geeky_loser said:
I dropped out of school, I haven't started working yet, I failed my driving test three times. I am not smart, I am ugly.
I dropped out too; get your GED. It helps a LOT as long as you aren't negative about it in interviews.
I made four attempts at my driver's test before passing.
Intelligence can be improved (see a recent post of mine on that matter), and I've seen your picture. You're not that bad. You're at least no worse than me.
I'm twenty years old and I started balding. I'm pretty sure I'll have no hair by the end of the year.
The top of my head is shaped funny and is very noticable with my preferred hair style (short, that is). Just keep your hair short or shave it all off...I felt kind of strange when I started keeping mine short (I used to have somewhat long hair), but now I -love- it. If my head was more normally shaped, I'd go totally bald. Maintenance free, way to be
Heck, take the opportunity to try a hat or something. I've seen bald guys wear fedoras and stuff and they look killer. You just have to play it up right.
You could also try rogaine or one of the other hair restoration products if you haven't already.
I've never had a relationship. I'll die fat, ugly, bald and alone. So why keep up with this honeysuckle anyway.
You're 20?
At 23 I just got my first actual girlfriend, after a hellacious highschool experience that left me with no self esteem, and 5 years of adulthood actively stumbling and bumbling my way through figuring out how a date works and how to actually be attractive. And fat is a matter of simple mathematics if you can commit to a routine of real exercise and healthy eating habits.
I started an actual workout program (P90X from Beach Body) and I'm starting to look and FEEL like money. I can't freakin' believe it. We were at an intersection today and this girl actually pulled up so she could wave at me. And dude, I am not that attractive in the face. Before you give up on your looks, you need to at least do two things:
1. Adhere to an exercise regimen
2. Create a good look for yourself (for me, it's the clean-cut look) and play it up. This doesn't have to be expensive.
Because of no school, I have no future beyond living with my parents and working in my dad's shop forever.
Until it becomes -your- shop, anyway. There's a lot worse fates than inheriting a family business and building on a legacy. Consider the actual impact of the service you're providing before you speak of it woefully.
Define 'no school'. I didn't have my GED until 19 and I know some people who didn't get it until their 20s or 30s and have since improved their situation. I'm 23 and still working on my 2 year degree. You don't see me fretting.
Also, don't subscribe to the notion that you will fail and be miserable without attending a 4 year institution. Because it's silly. I know more employed people with 2 year degrees or none at all than I do people with 4 year degrees. Also, just because we don't work out to become doctors or biologists or astronauts does not quantify us as failures. Plenty of good, successful, happy people work as tile setters, pipefitters, accountants or electricians. I know a single mother waitress who owns her own house (it's really nice and she's paid for it all herself), and I know guys who work in
lumber mills or at Wal Mart who lead perfectly happy lives. I know a janitor who will retire with an actual pension. Not a 401K, a pension.
My point being, I see a lot of people feel bad because they don't fit the image of the tie-adorned grad school alumni with his laptop in the coffee shop on his lunch break. And it's silly. We need to be happy and proud of what we're good at. I have no reason right now to go to a 4 year college; it would do nothing for me. I don't make a fortune, but I am happier doing what I do now than I would ever be anywhere else. That's true success.
I'm tired of this honeysuckle, I want to end it.
I don't mean to make light of your feelings or downplay your situation, but it all sounds reversible to me because myself and others I know (some on this forum) have dealt with most of those successfully. Please reconsider and perhaps formulate some different options, because you do have them.