ever feel like your problems are holding you back..

anyone ever feel like you could have done so much more if you didnt have to fight the problems you are having.
whatever it is you are dealing with,
shyness,anxieties,fears,traumas,disorders.
al the time that goes into dealing with that could have been so much better spend couldnt it.

i never had any problems in school with the learning part.
whatever i read, understand and find interesting enough i remember.
its the whole people part that came with it that stoped me from getting any further.
same with art and music, i know i could have put some awesome things together but the few days i actually feel good enough to be creative isnt enough to keep anything good going.
my own self always gets in the way of things.

feels good to know i could have.
but kinda sad i never really get the chance to.
so many things i want to learn and do.
but not being able to step outside and go buy new socks or something just seems to get in the way of learning a new language, paint a few portraits or write some decent songs.
i just feel like i could be doing a lot more awesome things.
but all im doing right now is trying to fix myself.

anyone else feel like that sometimes ?
and what would you be doing if you could ?

All the time. I take comfort in the thought that while I may not be able to feel or do the same things as others, I can always get closer and make some advancement. Yes, it sucks and life isn't fair, but it is entirely upon ourselves to try to approach happiness.

There's also the consideration that we all have strengths and weakness; and life is an equation on how to use the time efficiently so that we can maximize what we get out of it. Combatting our weaknesses may not always be the best use of time - especially with you, I think, it might be worth considering how far we can approach happiness by taking advantage of the strengths that you uniquely possess beyond others.

And of course, there are considerations for pharmaceutical solutions for things like mood if you feel that alone is holding you back, but its a lot more unpredictable and dangerous than many feel, I think. I took Zoloft for awhile, and it ruined my grades - made me happy, but also I lost the anxiety I had to succeed; I've tried softer methods of nutrition supplementation and it seems to have helped much more so.

i have to say im not that unhappy anymore.
i have my bad days ofc, wondering why and stuff like that.
i have accepted that things are a little different for me and ill never be living a "normal" life.

but im always thinking about everthing, i cant shut my brain up.
sometimes it goes to far but usually i love figuering things out learning and solving problems.
but right now all of that time and energy is going into me and my problems.
sometimes i wonder what i would be doing if i didnt have to do all that.

indeed medication can be dangerous stuff.
chemicaly messing with an unstable brain can have some verry unwanted and scary results.
all it did for me was that i didnt care anymore, after the two weeks of complete confusion that is.
the axiety went away but i couldnt think anymore like i used to either.

Yep, yep, yep. My shyness, anxiety and fears always hold be back from doing more or being more outgoing.

My main problem was definitely holding me back for years.

I feel that way too. If it weren't for my social problems, I don't know what could be stopping me from having a really great life. I'm shy, and seem to scare of people whenever I try to make some new friends. At the same time I have a really big social need, which makes the situation feel quite hopeless at times.

My problems have also helped me though. I've gotten to know myself much more than I would've without them

In a word YES. They are. Definitely.

I like to think I'm a half way intelligent young lady and yet even know I know they are I still let them which makes me feel silly and weak.

guld said:

My problems have also helped me though. I've gotten to know myself much more than I would've without them

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verry true

annik said:

In a word YES. They are. Definitely.

I like to think I'm a half way intelligent young lady and yet even know I know they are I still let them which makes me feel silly and weak.

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that doesnt make you weak it just means there is a problem.
its not easy to admit so if anything knowing you have a problem says something good about you.
it would be silly to pretend there was no problem.
if you could just not let it be a problem than it wouldnt be a problem i guess.
but i know the feeling

paulo said:

guld said:

My problems have also helped me though. I've gotten to know myself much more than I would've without them

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verry true

annik said:

In a word YES. They are. Definitely.

I like to think I'm a half way intelligent young lady and yet even know I know they are I still let them which makes me feel silly and weak.

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that doesnt make you weak it just means there is a problem.
its not easy to admit so if anything knowing you have a problem says something good about you.
it would be silly to pretend there was no problem.
if you could just not let it be a problem than it wouldnt be a problem i guess.
but i know the feeling

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That's very true. I guess I just think because I know they are effecting me I should try and get past them. Of course its not as simple as that unfortunately. It just sometimes feel like I give into them at times.

some people call it OCD?lol

if you cant shut your brain off...just obseve all the crazy honeysuckle that gose
in your head but dont figure it out.

The more you try to stop it...the more fuel you're feed into it.

If you just learn how to observe as if it's a passing parade.
It'll eventually come to a stop on it's own.

Kind of like jumping off of marry go round when you were a kid.
Once you stop messing with it oneway or the other.
The marry go round will run out of steam or momentum on it's own.

Have you ever tried to put out a hay fire? ( i have.lol)
Spontanous combustion. The fire gets ignite internally.
The more water you pour on it...the bigger the fire gets.lmao
becuase the water flows into the hay bails and generate more heat.
The most you can do is contain it and let the fire burn itself out.

Sometimes our brain is like that....

That's why some people say just give it to your HP or GOD.

It's also kind of like meditations...Just focus on an object in front of you...
Then you'll staRT noticing all kinds of crazy honeysuckle running through your mind.
Bascailly people do the samething when they focus on GOD or whatever thier HP is...
as a sort of distraction to not figure all the honeysuckle that runs through head.
Bascailly be transparent.

Do you play an instument?
Playing my guitar is a sort of meditation.
I stay focus on my music or playing my guitar.

I also use the sedano methode to let go of negative or un wanted emotions.
Bascailly the sedona methode get you to practice not to figure the honeysuckle out..
To the piont of not really giving a fresia oneway or the other what gose in your head.lmao
Then you're actaully be in a state of peace...At a peaceful state you're be more productive.
Have more time and energy to do whatever you want to do with your life.

You can also try breathing technique. Muscles tensions and relax technique.
Make a firm grip...as you breathe in. Then hold your breath.
(notice the tensions and stress on you body)....

Then as you breathe out....relax your hands.
Notice the sensations of releave or release.


You dont need to be a spiritual guru or a saint.
Its simple things anyone can practice 5-10 mins p day.
Simple brerathing exercise. (some people focus on thier breathing) to relax your mind and body.

Or you can just veg. As most guys do, after work.
Its a natural process of your mind resting itself.
But if you live with a chick. she's like
"what ya thinking honey?...
what ya thinking honey?
what ya thinking honey?
"Are you thinking about her???? Cuase you're not paying attention to me"lmao

Like what the others have said before, I feel that way too sometimes.

Lonesome Crow said:

if you cant shut your brain off...just obseve all the crazy honeysuckle that gose
in your head but dont figure it out.

The more you try to stop it...the more fuel you're feed into it.

If you just learn how to observe as if it's a passing parade.
It'll eventually come to a stop on it's own.

Kind of like jumping off of marry go round when you were a kid.
Once you stop messing with it oneway or the other.
The marry go round will run out of steam or momentum on it's own.

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^I think this a good suggestion.

Lonesome Crow said:

Or you can just veg. As most guys do, after work.
Its a natural process of your mind resting itself.
But if you live with a chick. she's like
"what ya thinking honey?...
what ya thinking honey?
what ya thinking honey?
"Are you thinking about her???? Cuase you're not paying attention to me"lmao

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LMAO
Reminds me of this Russell Peters video
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Lonesome Crow said:

some people call it OCD?lol

if you cant shut your brain off...just obseve all the crazy honeysuckle that gose
in your head but dont figure it out.

It's also kind of like meditations...Just focus on an object in front of you...
Then you'll staRT noticing all kinds of crazy honeysuckle running through your mind.
Bascailly people do the samething when they focus on GOD or whatever thier HP is...
as a sort of distraction to not figure all the honeysuckle that runs through head.
Bascailly be transparent.

Do you play an instument?
Playing my guitar is a sort of meditation.
I stay focus on my music or playing my guitar.

You can also try breathing technique. Muscles tensions and relax technique.
Make a firm grip...as you breathe in. Then hold your breath.
(notice the tensions and stress on you body)....

Or you can just veg. As most guys do, after work.
Its a natural process of your mind resting itself.

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its not really a compulsive thing.
im not obsessing about things i cant change or something like that.
well sometimes i am ofc.
but mostely im just noticing everything and wondering how or why something is or how it works, why people do what they do why i do what i do.
i just want to know everything, and i cant help noticing stuff.
even when i play my guitar i cant help thinking about other things.
id be playing my part and thinking about what the rest of the band is playing listening to what doesnt sound right or should be changed.
i cant just be in the moment there is always something else working in the background.
but i know when im obsessing and i can stop those thoughts when i want to most of the time.
if i think ive obsessed enough about something (you have to allow yourself a little obsessing time) i make myself move on.
i just cant think of nothing there is always something going on in there.

i find meditation quite interesting.
i just dont think ill ever be able to do it.
i just get bored and start thinking about how meditation works
i could stand to relaxe a little more though.
vegging out doesnt work for me my brain dont veg
even in my dreams im solving problems, if i dont have any to solve my brain create some just to keep me buzzy while im sleaping.

dont get me thinking about god or a higherpower, theres a whole lot of things that just dont add up there.

I get ya...believe .LOL
I aslo do RC modeling..
Sometimes when Im doing an evasive aerobatic manuver...My is trying to figure out what I had for lunch last tuseday. Lmao

when I first started flying..I used to get a headache...becuase I had to focus on the modle flying across the sky.
I could only do it for 5 mins then toss the **** TX to my flight instructor...
But over time..I was able to expand my flight time....
So Focusing is kind of like exercising your muscels...Your endorance increases a little bit at a time...

Its the samething when I play my guitar. Im a sheader.. After a while those notes seem like in slow motion to me.

It the samething when your on the freeway then get off on surface street.

I got those simple excersize suggestions from a book of DR.
The focusing on variouse objects excersice..ll only do 5 mins @ a time everyday....Over time Im able to be more in control of my brains or thoughts..
sometimes I cant even stop my thoughts so..Ill just shift my focus to happy thoughts.lol

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Yeap...trying to figure everything out
is like trying to scratch a **** itch I cant reach.mao

Its irritating as fresia....Thats why
Im kind wacked in a way..Cuase I was trying to figure out god and all the honeysuckle thats hapening in my life..
Sometimes I go into a mind storm.
My **** brain gose spinning about whatever.

It dosnt happen as much as it used too..
But when I get upset about something
thats very emotional to me...My head gose spinning trying to resolve a god **** problem I have on control over..
But my brain still wanst to resolve it.

Yes...very annoying sometimes.