lonelymojoe
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Well, hi there I'm Joe. I'm 20, male (duh) from the UK, and i'm lonely. Very very lonely. I don't know if you'll be interested but this is my story so far for those interested.
You might be thinking, how does a 20 year old end up so lonely, but it seems to have gone beyond my control now. It all started back when I was 16, I met the most amazing girl ever, and we soon started dating. I've moved area in 16 years more times than I have fingers so she ended up being not only my girlfriend but an amazing friend too as I never stayed in one area long enough to keep friendships. After 7 months, we decided the 6 hour distance, and seeing each other only at weekends was a bit too much and we ended up breaking up which basically broke my heart. I was working full time as a chef at this point which is my job, I work as a chef, so didn't really have time to get back out there and change the fact I had no friends. I kept myself to myself at work as I've always been teased about the fact I don't have this deep manly voice and don't like typical male activities like football, hardcore boozing down the pub and stuff. I never fitted in at work because they thought I was gay (which i'm really not, nothing against gay people either!) so I just kept myself to myself.
A few months later I was really struggling with the fact I was so lonely, and ended up turning to drugs as a realease in order to make me feel a bit better and ended up smoking weed on the daily because it just seemed to numb everything. So for the past 2 and a bit years i've been smoking weed daily and made myself more and more and more of a social outcast.
Then about half a year ago, I decided to try and change things. I gave up the weed, and tried everything I possibly could to make friends. I used to work right next door to a nightclub, and after work at around 10pm, I'd go into the nightclub on a busy friday or saturday night, sit at the bar, and try and get chatting to anyone I could. It never worked, people were always in their own friendship circles, and never even paid attention to me. Then one night, a girl walked up to me and asked me if I was alone. I said yeah, and that I was just having a quite pint of beer hoping to meet someone. She smiled, and sat down and we had a chat for 5 minutes, and she seemed to ask alot about me, why I was alone, why I wasn't with friends etc etc so I told her honestly why I was there, that I had no mates, and was trying to find someone.. next thing I know shes saying hold on i'll be right back. So I sit there, order another pint, and she comes back 2 seconds later with a group of girls, points at me and goes "hahaha see theres the sad loner i told you i wasn't making it up.. hahahaha" and walked off. I've never been so humilated in my life. I just walked out and went home :| and never went there again.
I've found that other than cooking not much really interests me. I tried snowboarding for some time, but I was rubbish, and ended up breaking my hand in 3 places which put an abrupt end to that. I've managed to kick the drugs now, and it was never any hard drugs like cocaine or pills or anything, just weed, but i've given it up and things just don't seem to be getting any better.
I often wonder whats wrong with me, I mean i'm not a bad looking guy, I'm half greek so have dark hair, and mediterranean features.. I like modern music, from indie to hip hop to reggae. I enjoy watching films, I'm a chatty guy etc. I sure as hell love my food. I just don't know what I can do anymore. Its getting worse and worse and makes me feel worse and worse, I mean if I can't even make a friend, what girl is going to want to get in a relationship with a boring guy who has no friends and doesn't even go out. I don't have a ton of life experience, so I'm constantly worried i won't know what to talk about if I ever did get in a relationship.. It just sucks.
I don't know what to do anymore, I hate being lonely it sucks.
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You might be thinking, how does a 20 year old end up so lonely, but it seems to have gone beyond my control now. It all started back when I was 16, I met the most amazing girl ever, and we soon started dating. I've moved area in 16 years more times than I have fingers so she ended up being not only my girlfriend but an amazing friend too as I never stayed in one area long enough to keep friendships. After 7 months, we decided the 6 hour distance, and seeing each other only at weekends was a bit too much and we ended up breaking up which basically broke my heart. I was working full time as a chef at this point which is my job, I work as a chef, so didn't really have time to get back out there and change the fact I had no friends. I kept myself to myself at work as I've always been teased about the fact I don't have this deep manly voice and don't like typical male activities like football, hardcore boozing down the pub and stuff. I never fitted in at work because they thought I was gay (which i'm really not, nothing against gay people either!) so I just kept myself to myself.
A few months later I was really struggling with the fact I was so lonely, and ended up turning to drugs as a realease in order to make me feel a bit better and ended up smoking weed on the daily because it just seemed to numb everything. So for the past 2 and a bit years i've been smoking weed daily and made myself more and more and more of a social outcast.
Then about half a year ago, I decided to try and change things. I gave up the weed, and tried everything I possibly could to make friends. I used to work right next door to a nightclub, and after work at around 10pm, I'd go into the nightclub on a busy friday or saturday night, sit at the bar, and try and get chatting to anyone I could. It never worked, people were always in their own friendship circles, and never even paid attention to me. Then one night, a girl walked up to me and asked me if I was alone. I said yeah, and that I was just having a quite pint of beer hoping to meet someone. She smiled, and sat down and we had a chat for 5 minutes, and she seemed to ask alot about me, why I was alone, why I wasn't with friends etc etc so I told her honestly why I was there, that I had no mates, and was trying to find someone.. next thing I know shes saying hold on i'll be right back. So I sit there, order another pint, and she comes back 2 seconds later with a group of girls, points at me and goes "hahaha see theres the sad loner i told you i wasn't making it up.. hahahaha" and walked off. I've never been so humilated in my life. I just walked out and went home :| and never went there again.
I've found that other than cooking not much really interests me. I tried snowboarding for some time, but I was rubbish, and ended up breaking my hand in 3 places which put an abrupt end to that. I've managed to kick the drugs now, and it was never any hard drugs like cocaine or pills or anything, just weed, but i've given it up and things just don't seem to be getting any better.
I often wonder whats wrong with me, I mean i'm not a bad looking guy, I'm half greek so have dark hair, and mediterranean features.. I like modern music, from indie to hip hop to reggae. I enjoy watching films, I'm a chatty guy etc. I sure as hell love my food. I just don't know what I can do anymore. Its getting worse and worse and makes me feel worse and worse, I mean if I can't even make a friend, what girl is going to want to get in a relationship with a boring guy who has no friends and doesn't even go out. I don't have a ton of life experience, so I'm constantly worried i won't know what to talk about if I ever did get in a relationship.. It just sucks.
I don't know what to do anymore, I hate being lonely it sucks.
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