grainofrice24
Well-known member
So, I haven't been on the forums in a while (been pretty busy). But I need some advice:
Over the past few months, I've met and gotten to know this lovely young lady. Over the few times we met it's been for school (strictly "business" so to speak), but I cracked a few jokes here and there and while working we got into some decent conversations.
Anyways, It's safe to say that I thought she was pretty cool, and after our project was over, we kind of said our goodbyes and went our separate ways. A few days later I decided to go ahead and do something stupid and call her to ask her out. I was a bit of a stuttering mess on the phone, but managed to ask her out to a movie or a meal.
Much to my dismay, she said she was very flattered, but she already had a boyfriend, but would love to just be friends . I said "fair enough...just figured I'd ask, I'll see you around...maybe we can grab a coffee sometime". She said "for sure" and that was that.
The next day I got a text from her, saying that she felt she needed to say that she was serious about being friends but she'd understand if I'd rather not. I appreciated the gesture and replied that I wouldn't mind being Homies either, and that if she ever wants to hang out I'd be up for it.
She replied "glad to hear it, when your not busy we should grab that coffee".
SO! After typing that I can almost assume that I'm reading too much into this, but I cant help but feel like she's just being nice to me because she shut me down and feels guilty. I figure that if someone asked me out and I was in a relationship, and had to turn them down...I'd feel pretty rotten about it (even though it's the right thing to do).
SO...here's where you (YES YOU!!) come in. I'm debating whether to take her up on that offer for coffee. I know that sounds redonculous...you're probably thinking "DUDE!! IT'S COFFEE...WHAT'S TO THINK ABOUT".
I'm just worried that it'll be awkward and it's just a pity thing (which truthfully, I don't need...i mean it sucks that she said no, but I was prepared for that and know it's not the end of the world). And you know how when you volunteer to do something because you feel strongly about it at the time, but when someone actually takes you up on it you're like "aw fresia...now I gotta go do this because I said I would". I don't wanna force one of those on her.
SO ALL, what's your take?! Any advice would be appreciated. THE IMMEDIATE FUTURE OF MY COFFEE DRINKING COMPANY DEPENDS SOLELY ON YOU!!
Edit: I just read that post over...I probably shouldn't call her should I. She doesn't feel guilty, I have closure...I should just leave it at that shouldn't I...
Over the past few months, I've met and gotten to know this lovely young lady. Over the few times we met it's been for school (strictly "business" so to speak), but I cracked a few jokes here and there and while working we got into some decent conversations.
Anyways, It's safe to say that I thought she was pretty cool, and after our project was over, we kind of said our goodbyes and went our separate ways. A few days later I decided to go ahead and do something stupid and call her to ask her out. I was a bit of a stuttering mess on the phone, but managed to ask her out to a movie or a meal.
Much to my dismay, she said she was very flattered, but she already had a boyfriend, but would love to just be friends . I said "fair enough...just figured I'd ask, I'll see you around...maybe we can grab a coffee sometime". She said "for sure" and that was that.
The next day I got a text from her, saying that she felt she needed to say that she was serious about being friends but she'd understand if I'd rather not. I appreciated the gesture and replied that I wouldn't mind being Homies either, and that if she ever wants to hang out I'd be up for it.
She replied "glad to hear it, when your not busy we should grab that coffee".
SO! After typing that I can almost assume that I'm reading too much into this, but I cant help but feel like she's just being nice to me because she shut me down and feels guilty. I figure that if someone asked me out and I was in a relationship, and had to turn them down...I'd feel pretty rotten about it (even though it's the right thing to do).
SO...here's where you (YES YOU!!) come in. I'm debating whether to take her up on that offer for coffee. I know that sounds redonculous...you're probably thinking "DUDE!! IT'S COFFEE...WHAT'S TO THINK ABOUT".
I'm just worried that it'll be awkward and it's just a pity thing (which truthfully, I don't need...i mean it sucks that she said no, but I was prepared for that and know it's not the end of the world). And you know how when you volunteer to do something because you feel strongly about it at the time, but when someone actually takes you up on it you're like "aw fresia...now I gotta go do this because I said I would". I don't wanna force one of those on her.
SO ALL, what's your take?! Any advice would be appreciated. THE IMMEDIATE FUTURE OF MY COFFEE DRINKING COMPANY DEPENDS SOLELY ON YOU!!
Edit: I just read that post over...I probably shouldn't call her should I. She doesn't feel guilty, I have closure...I should just leave it at that shouldn't I...