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Whoaisme
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They say you can't have your cake and eat it too...
First note that I have depression and am incredibly insecure. I've had two official sexual partners in my life. I say "official" because those ones are the ones that were actually girlfriends and I can clearly remember them
Here's my problem. The two girls I remember are overweight. The ones I don't remember so well were not. I feel that I am sexually inexperienced and would like to get around a little (not like a man whore or nothing) before I settle down. Girls do this all the time, why can't a guy?
Anyway, my ex-girlfriend who I dumped a few weeks ago, is overweight. The problem is that I like her and we still do things together... She's great, she's the type of person I'd really consider marrying. Getting her back would be quite easy, but like I said I want to be with more people first and see what's out there.
If I'm with more people first then I'm afraid I will have lost my opportunity with this girl who actually really loves me. I don't know if I love her or not... Am I using her out of fear of being alone? Should I simply try to cheat on her. Should I stop all contact with her and begin fresh with someone new? If she lost 30-50 lbs she'd be great, but I cannot believe it'd stay off. If she's genetically predispositioned to be overweight then that means our children could be overweight which is a problem for me.
A girl's weight really means a lot to me. Some guys will only date blondes, others brunettes depending on what they are attracted to. For me, I can't take a girl being overweight. I'm attracted to girls smaller than I am, it's not really a mater of being shallow, it's just what I like.
In summary what should I do about my ex? There seems to be so many options, but I want to have my cake and eat it too. I want her AND girls I'm actually attracted to.
When I go in for therapy I hope they'll give me medication... It might clear up sooo much stuff in my head.
First note that I have depression and am incredibly insecure. I've had two official sexual partners in my life. I say "official" because those ones are the ones that were actually girlfriends and I can clearly remember them
Here's my problem. The two girls I remember are overweight. The ones I don't remember so well were not. I feel that I am sexually inexperienced and would like to get around a little (not like a man whore or nothing) before I settle down. Girls do this all the time, why can't a guy?
Anyway, my ex-girlfriend who I dumped a few weeks ago, is overweight. The problem is that I like her and we still do things together... She's great, she's the type of person I'd really consider marrying. Getting her back would be quite easy, but like I said I want to be with more people first and see what's out there.
If I'm with more people first then I'm afraid I will have lost my opportunity with this girl who actually really loves me. I don't know if I love her or not... Am I using her out of fear of being alone? Should I simply try to cheat on her. Should I stop all contact with her and begin fresh with someone new? If she lost 30-50 lbs she'd be great, but I cannot believe it'd stay off. If she's genetically predispositioned to be overweight then that means our children could be overweight which is a problem for me.
A girl's weight really means a lot to me. Some guys will only date blondes, others brunettes depending on what they are attracted to. For me, I can't take a girl being overweight. I'm attracted to girls smaller than I am, it's not really a mater of being shallow, it's just what I like.
In summary what should I do about my ex? There seems to be so many options, but I want to have my cake and eat it too. I want her AND girls I'm actually attracted to.
When I go in for therapy I hope they'll give me medication... It might clear up sooo much stuff in my head.