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TheSolitaryMan

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I thought I'd start this thread as somewhere I can be positive and record my little day-to-day mini happy moments in the hope of creating something I can look at if I ever feel totally unlovable :)

First entry is small-time, like all of them will probably be. But I went out to a mall a couple of days back, sun was shining, I was wearing my shorts and shades and a nice blue t-shirt.

Saw a couple of girls my age heading the other way, both quite pretty, and somehow got the courage to give them a big, cheesy grin :D

The great thing about shades is I people can't see my eyes, so the shyness gets blocked a tiny bit. So I looked one right in the eyes for about 2 seconds, the longest I could manage. She whispered something to her friend and they gave me their big, cheesy grins too!

A very small moment, but ****. It pretty much made my day. Maybe my whole week :)
 
Thanks guys. I'm trying really hard to not stare at the floor all the time XD

Nice story 2: Yesterday I treated myself to a day out. Went up to London on the train. I got these tickets a while back for a trip around Buckingham Palace, so I went there and saw all the different state rooms, Kate's wedding dress, a copy of the cake.

Though really, I was more interested in the palace than the wedding stuff, unlike all the women there. Such ridiculously huge rooms! And the brass banisters on the first staircase alone are worth more than my house :D

The Faberge eggs/royal gifts room was the most awesome. Those things are just beautiful.

So that was a good day, I was feeling really happy. It took my mind off my tinnitus and work, so that was liberating.

Heading back to the station, I think some of that happiness rubbed off because I was grinning a bit and feeling more positive. Passing pedestrians probably thought I was a nutter :p

Got to this road crossing, saw this rather stunningly pretty (well, she looked shy, but very cute) tall, blonde girl the other side of the road about my age.

Being stupidly happy, I looked over and did this silly embarrassed smile. I think I must have gawped a bit at her face. The great thing was, she locked onto my eyes and gave me this really cute, shy smile. I was actually kind of shocked and started chuckling. Urge to stare at feet rising!

Then we crossed the road, walked past each other (still smiling like fools) and she melted into a crowd of hundreds, never to be seen again :(

I actually got butterflies when she smiled at me, for about the first time since I was 13 :rolleyes:

So that sort of eclipsed the whole point of going to London in the first place, the palace. But it was a fantastic end to the day that sadly wasn't longer :)

On the train home I had an asian girl sit down opposite from me. I'm terrible on trains - I spent most of the time staring out of the window feeling acutely aware someone was nearby.

I think she tried to start a conversation because she nudged my leg and started apologising profusely, but sadly my confidence was now gone and all I managed was a "N-n...no worries" in a sub-whisper.

She spent the rest of the journey seductively drinking (okay, to my mind anyway :p ) a milkshake. I mean, how can it take half an hour to finish a drink?! I stared at my feet until I was home. Sigh.

So yeah, a great day and also a typical nervy, shy day too. It's getting better perhaps though? I'm just so pleased someone actually noticed me ^^

Thanks for reading this gibberish if you did.
 
Hooray for great days! Good for you, dude. A trip to London is always a good thing. (Which reminds me it's time for another visit soon. But I digress.)

If it's any consolation, nudging someone's leg doesn't necessarily mean they want to start a conversation. I nudge people on public transportation all the time, apologize, and then just feel embarrassed because I'm such a klutz. :p
 
Equinox said:
Hooray for great days! Good for you, dude. A trip to London is always a good thing. (Which reminds me it's time for another visit soon. But I digress.)

If it's any consolation, nudging someone's leg doesn't necessarily mean they want to start a conversation. I nudge people on public transportation all the time, apologize, and then just feel embarrassed because I'm such a klutz. :p

Cheers Equinox :)

I expect you're right. She took her headphones out right before doing it, which kinda made me think I was being anti-social at the time. Perhaps not!

I want to start getting out more, I really enjoy daytrips when I go on them, the problem is stopping the silly worries about who I will have to socialise with on the way :rolleyes:
 
Back to London today. Wish me luck with my flirtatious shyness! :D

Edit -

Alas, road works all the way to the train station, the car park was being dug up and I had to abandon my day out. The first mini-failure in my mini-successes thread :D
 
FunkyBuddha said:
Though now you should try waving at a girl then reporting back.

:D Hehe...

Ooh! This is a very good idea :p

If I get the courage to do it, I'll post up!
 
TheSolitaryMan said:
Ooh! This is a very good idea :p

If I get the courage to do it, I'll post up!


It's ridiculous how excited I seem to get whenever someone on ALL is going to try and be social...pathetic really but I don't give a **** haha.

WAVE!:D





 
Dark_Poet said:
Congratulations on all your success!

Good luck on waving!

Thanks guys, all this encouragement is certainly much appreciated :)

No chances to wave yet, but I'm hoping I may get one soon. As pathetic as it perhaps sounds, I'm really excited today because my crush sent me some online messages without any prompting, so who knows? :)
 
Unfortunately not Buddha, 4 more days until I potentially see the lady in question. No idea how I'm going to interact with her to be honest, but if she's as quiet as a mouse like she was before I doubt it'll be easy! :s

I went swimming in the sea today and didn't drown, does that count as a mini-success? :D

(I did get a gobful of sea water at one point though - URGH!)
 
After a long period of deliberation I went to a party the other day. Out of the 100 or so people e-invited, I was actually the only one to show up.

This made me feel great, because I think the hosts would have been bitterly disappointed if their house had remained utterly empty on the day :p

I managed to sit and have a beer for about an hour, then I made my excuses and left. I kept both the other guys laughing or smiling for most of that time, so I was pleased.

Weird thing is, if more people had been there I would not have been able to be social like that :rolleyes:

Anyway, I did it and it wasn't totally awful. So that's a positive right there.

Alas, no waves-to-girls yet and another day until I see The Lady I Like™! Fingers crossed.
 
FunkyBuddha said:
TheSolitaryMan said:
The Lady I Like

Really?

:p



Lol. I figured I typically go through this cycle of really liking someone but then not going anywhere so often that I may as well unofficially trademark it ;)

Yeah, I saw her the other day. It didn't really go well...urgh.
 
TheSolitaryMan said:
Lol. I figured I typically go through this cycle of really liking someone but then not going anywhere so often that I may as well unofficially trademark it ;)

Yeah, I saw her the other day. It didn't really go well...urgh.

Wave to a girl!

Believe it or not, I've found that flirting outageously can work too if its someone you don't care too much about necessarily keeping the attention of. More importantly, it bashes the hell out of the shell that we've made for ourselves and it can be a surprisingly good idea just for that. And sometimes, it genuinely works out well.
 

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