Ekstra
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Since 8th grade or so I've always been on the margin, my social life wasn't much beyond school, I spent way too much in front of computer and I was pretty well involved in online communities. I did have my fun during Middle and High School, wasn't popular but I was a character and had something to offer, I was seen as a little eccentric. I didn't care much for my social life and I didn't try.
Since I've started college though (2nd year now), my circle of friends are far apart from me. I've been commuting to college (NYC) so I've lived with my parents. I used to really care about being financially independent. Now though, I just lack the motivation to move out since I've realized my life has no value because apart from my parents who might care for me, and I do owe them a lot, which makes me feel like the only reason to live to to repay my debt to them, apart from that I have no ambition. Classes are now large and I'm a person who rarely communicates with others unless it is necessary. I have trouble warming up to people, I rarely acknowledge their presence. Even if it is someone I know, I might often fail to recognize them. I can communicate professionally if I have some business with them but I'm horrible at just being friendly and I'm sure it drives people away from me thinking I'm a cold person so neither of us break the ice.
I feel lonely now because my friendships from high school are no longer existent because though I hanged out with them, they weren't of any emotional value. I'm also removed from my online "social life" because I used to play a certain MMO, I don't anymore and I've lost touch with the community. Recently I noticed that nobody really talks to me online, I talk to them, so I have the feeling I'm of no value to them nor my high school friends.
I think I've kept everyone far away from me because of my eccentricity, not only am I not friendly to people I don't know well, I'm also a bit "out there." I could go on and on about a completely random topic and I can't stop talking once i get started, I'm also very sarcastic and few people share my sense of humor. I fail at being a friendly nice person, I'm always either reserved and removing my self from society or bouncing off the walls and talkative enough to alienate those that do get close. On a related note, I'm horrible at lying and small talk which is part of why I push people away, though I don't try to, it is just who I am.
I have often questioned my sanity, and it is pretty clear I'm missing a good chunk of it and I'm not sure how bad it is. Not that I regret it, I think I'm an interesting person who can be expected to say or do the unexpected and outrageous, but for most people that would be a reason to be cautious. I'm sure I can completely shut that part of me off, but that is who I am, and who I like to be, it has been rare for that side of me to the accepted except on a couple of occasions, one is a childhood friend who is now quite far away, and though we understand each other, we just have little to do with each other. The other person was someone who I thought was equally eccentric yet ultimately didn't place much value on either so again the string broke because I pulled too hard.
At the lowest point, I thought "heh, I wonder, it would probably just lead to some dating site but lets see" And I typed in "no friends lonely" on google to see what happened, I found that moviecodec site...quite amazing really, 32,000 posts all started by one random post by a guy who was lonely, I clicked the banner and ended up here.
That is my story, please judge and criticize me to your content, I would appreciate that more than words of encouragement.
Thanks for reading this unnecessarily long post. You can call me extra.
Since I've started college though (2nd year now), my circle of friends are far apart from me. I've been commuting to college (NYC) so I've lived with my parents. I used to really care about being financially independent. Now though, I just lack the motivation to move out since I've realized my life has no value because apart from my parents who might care for me, and I do owe them a lot, which makes me feel like the only reason to live to to repay my debt to them, apart from that I have no ambition. Classes are now large and I'm a person who rarely communicates with others unless it is necessary. I have trouble warming up to people, I rarely acknowledge their presence. Even if it is someone I know, I might often fail to recognize them. I can communicate professionally if I have some business with them but I'm horrible at just being friendly and I'm sure it drives people away from me thinking I'm a cold person so neither of us break the ice.
I feel lonely now because my friendships from high school are no longer existent because though I hanged out with them, they weren't of any emotional value. I'm also removed from my online "social life" because I used to play a certain MMO, I don't anymore and I've lost touch with the community. Recently I noticed that nobody really talks to me online, I talk to them, so I have the feeling I'm of no value to them nor my high school friends.
I think I've kept everyone far away from me because of my eccentricity, not only am I not friendly to people I don't know well, I'm also a bit "out there." I could go on and on about a completely random topic and I can't stop talking once i get started, I'm also very sarcastic and few people share my sense of humor. I fail at being a friendly nice person, I'm always either reserved and removing my self from society or bouncing off the walls and talkative enough to alienate those that do get close. On a related note, I'm horrible at lying and small talk which is part of why I push people away, though I don't try to, it is just who I am.
I have often questioned my sanity, and it is pretty clear I'm missing a good chunk of it and I'm not sure how bad it is. Not that I regret it, I think I'm an interesting person who can be expected to say or do the unexpected and outrageous, but for most people that would be a reason to be cautious. I'm sure I can completely shut that part of me off, but that is who I am, and who I like to be, it has been rare for that side of me to the accepted except on a couple of occasions, one is a childhood friend who is now quite far away, and though we understand each other, we just have little to do with each other. The other person was someone who I thought was equally eccentric yet ultimately didn't place much value on either so again the string broke because I pulled too hard.
At the lowest point, I thought "heh, I wonder, it would probably just lead to some dating site but lets see" And I typed in "no friends lonely" on google to see what happened, I found that moviecodec site...quite amazing really, 32,000 posts all started by one random post by a guy who was lonely, I clicked the banner and ended up here.
That is my story, please judge and criticize me to your content, I would appreciate that more than words of encouragement.
Thanks for reading this unnecessarily long post. You can call me extra.