LeaningIntoTheMuse said:
I feel insecure about my opinions, because I have been questioned for them before. I also have gotten into fights on here.
I still post, but sometimes I wonder if I am wasting time here?
When someone questions your opinion, you feel as if they are questioning your character too, right? You're afraid of being seen as silly or stupid?
It's as someone once said: "To err is human". We're all frequently "wrong" about a lot of things, but that doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with us as a person, and it shouldn't discourage us from discussions. Charles Darwin was wrong about a lot of things in biology as well. Albert Einstein's opinions were far from flawless as well. Imagine if they too thought that they were wasting everyone's time and didn't end up contributing any of their thoughts to society.
I think the point of discussion should be to offer different viewpoints and the reasoning behind them to get closer to the truth. If someone questions my opinions in a constructive manner, I try to be thankful to them for helping me learn more about the topic at hand.
Of course an issue is that a lot of people take things too personal, and it can lead to unpleasant fights. This has discouraged me as well, but in the end we can just walk away when the temperature gets too hot.
We can also try avoiding language that may be interpreted as too aggressive. For example instead of writing "you're delusional if you think that really god exists", you can be more passive and constructive, and write "I don't mean to offend you, but personally I find it difficult to believe that there is a god because X and Y".