TheSolitaryMan
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Hey guys,
I'm sorry for the dramatic thread title, but unfortunately it's true. I feel so lost at the moment.
Have you ever just been totally blindsided by something about someone? Just totally surprised?
This girl I've liked for about 5-6 months now, call her A...I was at a social event today and one of her friends just started joking with me about how she's slept or is sleeping with some random guy. Apparently said guy is also sleeping with her friends, he's just being passed around or something.
It just felt like such a punch in the gut. I really can't explain it. A was present when it was mentioned, she seemed really embarrassed that I heard (though she did laugh it off). My face was just burning up after that, I just thought "Wow. What a ******* huge miscalculation I made. What a fool I am."
I don't get it at all. For the whole 5-6 months I've been chatting with her a bit, talking to her friends and so on. Her friends have been actively encouraging me to get to know her, sort of helping me out, they all seem to like me. She seems to like me.
Then this.
Literally everything about the girl said to me that she's a really nice, innocent, "good" girl. Someone who would be interested in having a really decent boyfriend. She comes from a nice family, went to an all-girl school, has good manners, talks nicely, seems to get shy with sort of "off-colour" stuff and just seemed all around lovely.
Now I hear she's ******* some random guy who's like the group sex toy. I feel so, so disappointed. I can't help but think that whoever that guy is, the ******* got further with her in 10 pathetic minutes than I have in 6 months. I don't even get why the girl wanted to get coffee with me, stuff like that, if she just wants to sleep around.
Even worse, I think I may know the guy she slept with. He's an arrogant wanker, thinks he's amazing. I guess he must be.
I feel like utter honeysuckle. I've had a bit of a cry, as pussyish as that is. Never have I felt like I've totally got someone wrong, but I have with her.
All my worrying, all my feeling of "Wow, this girl seems special, maybe she likes me?" has been utterly futile. She probably never gave a fresia about me, or my feelings, for that whole time period. Even now, I don't think she realises how much that little bit of information stung me.
Worse, it's starting to feel like I'm the only person with principles in my class. Everyone else seems to be out just doing one-night stands, now even the people I would never have thought would do that.
I'm so, so, so sick of seeing horrible guys getting with girls all the time, especially the ones I like. It pisses me off. I just don't understand why the stuff I have to offer - security, humour, passion, genuine feelings and caring - are apparently worth absolutely nothing.
Everyone tells me, all the time, how "the right girl will realise how lucky she is to have you", but apparently this is bull. Right now, all I do is sit on the sidelines, watching arsehats creak bedsprings with the girls I've been building something up with.
I'm done now. I'm sorry.
I'm sorry for the dramatic thread title, but unfortunately it's true. I feel so lost at the moment.
Have you ever just been totally blindsided by something about someone? Just totally surprised?
This girl I've liked for about 5-6 months now, call her A...I was at a social event today and one of her friends just started joking with me about how she's slept or is sleeping with some random guy. Apparently said guy is also sleeping with her friends, he's just being passed around or something.
It just felt like such a punch in the gut. I really can't explain it. A was present when it was mentioned, she seemed really embarrassed that I heard (though she did laugh it off). My face was just burning up after that, I just thought "Wow. What a ******* huge miscalculation I made. What a fool I am."
I don't get it at all. For the whole 5-6 months I've been chatting with her a bit, talking to her friends and so on. Her friends have been actively encouraging me to get to know her, sort of helping me out, they all seem to like me. She seems to like me.
Then this.
Literally everything about the girl said to me that she's a really nice, innocent, "good" girl. Someone who would be interested in having a really decent boyfriend. She comes from a nice family, went to an all-girl school, has good manners, talks nicely, seems to get shy with sort of "off-colour" stuff and just seemed all around lovely.
Now I hear she's ******* some random guy who's like the group sex toy. I feel so, so disappointed. I can't help but think that whoever that guy is, the ******* got further with her in 10 pathetic minutes than I have in 6 months. I don't even get why the girl wanted to get coffee with me, stuff like that, if she just wants to sleep around.
Even worse, I think I may know the guy she slept with. He's an arrogant wanker, thinks he's amazing. I guess he must be.
I feel like utter honeysuckle. I've had a bit of a cry, as pussyish as that is. Never have I felt like I've totally got someone wrong, but I have with her.
All my worrying, all my feeling of "Wow, this girl seems special, maybe she likes me?" has been utterly futile. She probably never gave a fresia about me, or my feelings, for that whole time period. Even now, I don't think she realises how much that little bit of information stung me.
Worse, it's starting to feel like I'm the only person with principles in my class. Everyone else seems to be out just doing one-night stands, now even the people I would never have thought would do that.
I'm so, so, so sick of seeing horrible guys getting with girls all the time, especially the ones I like. It pisses me off. I just don't understand why the stuff I have to offer - security, humour, passion, genuine feelings and caring - are apparently worth absolutely nothing.
Everyone tells me, all the time, how "the right girl will realise how lucky she is to have you", but apparently this is bull. Right now, all I do is sit on the sidelines, watching arsehats creak bedsprings with the girls I've been building something up with.
I'm done now. I'm sorry.