Hi, my name is Autumn. I found this site while typing in I'm married but I feel so alone.
And as I'm sure that there are hundreds if not thousands of these posts on here, I thought that there maybe others who can help me with my current situation, if not, then relate... Well here it goes.
My husband and I have been married for 4 years now. Oh where to go with this.... I recently told him that I needed a break from US because I felt alone in the relationship. That he didn't care about me and what I had to say, I think that the thing that pushed me over the edge is that twice he called me useless. The first time he didn't apologize for three days and the second he said that he didn't mean it. So I told him that I just need some time to think things over.
Well... I'm not sure if you know how hard it is to get away from your husband when you really have no where else to go. My sister lives an hour from me, which makes it a pain in the ass to stay with her because of work and gas, not to mention that she has a two year old running around and I'd be on the couch.
So our "break" if you can call it that has been nothing different from what we usually do, we sleep in the same bed. I mean, we already spend no time together. I would be in here (my office) and him out playing games on his PS3 or too busy watching TV to notice me.
What we currently have for communication, and have had for about the past year is he comes home from work (he works later then I do) comes in and say "Hi, how was your day." the normal answer is "fine, you?" then he tells me that his was the same, then leaves my office. Seriously, that's it. and the "I love you" In the morning.
Weekends are no different. For about the past two months I've been going out with friends because he doesn't want to do anything then either. Here's where the problem I have comes in. I recently started hanging out with a friend that I used to work with at another job. He just told me that he used to have a thing for me back when we worked together and that he still likes me like that. I never really thought of him like that before, but now that it's put right in front of me I can picture starting something with him. I was with him at his house the other day and out of no where he kissed me. Eventually we started making out, but didn't go any further. I have to say... I'm truly into him.
NOW here's the even more messed up thing and most of you will probably want to kick my ass, but here it goes... He's engaged. Yup... What the F*ck do I do here? I mean we'll hang out before his fiance gets home, then I'll leave, but he'll be txting me, even with her there, telling me that he wishes that I didn't leave. I mean, I know that if we ever by any chance did end up together that I could never really trust him 100% because of what he's doing now... Not to mention that I feel like he's using me...
I want to know what I should do about my husband. He doesn't want me to leave him. But I already feel alone even when we're together. I don't know if it's really even worth fighting for. I've told him why I'm not happy and he wont do anything to change it. He just came in here and asked me for literally the 10th time what's wrong and how can he fix it. I told him that I'm done telling him because he clearly isn't listening. It's not like I can tell him, "No more games, no more ignoring me...." ya know? He's 26, He should be able to think of these things on his own, I'm not his mother, nor did I sign up to be.
I know that I maybe coming off as a ***** here, but after you get married and your husband says "I don't do those things anymore because I don't need to impress you." It kind of takes a toll on you.
Any advice?
And as I'm sure that there are hundreds if not thousands of these posts on here, I thought that there maybe others who can help me with my current situation, if not, then relate... Well here it goes.
My husband and I have been married for 4 years now. Oh where to go with this.... I recently told him that I needed a break from US because I felt alone in the relationship. That he didn't care about me and what I had to say, I think that the thing that pushed me over the edge is that twice he called me useless. The first time he didn't apologize for three days and the second he said that he didn't mean it. So I told him that I just need some time to think things over.
Well... I'm not sure if you know how hard it is to get away from your husband when you really have no where else to go. My sister lives an hour from me, which makes it a pain in the ass to stay with her because of work and gas, not to mention that she has a two year old running around and I'd be on the couch.
So our "break" if you can call it that has been nothing different from what we usually do, we sleep in the same bed. I mean, we already spend no time together. I would be in here (my office) and him out playing games on his PS3 or too busy watching TV to notice me.
What we currently have for communication, and have had for about the past year is he comes home from work (he works later then I do) comes in and say "Hi, how was your day." the normal answer is "fine, you?" then he tells me that his was the same, then leaves my office. Seriously, that's it. and the "I love you" In the morning.
Weekends are no different. For about the past two months I've been going out with friends because he doesn't want to do anything then either. Here's where the problem I have comes in. I recently started hanging out with a friend that I used to work with at another job. He just told me that he used to have a thing for me back when we worked together and that he still likes me like that. I never really thought of him like that before, but now that it's put right in front of me I can picture starting something with him. I was with him at his house the other day and out of no where he kissed me. Eventually we started making out, but didn't go any further. I have to say... I'm truly into him.
NOW here's the even more messed up thing and most of you will probably want to kick my ass, but here it goes... He's engaged. Yup... What the F*ck do I do here? I mean we'll hang out before his fiance gets home, then I'll leave, but he'll be txting me, even with her there, telling me that he wishes that I didn't leave. I mean, I know that if we ever by any chance did end up together that I could never really trust him 100% because of what he's doing now... Not to mention that I feel like he's using me...
I want to know what I should do about my husband. He doesn't want me to leave him. But I already feel alone even when we're together. I don't know if it's really even worth fighting for. I've told him why I'm not happy and he wont do anything to change it. He just came in here and asked me for literally the 10th time what's wrong and how can he fix it. I told him that I'm done telling him because he clearly isn't listening. It's not like I can tell him, "No more games, no more ignoring me...." ya know? He's 26, He should be able to think of these things on his own, I'm not his mother, nor did I sign up to be.
I know that I maybe coming off as a ***** here, but after you get married and your husband says "I don't do those things anymore because I don't need to impress you." It kind of takes a toll on you.
Any advice?