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Lost Soul
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I join POF, over a year ago, but hardly signed in, until last month, where I would sign in a few times a day, becuase I was desperate to find someone in my area. The reason, why I hardly signed in before, was becuase I lost all hopes, then I gained hope again.
I finally got the courage to send a message to about 20, maybe 30 people, only 1 wrote back and the one who replied back was one of those I'd least expect to get a reply. I was emailing hugmonster1, but the conversation didn't really go anywhere, even though we've talked for days. Most of the things I said, she didn't get, and I had to keep clearifying her on what I meant about things. She seems understanding (to some degree) about a few things, she is one of those people, who dosen''t get scared and backs away from things easily, even if you mention things that were a bit awkward. I was really hoping, I'd get to meet her and maybe become friends, even though she was only looking for dating.
I told her that I may also look for dating after I get to know the person and that I wasn't the type to go instant dating without becoming friends first. I took the conversation too far, mentioning things I shouldn't have, such as I'm lonely and I used to be suicidel (this was after a few days of talking, and I thought that since I mentioned enough already, why not through that in there). I was dumb for even bringing that up, becuase that in no way needing to be discussed anyway. I was just trying to help get her to understand me more, I guess.
Other then her, I had no replies, 99% of all chat requests (in the POF built in message) were declined. I tried writing people different ways, in hopes of improving myself, but that also went no where. Mostly everytime I went on that site, I've seen how lucky people where which made me depressed. In the past few days, I haven't logged in and promised myself to never log in again, even just to check people out. Unless of course, someone actually messages me, but that will never happen. After the past few times of visiting the site, I started to get really depressed again, and haven't got depressed in a long time.
It's is a great site for women, not for men. The reason I say that, becuase most of the girls on that site are greedy and only want someone who is very good looking (hot guys). A lot of them even say so in their profile. If you're average looking or under, you basically stand no or very little chance. I once made a fake profile, with a few photos of a good looking girl and a lame, bare-bone description, and after a few minutes later, I was bombarded by messages (even though the profile wasn't that well made). I've got 20+ messages from guys with 7-8 minutes, and also numerous chat requests too. This is what most girls on Plenty Of Fish get, so you see, they take advantage of that, and only look for the hottest looking guys, and burn through all the rest. Sad truth.
A friend I've meet on-line awhile ago, suggested a site called OKCupid. I have signed up, met someone, who was a little strange at first, but she is pretty cool. I've been talking to her a lot on Skype. I wish to meet her someday, but unfortunately, she plans to move away from Halifax and into a bigger city (I should've known, becuase every time I meet someone, special, something always happens!). I've sent a few messages to a few other girls, but no reply. The girl I talk to, is the only one who replied to so far.
I wish I had better social skills, I really do.
I join POF, over a year ago, but hardly signed in, until last month, where I would sign in a few times a day, becuase I was desperate to find someone in my area. The reason, why I hardly signed in before, was becuase I lost all hopes, then I gained hope again.
I finally got the courage to send a message to about 20, maybe 30 people, only 1 wrote back and the one who replied back was one of those I'd least expect to get a reply. I was emailing hugmonster1, but the conversation didn't really go anywhere, even though we've talked for days. Most of the things I said, she didn't get, and I had to keep clearifying her on what I meant about things. She seems understanding (to some degree) about a few things, she is one of those people, who dosen''t get scared and backs away from things easily, even if you mention things that were a bit awkward. I was really hoping, I'd get to meet her and maybe become friends, even though she was only looking for dating.
I told her that I may also look for dating after I get to know the person and that I wasn't the type to go instant dating without becoming friends first. I took the conversation too far, mentioning things I shouldn't have, such as I'm lonely and I used to be suicidel (this was after a few days of talking, and I thought that since I mentioned enough already, why not through that in there). I was dumb for even bringing that up, becuase that in no way needing to be discussed anyway. I was just trying to help get her to understand me more, I guess.
Other then her, I had no replies, 99% of all chat requests (in the POF built in message) were declined. I tried writing people different ways, in hopes of improving myself, but that also went no where. Mostly everytime I went on that site, I've seen how lucky people where which made me depressed. In the past few days, I haven't logged in and promised myself to never log in again, even just to check people out. Unless of course, someone actually messages me, but that will never happen. After the past few times of visiting the site, I started to get really depressed again, and haven't got depressed in a long time.
It's is a great site for women, not for men. The reason I say that, becuase most of the girls on that site are greedy and only want someone who is very good looking (hot guys). A lot of them even say so in their profile. If you're average looking or under, you basically stand no or very little chance. I once made a fake profile, with a few photos of a good looking girl and a lame, bare-bone description, and after a few minutes later, I was bombarded by messages (even though the profile wasn't that well made). I've got 20+ messages from guys with 7-8 minutes, and also numerous chat requests too. This is what most girls on Plenty Of Fish get, so you see, they take advantage of that, and only look for the hottest looking guys, and burn through all the rest. Sad truth.
A friend I've meet on-line awhile ago, suggested a site called OKCupid. I have signed up, met someone, who was a little strange at first, but she is pretty cool. I've been talking to her a lot on Skype. I wish to meet her someday, but unfortunately, she plans to move away from Halifax and into a bigger city (I should've known, becuase every time I meet someone, special, something always happens!). I've sent a few messages to a few other girls, but no reply. The girl I talk to, is the only one who replied to so far.
I wish I had better social skills, I really do.