my family feels when they try to help me, but can't. This pain, I am familiar with, because it is what I feel when I try to help my youngest brother, and fail each time.
My older brother and I will work together to try to cheer him up, but he responds only either with silence, "yes" or "no". I encouraged him to join Cadets - he was bullied shortly after and will not be returning.
Recently, he was registered for guitar lessons in hopes that it would spark a passion in him, but it did not. I have watched him act towards others - like me - nice, friendly, gentle...but people reject or push him away.
Simply put, they just don't like him.
While my older brother and I are close to him, he did not really "grow up" with us since we both moved out while he was young. He is very secretive...won't say anything more than a sentence. I didn't find out about the ******** until I saw a bunch of those *******, racist, useless, trash, maggot-sucking, poorly-parented CHILDREN bragging on his Facetrash wall about how they punched him in the hallway this morning just now. As expected from our quality generation of "children of the future", they also joked about how he is likely/ and should commit suicide, and called him a faggot. I wouldn't be surprised if they also found it funny that our father died while we were young. My lil brother did not answer my phone call (as always), so I sent him a message there and am going to visit him tomorrow after he is (hopefully) well-rested.
These bullies...they look like kids. Hell, they are kids! Kids are so cruel!
People tend to overlook kid bullies, but these kid bullies grow up to be adult bullies who fresia your livelihood should you have the misfortune of ever working with them.
Other than my older brother and me, talking to the rest of my family is like talking to a brick wall. They try to have it laid out to us that it is normal to be bullied because:
"Everyone here looks down on Chinese people."
"Even Chinese don't like Chinese."
"People help their own people first."
"In the West, they hate us."
"Don't even try to befriend or date Western people. They only know how to use us...they always go to their own people in the end."
(The dating bit - sorry - I kind of agree)
"We were bullied too...no big deal."
"It's a part of growing up."
No wonder my brothers and I never turned to them for help, because they don't understand. From personal experience, informing the teachers does nothing but simply give them extra paperwork to add to their records about you and put you on watch. The bullies may get suspended for a day or two, but it doesn't prevent them from bullying you inside/ outside of the school areas, harassing you when you're alone, or even make up for the horrific pang of loneliness as you watch your peers enjoy their youth while you are suffering at a distance by yourself.
Even the teachers - they tire of hearing from you again and again.
I can't wait until tomorrow morning where my older brother and I will show up on his doorstep like vengeful, blood-thirsty wolves.
He's quite co-operative... (Or possibly scared of us)
Buttt...
#1. We're going to force his ass to the gym to work out. Build some muscle on his scrawny self and learn self-defense.
^^^ While it would be great to have him knock out his bullies old-school style, it doesn't work that way. Kids nowadays get their hands on guns, knives and travel in packs. All I can imagine, is my little brother being circled and his head smashed into the ground. He has a device in his brain (I forgot what it's called), that keeps the blood flowing. If he hurts his head...I don't know if he'll live. The doctors said he would be handicapped, but he is completely healthy - they said it was a miracle.
******* nurse dropped him...******* butter-fingered b**ch!!!
Gave my mom PTSD!!! FUUUUUUUUUCCCC-
#2. I'm going to see what else is happening from him directly; I'll fight him (I'll sit on him, or something) to get the information out at this point. Try the teachers, have my older brother try the brats or maybe switch schools. What I have noticed in bullying cases is that if you put it to the media, the kids tend to back off because even *they*, care about how the rest of the public perceives them. Anyone hear about the bullied Drayton Valley 13-year old boy who showed up on Oprah? Suddenly his classmates "realized that bullying is bad"...OHEMGEE! RLY???
#3. He will occasionally state things like "I wish I weren't Chinese...I wish I were _________" I'm sure you know which race goes in the blank, but my resentful me is going to leave it as is. Keep it to yourself. It isn't because that race is superior, but rather, it is natural to want to "belong" or "fit in" with the others, otherwise you are an outcast and suffer. It took me a long time to realize that it isn't my race that is the problem; it's the prejudice of others.
Now, a suggestion we received from our family doctor was for us to "hang out" with the Chinese community to try to develop friendships. I quickly learned that, well, with us not learning Mandarin or Cantonese (we speak something else)...even the Chinese people look down at us.
We're a bunch of ******* outcasts I tell you! Outcasts!
"Really? You don't speak Chinese and you call yourself a Chinese?"
"What kind of Chinese are you?!"
-insert snobbish, dirty look here-
-group of FOBs collect together, and snicker while looking at you-
FFS...even in China, I could see the disapproving looks on their faces when I spoke in English to them. I refuse to work in front-line positions, otherwise all the Chinese people line up for me, insult me for not speaking Chinese when uh, national languages of Canada are English and French.
But anyway...
fresia the world and I want blood!!! 8D
My older brother and I will work together to try to cheer him up, but he responds only either with silence, "yes" or "no". I encouraged him to join Cadets - he was bullied shortly after and will not be returning.
Recently, he was registered for guitar lessons in hopes that it would spark a passion in him, but it did not. I have watched him act towards others - like me - nice, friendly, gentle...but people reject or push him away.
Simply put, they just don't like him.
While my older brother and I are close to him, he did not really "grow up" with us since we both moved out while he was young. He is very secretive...won't say anything more than a sentence. I didn't find out about the ******** until I saw a bunch of those *******, racist, useless, trash, maggot-sucking, poorly-parented CHILDREN bragging on his Facetrash wall about how they punched him in the hallway this morning just now. As expected from our quality generation of "children of the future", they also joked about how he is likely/ and should commit suicide, and called him a faggot. I wouldn't be surprised if they also found it funny that our father died while we were young. My lil brother did not answer my phone call (as always), so I sent him a message there and am going to visit him tomorrow after he is (hopefully) well-rested.
These bullies...they look like kids. Hell, they are kids! Kids are so cruel!
People tend to overlook kid bullies, but these kid bullies grow up to be adult bullies who fresia your livelihood should you have the misfortune of ever working with them.
Other than my older brother and me, talking to the rest of my family is like talking to a brick wall. They try to have it laid out to us that it is normal to be bullied because:
"Everyone here looks down on Chinese people."
"Even Chinese don't like Chinese."
"People help their own people first."
"In the West, they hate us."
"Don't even try to befriend or date Western people. They only know how to use us...they always go to their own people in the end."
(The dating bit - sorry - I kind of agree)
"We were bullied too...no big deal."
"It's a part of growing up."
No wonder my brothers and I never turned to them for help, because they don't understand. From personal experience, informing the teachers does nothing but simply give them extra paperwork to add to their records about you and put you on watch. The bullies may get suspended for a day or two, but it doesn't prevent them from bullying you inside/ outside of the school areas, harassing you when you're alone, or even make up for the horrific pang of loneliness as you watch your peers enjoy their youth while you are suffering at a distance by yourself.
Even the teachers - they tire of hearing from you again and again.
I can't wait until tomorrow morning where my older brother and I will show up on his doorstep like vengeful, blood-thirsty wolves.
He's quite co-operative... (Or possibly scared of us)
Buttt...
#1. We're going to force his ass to the gym to work out. Build some muscle on his scrawny self and learn self-defense.
^^^ While it would be great to have him knock out his bullies old-school style, it doesn't work that way. Kids nowadays get their hands on guns, knives and travel in packs. All I can imagine, is my little brother being circled and his head smashed into the ground. He has a device in his brain (I forgot what it's called), that keeps the blood flowing. If he hurts his head...I don't know if he'll live. The doctors said he would be handicapped, but he is completely healthy - they said it was a miracle.
******* nurse dropped him...******* butter-fingered b**ch!!!
Gave my mom PTSD!!! FUUUUUUUUUCCCC-
#2. I'm going to see what else is happening from him directly; I'll fight him (I'll sit on him, or something) to get the information out at this point. Try the teachers, have my older brother try the brats or maybe switch schools. What I have noticed in bullying cases is that if you put it to the media, the kids tend to back off because even *they*, care about how the rest of the public perceives them. Anyone hear about the bullied Drayton Valley 13-year old boy who showed up on Oprah? Suddenly his classmates "realized that bullying is bad"...OHEMGEE! RLY???
#3. He will occasionally state things like "I wish I weren't Chinese...I wish I were _________" I'm sure you know which race goes in the blank, but my resentful me is going to leave it as is. Keep it to yourself. It isn't because that race is superior, but rather, it is natural to want to "belong" or "fit in" with the others, otherwise you are an outcast and suffer. It took me a long time to realize that it isn't my race that is the problem; it's the prejudice of others.
Now, a suggestion we received from our family doctor was for us to "hang out" with the Chinese community to try to develop friendships. I quickly learned that, well, with us not learning Mandarin or Cantonese (we speak something else)...even the Chinese people look down at us.
We're a bunch of ******* outcasts I tell you! Outcasts!
"Really? You don't speak Chinese and you call yourself a Chinese?"
"What kind of Chinese are you?!"
-insert snobbish, dirty look here-
-group of FOBs collect together, and snicker while looking at you-
FFS...even in China, I could see the disapproving looks on their faces when I spoke in English to them. I refuse to work in front-line positions, otherwise all the Chinese people line up for me, insult me for not speaking Chinese when uh, national languages of Canada are English and French.
But anyway...
fresia the world and I want blood!!! 8D