I've had a problem through most of my male life (the starting at the part where I realized appearances mean something to people) where I have no idea how people perceive me at all and I'm very negative/shy about it. Some people have told me I am cute or attractive and some have told me otherwise. Others write me off and don't say anything at all...
I know attitude is a key part to attraction (i.e. if you look like your attitude is at the top of the world people are attracted to that) and I've tried to change mine. It seems like every time I am conveying a happy-go-lucky attitude I am shot down by some dismal, unamused face staring back at me. It's enough to give up.
I have a pretty severe case of what is close to adult acne (it's flared up worse more recently) and it's hard talking about it because I've had it ever since I was a teenager. It delivers blows directly to my self-esteem and makes it that much lower. I've tried every medication/regiment on the market (even the one pill where you can't eat an hour before and an hour after taking it...) and none seem to work. I'm trying to see some professional who will understand I am not a lab rat for some new medication that won't work for me, because I've been treated that way before and it's not fun. It's like they are not taking my problem seriously.
I've been fooling around with the notion that maybe I'm not as attractive or talented as I maybe at one point thought I was. I just can't help wondering and pondering on "Why would someone love me if I look like I do? And how can they deal with my weirdness and sometimes just awkwardness?"
They are impossible questions to answer and they keep me up at night. A large majority of people just don't get me and shoot me down/write me off as some deviant, and sometimes I feel that no one is ever going to get the kind of person I am. I'm certainly not normal from what I understand. ( i. e. In college and doesn't want to go to parties 24/7 and drink 24/7 and do drugs all the time and objectify women because YEAH! IT'S COLLEGE! People look at me weird when I don't agree that's not what I want to do with myself...)
I mean, a party or two is fine and hey a drink with some FRIENDS is nice but I'm not basing my life around it at all.
Anyway, that's a lot to get through for a thread, and thanks to those who took the time to read this little situation I'm in. Oh, and hey, I registered a few weeks ago and this seems like a nice supportive place.
I know attitude is a key part to attraction (i.e. if you look like your attitude is at the top of the world people are attracted to that) and I've tried to change mine. It seems like every time I am conveying a happy-go-lucky attitude I am shot down by some dismal, unamused face staring back at me. It's enough to give up.
I have a pretty severe case of what is close to adult acne (it's flared up worse more recently) and it's hard talking about it because I've had it ever since I was a teenager. It delivers blows directly to my self-esteem and makes it that much lower. I've tried every medication/regiment on the market (even the one pill where you can't eat an hour before and an hour after taking it...) and none seem to work. I'm trying to see some professional who will understand I am not a lab rat for some new medication that won't work for me, because I've been treated that way before and it's not fun. It's like they are not taking my problem seriously.
I've been fooling around with the notion that maybe I'm not as attractive or talented as I maybe at one point thought I was. I just can't help wondering and pondering on "Why would someone love me if I look like I do? And how can they deal with my weirdness and sometimes just awkwardness?"
They are impossible questions to answer and they keep me up at night. A large majority of people just don't get me and shoot me down/write me off as some deviant, and sometimes I feel that no one is ever going to get the kind of person I am. I'm certainly not normal from what I understand. ( i. e. In college and doesn't want to go to parties 24/7 and drink 24/7 and do drugs all the time and objectify women because YEAH! IT'S COLLEGE! People look at me weird when I don't agree that's not what I want to do with myself...)
I mean, a party or two is fine and hey a drink with some FRIENDS is nice but I'm not basing my life around it at all.
Anyway, that's a lot to get through for a thread, and thanks to those who took the time to read this little situation I'm in. Oh, and hey, I registered a few weeks ago and this seems like a nice supportive place.