ThePsychologist
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Hey again!
I have another question for the fine folks of A Lonely Life.
I'm in a relationship for 4 months now with my GF. We've had a few little fights about silly things. But I do feel very happy with her and I think she feels very happy with me.
But lately, I feel very restless. I don't know what it is or where it comes from, but somehow I get the feeling of dread. Now that we are in a relationship, I get feelings I never felt before or thought I would have. I'm not just talking about love. I'm talking about over-interpeting things yet taking it seriously.
I never thought I would get to this point and I would laugh when I saw other people do this, but now here I am, doing the exact same thing.
I'll give you an example:
Every Monday we would go to the library and study there together. Now the last two weeks she cancelled this and wanted to go home and work there instead.
Or we would go to the cinema every week on a friday, but this week she cancelled that aswell (with what seems a valid reason).
Or that she is talking about her ex of a few years ago. That it makes me think she somehow wish he was still around while she is just talking about something mundane...
The point I'm trying to make is that I am somehow distrusting and doubting these actions of her. As if she is trying to see me not that much each week, but long enough to keep it interesting. And I find it absolutely weird that I am having these feelings. In the past if this was happenning, but then with just a friend, I would not mind at all and have no second thoughts about it. But now that I have this with my GF, I am somehow doubting it all and even go as far as thinking why she is "ducking me". I think this is all in my head and that being in a relationship somehow makes me a bit crazy and restless.
Perhaps that's what love does to the mind? I hope I can get rid of this because I think each partner having their own respective freedom, doing things that feels right to them, without having always to account for that decision towards the other partner, is very very important in a relationship.
Do you get what I am trying to say? I almost feel like some kind of stalker...
I am normally Never like this and I am just feeling very confused.
We only see each other 2 times each week so I guess I have to much time to over-think and over-analyse on silly things.
What do you guys think? Did you have the same? This is my first relationship, this is her 2nd and she is much more experienced. Perhaps she had the same with her first boyfriend, but I don't want to show these thoughts I am having about her. Perhaps she would think I am still very much immature in relationships.
I have another question for the fine folks of A Lonely Life.
I'm in a relationship for 4 months now with my GF. We've had a few little fights about silly things. But I do feel very happy with her and I think she feels very happy with me.
But lately, I feel very restless. I don't know what it is or where it comes from, but somehow I get the feeling of dread. Now that we are in a relationship, I get feelings I never felt before or thought I would have. I'm not just talking about love. I'm talking about over-interpeting things yet taking it seriously.
I never thought I would get to this point and I would laugh when I saw other people do this, but now here I am, doing the exact same thing.
I'll give you an example:
Every Monday we would go to the library and study there together. Now the last two weeks she cancelled this and wanted to go home and work there instead.
Or we would go to the cinema every week on a friday, but this week she cancelled that aswell (with what seems a valid reason).
Or that she is talking about her ex of a few years ago. That it makes me think she somehow wish he was still around while she is just talking about something mundane...
The point I'm trying to make is that I am somehow distrusting and doubting these actions of her. As if she is trying to see me not that much each week, but long enough to keep it interesting. And I find it absolutely weird that I am having these feelings. In the past if this was happenning, but then with just a friend, I would not mind at all and have no second thoughts about it. But now that I have this with my GF, I am somehow doubting it all and even go as far as thinking why she is "ducking me". I think this is all in my head and that being in a relationship somehow makes me a bit crazy and restless.
Perhaps that's what love does to the mind? I hope I can get rid of this because I think each partner having their own respective freedom, doing things that feels right to them, without having always to account for that decision towards the other partner, is very very important in a relationship.
Do you get what I am trying to say? I almost feel like some kind of stalker...
I am normally Never like this and I am just feeling very confused.
We only see each other 2 times each week so I guess I have to much time to over-think and over-analyse on silly things.
What do you guys think? Did you have the same? This is my first relationship, this is her 2nd and she is much more experienced. Perhaps she had the same with her first boyfriend, but I don't want to show these thoughts I am having about her. Perhaps she would think I am still very much immature in relationships.