AFrozenSoul
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So I am just kind of doing some venting here. In many ways I wanted to be in the situation I am in and in many ways I didn't. Anyway feel free to ignore my venting session.
So a little while ago I went to my college homecoming. I was with a friend so I hung out with his friends. Well one of his friends happened to go to my high school. So my friend in his infinite wisdom brought this point up. This gave her an in to talk to me. So I have this problem, I don't really like to keep company with girls I am not attracted too. I was not attracted to this girl. I am not that small of a guy I am 5'10" and I weigh 200 lbs. However, this girl was at least 2 inches shorter than me and had at least 80 lbs on me... if not more. So yes, she was the fat chick. Anyway while at the school we talked, as she got drunker and the night progressed she flirted with me more and more. Getting to the point where she mentioned why she wouldn't take me back to her hotel room. >_> needless to say I was not upset by that fact. My friend, got me out of that situation and we left.
Well apparently recently this girl has been pestering my friend about me. Which is fine, I guess, I did not leave her with any contact information. So apparently recently she asked him how I felt about her. If you read the first paragraph, you know the answer is not how she wants me to feel about her. So now I get the fun task of figuring out how to reject her without causing a fissure in the social circle. The nicest and most honest answer is that I am not attracted to her. Seriously that is all I can think of. If I deviate too much from that I stop telling the truth and start lying. I don't want to be lying, that is worse than causing drama.
I don't know I guess I just am not ready to be in this situation. I feel really bad because now my friend has been wrapped up into this situation as well. This is why I hate meeting people through people. You have to find a diplomatic approach. Lucky for me I know my friend likes me more than her... but still. It sucks she is going through him. You would have thought that not getting my contact information would be enough? Seriously, my real name is pretty unique and hard to find. If I don't take the time to tell people where to look they won't find me. I would have thought that the fact that she had to go to my friend to find me on facebook would show that I am not interested in her... in the way she wants.
I don't know, I am venting really... then again this does feel pretty good to know that I have the power this time around. However, I feel bad having started drama where it does not need to be. I hate causing trouble for other people. Even if this friend completely understands. Make no mistake when the time comes I have no intention of avoiding the issue... no matter how insensitive the answer may actually be.
So a little while ago I went to my college homecoming. I was with a friend so I hung out with his friends. Well one of his friends happened to go to my high school. So my friend in his infinite wisdom brought this point up. This gave her an in to talk to me. So I have this problem, I don't really like to keep company with girls I am not attracted too. I was not attracted to this girl. I am not that small of a guy I am 5'10" and I weigh 200 lbs. However, this girl was at least 2 inches shorter than me and had at least 80 lbs on me... if not more. So yes, she was the fat chick. Anyway while at the school we talked, as she got drunker and the night progressed she flirted with me more and more. Getting to the point where she mentioned why she wouldn't take me back to her hotel room. >_> needless to say I was not upset by that fact. My friend, got me out of that situation and we left.
Well apparently recently this girl has been pestering my friend about me. Which is fine, I guess, I did not leave her with any contact information. So apparently recently she asked him how I felt about her. If you read the first paragraph, you know the answer is not how she wants me to feel about her. So now I get the fun task of figuring out how to reject her without causing a fissure in the social circle. The nicest and most honest answer is that I am not attracted to her. Seriously that is all I can think of. If I deviate too much from that I stop telling the truth and start lying. I don't want to be lying, that is worse than causing drama.
I don't know I guess I just am not ready to be in this situation. I feel really bad because now my friend has been wrapped up into this situation as well. This is why I hate meeting people through people. You have to find a diplomatic approach. Lucky for me I know my friend likes me more than her... but still. It sucks she is going through him. You would have thought that not getting my contact information would be enough? Seriously, my real name is pretty unique and hard to find. If I don't take the time to tell people where to look they won't find me. I would have thought that the fact that she had to go to my friend to find me on facebook would show that I am not interested in her... in the way she wants.
I don't know, I am venting really... then again this does feel pretty good to know that I have the power this time around. However, I feel bad having started drama where it does not need to be. I hate causing trouble for other people. Even if this friend completely understands. Make no mistake when the time comes I have no intention of avoiding the issue... no matter how insensitive the answer may actually be.