$ on first date

What would you do if a person asked you for money on the first date?

What would your reaction be, both verbally & emotionally?

This is assuming you were not friends with them for a while prior to the date.

Depends if it is to pay for the date or not. If its to pay for the date, its to be expected and she shouldn't even have to ask. If not, I'll be incredibly leery.

If she asks for money,she is not your date,you are her client!

Lol yeah I agree with John on this one. That's what I'd call a catch and release; send that salmon back into the wild and re-cast. Yes, that's right...I used a fishing metaphor.

Well said, John. It would be the foreshadowing of an oblivious scheme. And you will become her host.

Nice fishing metaphor Ryan!

LOL yeah what John said. Being the guy you should automatically pay for the date, it's just proper to do, unless you agreed before hand to go dutch. If they were asking for a loan then no way, dump her at the curb where you picked her up.

OK wait a sec...

...are we talking about the lady expecting the guy to pay for the date?

...or are we talking about the lady spontaneously asking you for a LOAN whilst on the first date?

We're talking about a woman (or man if you're a lady or gay) asking for money (not a loan) on the first date.

If I were to be paying for the date, then she would have no reason to ask.

Baffling and troubling.......that is a date that would have me asking, am I on candid camera?

ninecrimes said:

Baffling and troubling.......that is a date that would have me asking, am I on candid camera?

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lol

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I'm looking for REACTIONS here ... from males/females.

It seems, so far, that it must baffle everyone of what to do in such a circumstance.

Sci-Fi said:

Being the guy you should automatically pay for the date, it's just proper to do, unless you agreed before hand to go dutch.

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Say what? The guy should automatically pay for the date? That's possibly the strangest thing I've ever heard. I would NEVER expect my date to pay anything for me, and if he insisted on doing so, I'd actually feel a little uncomfortable.

I guess that's a matter of culture and geography.

As for the "asking for money" bit ... Yeah, baffled pretty much sums it up. My immediate reaction would probably be to laugh, since I'd naturally think the person was just kidding.

Equinox said:

As for the "asking for money" bit ... Yeah, baffled pretty much sums it up. My immediate reaction would probably be to laugh, since I'd naturally think the person was just kidding.

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Ok, makes sense... but I wonder what you would do after that.

After that, and after supposedly realizing he wasn't kidding, I would give him my Weird Look™ and say something like "I don't really have a lot of money to spare right now. Sorry". Ending this date, I would not stay in touch with this person.

Exceptions, of course, would be if he told me why he needed the money, and it turned out to be a good reason, though I can't really imagine what that would be. A loan could be more easily justified, but just giving it away? Naw.

Where's this question coming from, by the way? Are you planning on going out with someone and ask them for money?

I'd assume she was a hooker if she straight-up asked for money on a first date.

Equinox said:

After that, and after supposedly realizing he wasn't kidding, I would give him my Weird Look™ and say something like "I don't really have a lot of money to spare right now. Sorry". Ending this date, I would not stay in touch with this person.

Exceptions, of course, would be if he told me why he needed the money, and it turned out to be a good reason, though I can't really imagine what that would be. A loan could be more easily justified, but just giving it away? Naw.

Where's this question coming from, by the way? Are you planning on going out with someone and ask them for money?

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Lol I liked the trademark on the "Weird Look", very nice

Thanks for sharing your projected reactions.

Where this is coming from is that I just experienced this recently and wanted to see where peoples' minds were on this.

I would never ask a woman for money.

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Badjedidude said:

I'd assume she was a hooker if she straight-up asked for money on a first date.

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I could never view a woman as a hooker just because she asked for $. That would be ridiculous considering I never have sex on first dates & the women I take out know this.

Actually, people ask me for money often these days. In all types of situations. At times people I hardly even know. I understand the economy is in chaos, but these requests are getting old.

Sprint said:

Actually, people ask me for money often these days. In all types of situations. At times people I hardly even know. I understand the economy is in chaos, but these requests are getting old.

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Its getting irritating enough with people asking you to cover for them for food and then never paying back - I have that issue with my coworkers. I generally put on a good face about it, but it does get old very very fast.

Are you wealthy, and do you flaunt it? If so that would explain why people are asking you for money. Otherwise, I just simply cant imagine why that would be happening! I am not rich, but am not struggling every month like many that I know, and I have never been asked for money before. I was however, an escort for a short while some years ago. I did spend time with a man, just talking, and charged him half price, which he happily paid. Of course the difference would be that he knew he was spending time with a hooker and knew he was going to be paying, but it does kind of sound like this lady was expecting you to simply pay her for spending time with you, which would make her a hooker.

IgnoredOne said:

Sprint said:

Actually, people ask me for money often these days. In all types of situations. At times people I hardly even know. I understand the economy is in chaos, but these requests are getting old.

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Its getting irritating enough with people asking you to cover for them for food and then never paying back - I have that issue with my coworkers. I generally put on a good face about it, but it does get old very very fast.

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I had that issue also. I've solved it by evading lunch time entirely. I disappear. Going to get gas is another usually irritating event. I'm learning simply not to even answer people. Just keep walking like no one has spoken to me.

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septicemia said:

Are you wealthy, and do you flaunt it? If so that would explain why people are asking you for money. Otherwise, I just simply cant imagine why that would be happening! I am not rich, but am not struggling every month like many that I know, and I have never been asked for money before. I was however, an escort for a short while some years ago. I did spend time with a man, just talking, and charged him half price, which he happily paid. Of course the difference would be that he knew he was spending time with a hooker and knew he was going to be paying, but it does kind of sound like this lady was expecting you to simply pay her for spending time with you, which would make her a hooker.

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People are just a pain in the @$$.

A hooker, to me, is a person who charges for sex.

As a man i would pay for the 1st date (movie, food,..) but if someone would just wanted me to give them money, then the 1st date would be the last.
I may be lonely, but not stupid