Nice to hear that I made you laugh, that makes me feel better too.
I think for most, the problems of others are not a concern unless you're having the same problems. I think I'm better than most at caring for people around me, but I can understand the need to be an individual too. I think the culture in this country has a lot to do with it as well. Even our economic system is based of the success of the individual at the expense of the community, it's a sickness for which we need to find a cure.
I live alone in the countryside, I have a good number of friends, but they're all in relationships, and they don't have much time for socializing with a single guy. Like we've been talking about, I've tried to explain how awful I feel over being lonely to them and for the most part it just meets with a pat on the back. There, there, that's too bad, don't worry you'll find some friends. Some of them have been through similar times in their lives, some to the point of seeking psychological help (one of my closest friends never let on to me what a bad place he was in until years after, he went and sought help from the medical community, that is just sad to me), and yet now that things are peachy for them they have no interest in helping me. I shouldn't say they have no interest, but they simply don't want to be bothered/don't know what to do. I know how much I put people off with my talk about how I feel, but I can't keep it inside. I'm glad I have friends that have stuck with me through it, but I can tell how uncomfortable they are when I bring up the subject. I guess that's why the field of psychology originated, because many people can't be bothered to really help each other unless they're being paid to do so.
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Hi,
You made me laugh. Thank you!
Women can be very mean. And for whatever reason, women aren't as open about what is going on with them as men think. Or at least the women I run into.
I hung out with a gal about 10 years younger than me and was surprised to find that she feels similar to me. "Please, share what is going on in your life, I may be going thru the same thing and we can help each other or at least know we're not alone." Or "just vent so you're not sitting in this alone".
I've found there is little to no compassion anymore with people. Most people seem so wrapped up in what is going on in their own world that they can't spare to tell you what time it is. I find that sad. We're all part of the human race and human experience, can't we help each other, be there for each other?
What I find strange/interesting is why are the mean women so popular and people like me, outgoing, fun loving, would give you my last dollar are looked upon as something very foreign. Life is just very frustrating right now.
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