Friends first or not?
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bearscut10
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I prefer to get to know them.
oopsiedoop
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This is a crucial question to me because I much prefer to be friends first. But, then finding out if it's more is so painful it's never worked out for me.
IgnoredOne
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Okiedokes said:
Vaguely. Its usually pretty obvious after the first month or less if I'm interested in her or not. The friendzone is real and dangerous.
IgnoredOne
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Sprint said:
Practice passive-aggression and treat her as a substitute mommy to weep to, and you too shall discover the friendzone.
IgnoredOne
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Sprint said:
my life sux, everything is unfair to me, why is it so unfair,wah, why do i still live with my parents in their basement now and have no job please be my g/f now and fix everything wrong in my life which is not at all my fault.
LoneKiller
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I think that being friends 1st is a good foundation for dating. Makes the date go much smoother in my opinion.
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Friends first? not for me. thanks lol. I get the whole wanting to get to know someone better, to get a better grasp of that persons personality, friends, family, habits, opinions, bra size, whatever. Trying to get it on with someone you already know is by far a safer (and perhaps more sanitized) approach. Its also a lot easier. But... Where`s the fun in that? I don't wanna be with someone I grew up with, and shared most of my life`s drama. To me that`s boring. If I know everything there is to know about her, and she knows everything about me - than there`s no sense of excitement or danger in it. There`s no adrenalin rush. No sense of discovery. That`s simply not so special, in my opinion. To each his own, of course.
Bluey
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bearscut10 said:
Me too.
I would feel much moor comfortable doing it that way.
I have only had two long term relationships in my life and both I got to know as friends first.
Seventh said:
What happens when you know most things about the person after awhile of dating?
Sprint said:
So you would like to have female friends or you want to be their friend before dating and they prefer to date right away?
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shells
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I like the idea of being friends first. It goes beyond just skin-deep attraction... Or should, rather.
xrchz
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The problem is that so many girls don't want a relationship, so if you're friends first you'll get stuck there. But it is good to be friends with whomever you're dating. So it would be great if there were some way to be clear that you intend to have a romantic relationship but still take it slow and get to know them first as friends. How does one set that up with a girl?
xrchz said:
I guess that is something that would have to be made clear at the beginning. Then there's the chance of finding out you may not really like each other and then the deal would be off. Safer though, right?
xrchz
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But how do you make it clear? Do you have to say something explicitly?
In person it might be kinda awkward...but if you ask them in a general way if they are looking for a relationship or liking the single life. And if they are looking for something serious, then you could say how you feel ..that you are looking but want to take it real slow. I think those dating websites are great for that kind of info because it usually has it written for what the person wants and other details.
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I would prefer getting to know her well at first, as a friend. Though I even fail to establish that part, for some reason. I tend to take things too slow and careful, while thinking too much and expecting the worst.
I see these "straight-to-the-point" relationships all the time in films, I just don't see how something like that could work out for me.
I see these "straight-to-the-point" relationships all the time in films, I just don't see how something like that could work out for me.
