Code S.O.L said:
That's a fair statement. I'm definately a gamma male the way I am now. God knows I need to improve myself, but some posters here suggest going full alpha, and I'm not sure if I'm willing to sell my soul for their power.
I completely agree with you. As a matter of fact, most women don't want actual, full-blown alpha males. It's almost as if in our evolutionary past we started a transition from an alpha male mating system, where, of course, the alpha males are the key players to a monogamous mating system where gamma males are the key players. We got stuck in between. So a woman wants something in between: a beta male. In human terms, a beta male is an enlightened male with alpha male characteristics. As a matter of fact, we despise most players because they're alpha males who pretend to have the enlightened beta male characteristics. They rely on deception because they can't be honest with women about their true alpha male nature. That's why the rest of us, men and women, dislike them so much.
It's not hard to become a good beta male by adopting alpha male characteristics and behaviors. The most supreme alpha male characteristic is confidence, but others include having a lot of money, being very muscular, being handsome, being tall, wearing fashionable clothes (not that you have to go metrosexual--just don't wear bell bottoms and scally caps), having a job in a leadership position or being very good at what you do, being very sexual (but not in a creepy or boorish kind of way), and having high social status.
I know this list may dismay you just as women knowing how into looks men are dismay us; but just as you are willing to be somewhat even if not completely forgiving, we are willing to be forgiving, too. Perhaps you can't be everything on this list, but you can get into shape, you can learn to act with confidence, you can dress better, and you can learn how to be a better lover.
Just as I'm not going to get breast enhancement surgery to be able to present a guy with ample C-cups instead of my A-cups because I think that's totally stupid, but I can at least help the guy out by presenting him with a body that's in shape and won't tax his eyes or his primal brain by being covered by a layer of excess fat and cellulite. Think of it the same way, you don't need to be the total package to still have a fruitful and satisfying love life.
I should tell you that my advice is not my own. It's the advice of men. I just add some insight as a woman on why their advice probably works.
The writer doesn't have a monopoly on the truth.
