Facebook!your views

Hi everyone!
Basically over a week ago i deactivated my Facebook account as it was depressing me instead of enriching my life....It DID have a LOT of positives but the negative aspects of it outweighed the good...I have two female friends and they posted everything they were doing together on there...and i know its sad to say but i feel really upset and left out about it....like one of my friends would post a status and the other friend(the one who i don't get on with so much) would literally 'Like' every status and comment....and I'd post a photo of something I'd made and it would get ignored...i mean if you've made the effort to 'Like' a status about what someone's had for tea, you can 'Like' a photo...

I really can't stand how people manipulate Facebook and practically invent a new persona that they aren't like in real life....I've literally been on a night out with said female friend and she's making no effort to enjoy the night, but sat on Facebook on her Iphone, posting statuses and photos, like her REAL life doesn't count as much as her Facebook social life....
Now I'm feeling even more out of the loop as hardly anyone contacts me, but i know if i re activated my Facebook account, i would feel rubbish and worthless within a minute!

Am REALLY interested what your views are about Facebook!!?

hmm at times I feel like that too. But it's easy to see that profiles on facebook are the personas people would want others to see. It may be a bit silly and to a point shallow, but that's normal. who would want to show the negative side of oneself to others, right? We all want to feel good about ourselves and most of the times, instead of believing we are good enough and our lives have plenty of happy things, most people convince others for themselves to believe in it too. It's sad to think of it, almost everyone are confused about themselves, but personally, although I would get irked at statuses that I feel has no point what so ever, every one wants attention. We want attention too.

What can I advice to you instead, I think, would be to not let facebook or any social sites affect you and how you feel about yourself and about your friends. The best way to connect to your friends is still spending real time with them, hanging or or just talking on chat. But those are real connections, not the likes or the admiration of how you look on a picture. If you feel you are having some bad feelings about your friends, if you feel they're not good friends to you, then decide if you want to continue being their friends or just be acquaintances or reach out so they too would see you really want genuine friendship.

And one thing, (this I find so hard to do also) if something or someone makes you feel bad towards yourself or towards any other person, then stay out of it, take a break, and then probably come back when you feel like you cant be that affected. Even ALL can become facebook at times. But that's natural in this binary world, even in the real world. Most people are sad and in need of friends but the hard thing is most people don't know how to be friends with other sad people too.

I hope what I said could help you even in little ways. *hugs*

I dont care about facebook. I dont care about what my friends post in other friends walls. I dont care if someone else got more likes/comments than me. I only have it because It is used by most of my friends and family. It's so wrong to get obsessed by it. The only good thing about it is that It's easy to be used and I can keep in touch with people. That's it.

I deactivated my FB last year for the same reason you did, it is depressing, and almost impractical if you have no friends in the real world. My "friends" were high school acquaintances and people I met on audioscrobbler. I never cared much for social networking sites anyway, and I hate the self-absorbed effects it's had on our generation. I would have stayed away from FB but I've recently found it useful for keeping a list of things that I like.

it's like anything else in life. it's how you use it.

Hell..I even consider not coming to site anymore from time to time.
Most the stuff i read on here are really depressing honeysuckle.
Aside from thAT...an aurgument here and there.

And I'm pretty sure when i get into a realtionship again...
I'll probably not come on here anymore.
All of my Gfs or ex ask me why in the fresia do I even come on here.
Yeah..so it's kind of like that too...it donst matter what site i go on the net.
It's more about me spacing the fresia out on the net instead of being presence in real life.

It has nothing to do with the web...it's me.

Personally, facebook has become the only online network which my friends from high school use (no MSN, skype, etc.) so I use it to just catch up sometimes and see what they are doing. I don't really care much for posting everything about my life and having others respond to it.

As for making a new persona, that's about the same over here really. The only real difference from facebook is that we don't all really know each other in real life and we don't have apps. Like Lonesome Crow said, it's how you use it that matters. Facebook is a really good idea actually, but now people have made liking statuses and having lots of "friends" way more important then it really is. If you know and accept what's really important and how facebook can benefit you, then it shouldn't bother you too much anymore. If you decide that you'd rather live without facebook, that's perfectly fine too.

Good luck.

floffyschneeman said:

And one thing, (this I find so hard to do also) if something or someone makes you feel bad towards yourself or towards any other person, then stay out of it, take a break, and then probably come back when you feel like you cant be that affected. Even ALL can become facebook at times. But that's natural in this binary world, even in the real world. Most people are sad and in need of friends but the hard thing is most people don't know how to be friends with other sad people too.

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True words. Especially that last sentence.

i think too many people just take facebook too seriously. its just a tool, don't get caught up in the hype.

RJLJD said:

i think too many people just take facebook too seriously. its just a tool, don't get caught up in the hype.

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Agreed.

Tristeza said:

RJLJD said:

i think too many people just take facebook too seriously. its just a tool, don't get caught up in the hype.

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Agreed.

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That's a perfect summary.

I looked at it five years ago. It looked rather boring to me so i have never been back to it. I understand that some people think it is more fun than a bag of greased weasels and that is fine.

I have a facebook- I only use it to check up on info that my uni puts up. I have a few people on there, but generally I dont use it to speak to them. I cant understand why some people let it dictate their lives, after all, people managed in life before it was created

i use my facebook all the time to play like games

I like Facebook. I use it now and then.
Use it to have contact with family in Serbia and post things i like etc.

I do also see people talk more to eachother then to me but i'm not really bothered anymore with it as it the story of me life.

I used to like facebook. For a time, I even loved it. Now I despise it. I despise the way it more or less controls the social life of people I know, and thus also my own. Everything is announced on facebook these days, because that's the one platform that everyone (more or less, there's always the odd exception) use. If I were to delete my account, I'd never get invited to another party, never be asked to meet up with friends at random, never know what's happening in my friends' lives. And, like the OP, I feel this is slightly depressing. It saddens me to think that the only way to stay in touch with a lot of people I care about, is through this website, because they'll completely forget about me if I'm not on there and making myself visible. I miss the good, old fashioned e-mails.

Still, I hang on to my account. This is partly because I don't want to fall completely out of the loop (despite the fact that I ignore most of the invites I get anyway, because I rarely feel like going out anyway). Mostly, however, it's to be able to stay in touch with people I know from my years abroad - just in case I might want to visit them some day.

Like the OP, there are a few people on facebook that just make me feel excluded and forgotten. I've dealt with this by removing their updates from my newsfeed, as well as put them on a restricted list - it doesn't feel too bad to not get comments on something I post when I know that they haven't been able to see it.

Besides, facebook has gotten shitty lately, with their new newsfeed layout and such. I use g+ way more.

lots of people have fake facebook personas. personally i used mine too much for venting....and that probably wasn't right......so i sstopped that and now only use it to play the games X.x

I deleted my facebook about 3 months ago; I just wasn't getting anything good out of it. Of all the fb contacts I had that I actually still talked to, I didn't use fb to talk to them. The ones I didn't talk to, I didn't care about anymore and I'm sure it was vice versa. It just became a distraction of looking at glimpses of other people's lives, which ultimately made me feel lonelier than if I just hadn't been thinking about it. I can understand using it to keep in touch with people, but aside from that I find it pretty useless. I was glad to be rid of it, and it seemed like a small weight or piece of clutter had been removed from my life. I haven't regretted my decision yet.

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Minus said:

...I understand that some people think it is more fun than a bag of greased weasels and that is fine.

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Lol anyone who thinks that hasn't tried the greased weasels xD

Hi...

Facebook appears to be a place to which you go when you already have other friends to go there, also. It seems like one of the worst possible places to go in order to locate friends and to interact with them.

One thing Facebook is not...is a place to go to be liked - it's merely another place in a lonelyologist's life whereat they get to see how many others absolutely like each other, and not them! It's a form of organised buzzkill; robosocialising - without the warmth of real socialising!

A: "I like you."
B: "Oh, but I like you even more."
A: "Oh, no...I'm pretty sure I like you more than you like me."
B: "Now, look...I have the market cornered on liking you!"
A: "Yes, well I have a Teacher's Degree in liking, so that's much better."
B: "I don't accept it! You couldn't like me more than I like you - it says so on Wikipedia."
A: "I must insist that my liking for you is deep and multifold."
B: "I'm a 'Liking People' tutor for my local college - so there!"
A: "Oh...okay! You win! I must be more likeable than you, after all...ever-so-LOL!"

...yawn...

Ian.

Ian Haines said:

A: "I like you."
B: "Oh, but I like you even more."
A: "Oh, no...I'm pretty sure I like you more than you like me."
B: "Now, look...I have the market cornered on liking you!"
A: "Yes, well I have a Teacher's Degree in liking, so that's much better."
B: "I don't accept it! You couldn't like me more than I like you - it says so on Wikipedia."
A: "I must insist that my liking for you is deep and multifold."
B: "I'm a 'Liking People' tutor for my local college - so there!"
A: "Oh...okay! You win! I must be more likeable than you, after all...ever-so-LOL!"

...yawn...

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Haha, I swear this sort of conversation appears at least once if I check my facebook.