fuzzybutt
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Hey all, I'm new here but I've been lurking for quite a bit. This might be a bit long but I'll try to keep it legible.
I'm a 21 year old guy, currently unemployed and not going to school, never had a girlfriend, etc etc. The typical loser situation. I haven't gone out in a while to hang with friends. I've suffered from anxiety since I was a kid and never really had it under control.
I've finished 3 years of community college and got an AS in graphic arts and am trying to go back to school to a university during the summer. However it's a little difficult trying to get this all setup for me so I can finally register for classes.
I want to change my major to multimedia studies which would involve less design for print and web and more for tv and special effects. Lately though I haven't been concentrating on that since I love painting and drawing and it's something I've been doing since I was 12 and I think I've gotten pretty good at it (I can post my deviantart if anyone asks). What I noticed in the classes I've taken is that the successful people are the ones who have been doing what they're studying since before attending college. Design is not something I started doing before college.
But let's say this all doesn't work out. Let's say I fail in my degree and end up debt (after all it's one of those degrees that depends on your portfolio and not whether you have a bachelor's.) Would it be better to just find some full time job that requires only a high school diploma?
Would it be best to find some job where I don't have to talk to coworkers and tell them about the things like never having a girlfriend or being a turtle? Something where I don't have to work long hours but enough to sustain myself with a place to live for me only, food, electricity and an internet connection and a cheap car.
That way I can just put the time I have for myself into my hobbies like painting, playing guitar, running, watching soccer. Everything I enjoy doing are things a person usually does by themselves. And the hobbies I want to get into are also things one can do by themselves (learning to mix/record music, photography.)
Is there anyone here who lives like this? Working and only putting your free time into your hobbies other than trying to establish relationships with people? And if so, how do you deal with the urges to socialize?
I'm a 21 year old guy, currently unemployed and not going to school, never had a girlfriend, etc etc. The typical loser situation. I haven't gone out in a while to hang with friends. I've suffered from anxiety since I was a kid and never really had it under control.
I've finished 3 years of community college and got an AS in graphic arts and am trying to go back to school to a university during the summer. However it's a little difficult trying to get this all setup for me so I can finally register for classes.
I want to change my major to multimedia studies which would involve less design for print and web and more for tv and special effects. Lately though I haven't been concentrating on that since I love painting and drawing and it's something I've been doing since I was 12 and I think I've gotten pretty good at it (I can post my deviantart if anyone asks). What I noticed in the classes I've taken is that the successful people are the ones who have been doing what they're studying since before attending college. Design is not something I started doing before college.
But let's say this all doesn't work out. Let's say I fail in my degree and end up debt (after all it's one of those degrees that depends on your portfolio and not whether you have a bachelor's.) Would it be better to just find some full time job that requires only a high school diploma?
Would it be best to find some job where I don't have to talk to coworkers and tell them about the things like never having a girlfriend or being a turtle? Something where I don't have to work long hours but enough to sustain myself with a place to live for me only, food, electricity and an internet connection and a cheap car.
That way I can just put the time I have for myself into my hobbies like painting, playing guitar, running, watching soccer. Everything I enjoy doing are things a person usually does by themselves. And the hobbies I want to get into are also things one can do by themselves (learning to mix/record music, photography.)
Is there anyone here who lives like this? Working and only putting your free time into your hobbies other than trying to establish relationships with people? And if so, how do you deal with the urges to socialize?