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Solitary man

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I watched a program about Tourettes Syndrome and one of the sufferers said that the immediate precursor to the vocal aspect of his tics, where he would shout an expletive and/or something offensive out loud was due to thinking of the worst possible thing that you could possibly say to a person, and then being unable to contain it, his tic would immediately activate and he would vocalise it.

For example, when he came into contact with a black person on the street he shouted "n*gger" out loud, and when he was sitting on the bus there was a morbidly obsese guy sitting in front of him, he struggled to contain it for as long as he could, then "fat *******!" emanated from his mouth. I thought this was hilarious,:D, but understand the political incorrectness of viewing the behaviour of people who suffer from neuropsychiatric disorders as funny, so it's just as well I don't give a fresia about political correctness.

Yesterday I visited a fancy dentists. It was a very upmarket dental practice, and they market themselves as "excellence in dentistry"; all very elitist, with cosmetic dentistry being their speciality. I don't like upper crust places like this, but I needed to go there to have some specialist dental treatment. When I went in I noticed that the receptionist had what could only be described as a facial disfigurement. Her mouth in particular had a very unusual appearance to say the least (I'm being kind here).

Sitting there I was thinking "What on earth are these snobby elitist dentists, with their obsession with cosmetic appearances and the perfect smile doing hiring a woman whose mouth looks like it has just been beaten with a baseball bat? Then I thought "If I suffered from Tourettes no doubt I would have shouted something very offensive and hurtful by now, ...so it's probably just as well I don't."

This might be an impertinent question, but be honest; have you ever just wanted to say exactly what was on your mind, and regardless of the consequences? Like just not giving a fresia?
 
Solitary man said:
This might be an impertinent question, but be honest; have you ever just wanted to say exactly what was on your mind, and regardless of the consequences? Like just not giving a fresia?


Every **** day.
 
I do that now. And some people have a problem with it. But it's not my problem if they have an issue. Everyone should say what's on their mind. There would be a lot less confusion in the world about what was said.
 
I know one thing for sure, if I did I would be banned from the forum and I'm sure no one would talk to me. :p
 
I see nothing wrong with keeping your thoughts to yourself sometimes. Just because you CAN say something, doesn't mean you need to or have to. There's such a thing as tact and common sense that will usually let people know when what they're really thinking will cause more harm than good by saying it.


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Everyone of us are responsible for what comes out of our mouths, IMO.
 
EveWasFramed said:
I see nothing wrong with keeping your thoughts to yourself sometimes. Just because you CAN say something, doesn't mean you need to or have to. There's such a thing as tact and common sense that will usually let people know when what they're really thinking will cause more harm than good by saying it.


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Everyone of us are responsible for what comes out of our mouths, IMO.



Yes, this is what compels me to bite my tongue.

honeysuckle, people think I am outspoken now? They've got no clue how much there is that I don't say just for the sake of keeping things on an even keel.

But then I do hit that limit where I've had enough bullshit and I just can not keep from speaking my mind.

It's a balancing act.
 
tangerinedream said:
EveWasFramed said:
I see nothing wrong with keeping your thoughts to yourself sometimes. Just because you CAN say something, doesn't mean you need to or have to. There's such a thing as tact and common sense that will usually let people know when what they're really thinking will cause more harm than good by saying it.


Edit:
Everyone of us are responsible for what comes out of our mouths, IMO.



Yes, this is what compels me to bite my tongue.

honeysuckle, people think I am outspoken now? They've got no clue how much there is that I don't say just for the sake of keeping things on an even keel.

But then I do hit that limit where I've had enough bullshit and I just can not keep from speaking my mind.

It's a balancing act.



+1 :D
 
tangerinedream said:
EveWasFramed said:
I see nothing wrong with keeping your thoughts to yourself sometimes. Just because you CAN say something, doesn't mean you need to or have to. There's such a thing as tact and common sense that will usually let people know when what they're really thinking will cause more harm than good by saying it.


Edit:
Everyone of us are responsible for what comes out of our mouths, IMO.



Yes, this is what compels me to bite my tongue.

honeysuckle, people think I am outspoken now? They've got no clue how much there is that I don't say just for the sake of keeping things on an even keel.

But then I do hit that limit where I've had enough bullshit and I just can not keep from speaking my mind.

It's a balancing act.



It's also what makes me bite my tongue... and often. People have no idea the stuff I do hold back.
 
Barbaloot said:
I know one thing for sure, if I did I would be banned from the forum and I'm sure no one would talk to me. :p

I've been banned from lots of forums for exercising freedom of speech. There seems to be a whole raft of sites whose admin and moderators take great pleasure in denying posters this most crucial of civil liberties. I cannot prevent myself from exercising this fundamental right, and especially when it looks like the cyber-powers that be are attempting to stifle or eliminate it.

You don't have to be in China to experience what I'm talking about.
 
Wow, that'd be horrible (the case of the Tourettes guy).

I've always preferred to keep my thoughts to myself, even if it's something nice I think about someone. I guess it's just how I've been since a kid.
 
TheSolitaryMan said:
Wow, that'd be horrible (the case of the Tourettes guy).

I've always preferred to keep my thoughts to myself, even if it's something nice I think about someone. I guess it's just how I've been since a kid.

I'm exactly the same way. I very rarely criticize someone except in rare, and extreme circumstances where I feel the need to defend myself or where I become angry enough that I lose my normal level of self control.

Shyness and a degree of social anxiety also keep me from giving out compliments unless I'm countering someone else compliment to me. It's something that I certainly want to work on because a nice and sincere compliment can really cheer people up, and it gives off a good impression if you do it right.
 
I remember a "Dexter's Laboratory" episode where this happened to dexter and anything he would think would be vocalized. I wonder if anyoe here knows about that one. :D
You know I think it would be better if people said what was o their minds when they know it needs to be said, can be very hard though.
 
That would be awful.. I would really hate such a thing to occur. It is not I have many ill things to say.. I do not.. of course, some people, my impression of them is not so good.. But I have no wish to express to such people, and do not think they would care what I think of them, any way. And it would do no good to tell them it.

But it would be to tell other sorts of thoughts. To tell some person, "I am afraid of you", "I do not feel comfortable to be around you", the result of this would be terrible. If not just to make them feel awkward, probably such a person would take advantage of it! And worse is to tell good things, I think. So many people I encounter, could tell them, I think they are wise, or kind, intelligent, or like to talk to them, and so on, but to tell them this is embarassing, because I am sure they do not think so favorable of me. And it would not go well.

So, I am glad to be able to keep my thoughts to myself
 
If I said everything that I thought, people would actually be pretty **** surprised how much I actually keep to myself. That said, I'm pretty outspoken and blunt about most things.
 
Callie said:
If I said everything that I thought, people would actually be pretty **** surprised how much I actually keep to myself. That said, I'm pretty outspoken and blunt about most things.

Me too, and especially on the internet. I seem to have a natural capacity to rile megalomaniac moderators just by expressing a point of view.

 
I am a direct person (with tactfulness) most of the time.

However, at work, I get into minor trouble sometimes because I give a blunt, honest answer about things.

For the most part, people respect it; but when life has me at a point where i have no filters, i am too direct and truthful without tactfulness.

What you see is what you get from me - i do not change in the beginning, middle, or end of a relationship - I am just a straight up person for better or worse.
 
Sometimes I wish I could say what I thought. But then again, if I said hurtful things, even if they were honest and truthful, the regret and guilt would haunt me.

Work, well that's a different story. Let's just say, I have learned the hard way, that I have to be more blunt about things at work and speak what's on my mind more.
 
Well, it would probably be something akin to what happened to Peter Griffin on Family Guy (you know, the episode in which he recalled narrating his day). I could entertain the masses for a good while.


She awoke the next day feeling quite sore. Wrapped in sheets, bare to the skin, she proceeded to crawl to a nearby window. Outside birds sang in unison as the sun began its ascension into the morning sky. A cool breeze entered and kissed her gently. A faint raspy sound interrupted the blissful moment. Glancing back she spotted a still figure emitting the intruding sound. Stealthily the young woman climbed out of bed and tiptoed across the room. She watched her prey silently as a malicious smile played on her lips. Reaching out she pinched the other's nose, held the position, and waited.

"Dude, wtf!?"

Afraid of receiving punishment the woman dashed out the room.

(Oh, yes. All this being told in third person by me)
 
I pretty much say my thoughts out loud all the time anyway. fresia hiding it.

I think it's good for people to know where I stand on things at all times. Until it's advantageous for me to NOT let them know, that is.

That's what people don't understand about me sometimes...

...just because I share my thoughts freely and loudly doesn't mean that I can't hide other things or that I can't refrain from sharing my thoughts.

I guess it's like the whole, "A LOUD FART FROM AN OBVIOUS CULPRIT WILL HIDE SEVERAL SMALLER EMISSIONS FROM THOSE IN THE SAME ROOM AT THE SAME TIME," thing.

If I loudly share my thoughts that I don't mind sharing, it makes it easier to hide the thoughts and feelings that REALLY count.
 

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