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Why do people leave ALL?
#51
For me, it's definitely a feeling like I don't fit in or belong here. I check the forums sometimes but don't feel like I have anything useful to add that hasn't been said already.
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#52
(05-23-2018, 04:12 AM)athelas88 Wrote: For me, it's definitely a feeling like I don't fit in or belong here. I check the forums sometimes but don't feel like I have anything useful to add that hasn't been said already.

Hi athelas88 I shouldn't worry about fitting in ive given up on that notion and just do my own thing and express myself in my own way- some will like it some wont, cant please everybody. Smile I appreciated youre comments on different topics and im sure you have more to say.  How about starting a thread on something youre interested in or enjoy and see what happens Smile I think youll be pleasantly surprised by the response- best of luck Big Grin
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#53
I take long breaks depending on how busy I am focusing on other things. I imagine that for a lot of people, their time on a forum is pretty limited to when they really need it, and have the time/energy to be posting regularly. They're probably okay even after they've left, maybe even are no longer lonely.

I have a new work schedule and a lot going on so I don't post much. Forums aren't enough socializing, and I can count on one hand the number of times I've found advice online that I can actually apply to my problems. Mostly people can just offer sympathy, or it's useless advice like "just get a new job" for work-related concerns, etc. So I try to work through things alone.
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#54
Not what it once was
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#55
(05-23-2018, 11:02 AM)Tealeaf Wrote: I take long breaks depending on how busy I am focusing on other things. I imagine that for a lot of people, their time on a forum is pretty limited to when they really need it, and have the time/energy to be posting regularly. They're probably okay even after they've left, maybe even are no longer lonely.

I have a new work schedule and a lot going on so I don't post much. Forums aren't enough socializing, and I can count on one hand the number of times I've found advice online that I can actually apply to my problems. Mostly people can just offer sympathy, or it's useless advice like "just get a new job" for work-related concerns, etc. So I try to work through things alone.

There are some good chatrooms that are related to ALL if you're interested. It's usually much more social PM me if you're interested and I can direct you. Smile
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#56
(09-13-2011, 02:08 PM)Badjedidude Wrote: There are many reasons why people both come and go from this site.

Everyone is free to do what they feel is best for them at any particular time. Smile

Correct!.
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#57
^ ditto
You know what man?  I’m sick of following my dreams, I’m just gonna ask where they’re going and hook up with them later. ~ Mitch Hedberg
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#58
In the words of Mister Torgue: "COS...REASONS!!!"
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#59
Why is this ancient thread even revived?
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(05-23-2018, 11:02 AM)Tealeaf Wrote: Mostly people can just offer sympathy, or it's useless advice like "just get a new job" for work-related concerns, etc. So I try to work through things alone.

It actually upsets me that 99% of everyone I know, online or off, only does this. I had real problems after a breakup earlier this year and I desperately needed people to talk/vent/help.

All I got from most of them was "Well, I'm sorry that happened to you" and it did not help at all. I wanted so badly for someone to offer me advice or even offer to do something for me, help, etc.
If the situations were reversed, I would do nothing but offer myself, solutions, anything I could.

Only one friend, that I randomly met earlier the same year and is 10+ years younger than me to boot; only he actually offered to help me. He couldn't sit back and see how I was hurting, despite how little we'd actually talked or knew each other, and he partnered with me for a solution to at least try and help.
And it didn't work, but just the fact I got to TRY and had someone assist me I could count on meant so much. Without him, I don't know what would've happened to me, to be honest. The way I was, so frantic, I might've done something really stupid or finally just lost it. He has no idea how much what he did meant to me.
And it's so sad that people think "sympathy" alone is the way to go when people close to them sometimes just need help.

I feel I'm at a level now where I won't ever be at that level state, even if the same kind of trauma happens again, so I guess that's more self-reliant.... but I feel almost everyone wishes for that someone who wants to not only listen, but help at the same time. Pity that's so rare.

It takes a whole lot of inner strength to be able to tackle such things alone, so if you've actually managed, I'm impressed.
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