sevenacids
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I don't really like the idea of closed relationships (or marriage, as well), because I think it has been established out of traditions in our society, and it simply means to limit your "love" to one person, to have only one "partner", which in my opinion is not very natural.
I like the metaphor with children: Imagine you have two, three, four, any number of children, and you love all of them equally. You don't make a difference (you shouldn't at least) - now the question becomes: Why not spread this idea to everyone? Drop the distinction between friendship and relationship and replace it by simple human relations, with the extension that they can be of multiple levels: you can barely know a person, be like "normal friends", or have an obligation-free intimate connection. Closed relationships only create obligations and interdependence which is very harmful when they come to an end.
The good thing is: you can alter the levels at any time. You can be friends with someone and have sex the next moment - there's nothing bad about it, as long as two people agree in what they want to share, and don't develop any kind of interdependence.
It might sound hard in the beginning, but as soon as you free yourself from the demand for exclusive love, and replace it by the idea of free (or open) love, it becomes easier.
I like the metaphor with children: Imagine you have two, three, four, any number of children, and you love all of them equally. You don't make a difference (you shouldn't at least) - now the question becomes: Why not spread this idea to everyone? Drop the distinction between friendship and relationship and replace it by simple human relations, with the extension that they can be of multiple levels: you can barely know a person, be like "normal friends", or have an obligation-free intimate connection. Closed relationships only create obligations and interdependence which is very harmful when they come to an end.
The good thing is: you can alter the levels at any time. You can be friends with someone and have sex the next moment - there's nothing bad about it, as long as two people agree in what they want to share, and don't develop any kind of interdependence.
It might sound hard in the beginning, but as soon as you free yourself from the demand for exclusive love, and replace it by the idea of free (or open) love, it becomes easier.