Proper strip club etiquette

So I am at the strip club with a couple of my buddies and we grabbed a table close to perverts row but not quite on it. We grabbed a round of beers and prepared to watch some women take their clothes off while we awaited a pleasant night of commenting on their bodies and treating them like objects.

So it begins, the waitress is doing her job of making sure to check every 20 seconds that you have something to drink and you've been there a couple of hours and seen a handful of girls do their thing on stage. At this point the dancers who have finished their turn will put on skimpy outfits and walk around the room asking everyone if they want to spend $20 for a lapdance in the private lounge.

But here's the thing, they don't just poke you and ask you straight up, they sit down all smiles, ask your name and how you're doing and then chat you up for a few minutes before asking, and then look somewhat annoyed when you say you're not interested. (Not that I wasn't interested, just that I wasn't $20 interested)

I'm never quite sure what to do at this point, I feel like I wasted her time by letting her continue the foreplay when I could have just said right away "Sorry I don't want a dance" as soon as she sat down, but that also seems like a kind of rude thing to do, even though it would probably help her out since she wouldn't be wasting a bunch of time on me which could be spent asking someone else.

What is the proper thing to do in this situation? I mean the obvious answer would be don't go to a strip club when you're not prepared to spend the extra money. But it's always been considered that the lapdances are something above and beyond what is expected of you to buy while there.

Well LimLim, strippers don't give to craps about you. They don't care if you're rude or whatever, they just want your money. It's their job. So by you telling her before hand...it's saving her time she could have been spending on someone who was willing to pay. It's not rude at all.

Excellent question. And, if I may say, it raises a very moral debate.

Anyway, since you're already treating them as objects... If the strip show isn't bad, then why not pay for the lap dance? Just like a waiter at a restaurant, or in this case like Hooters, is kind and submissive, why not give a bigger tip? Good show, attractive strippers, why not get a 20 dollar lap dance? And, morally speaking, strippers also have to make an honest day's living! If I can recall, being a stripper is the second oldest profession in the world.

So, it is held in my highest of moral beliefs, that if the stripping is good, you should always get the lap dance.

Well the tipping process occurs when money is thrown on stage during the dance, so the lapdance after is something apart from all that. Additionally if the girl doesn't really do it for me, I'm not always going to be interested in the dance. I'll end up sitting there not really enjoying myself when I would rather have hung around with my buddies and watched the next girl do her thing. It is really important to clarify that the lapdancing after is a separate service and shouldn't really be considered part of the tip

I suppose at the same time though, I don't believe in tipping for less than above average service (be that at a restaurant or strip club). Some of the dancing wasn't the greatest.

If that is so, then skip the lap dance.

And I agree, tip only for excellent performances.

I don't get the whole lap dance thing. It's just a dance that makes you horny but it doesn't really 'solve' it.... If I ever go to one of those places I'd go just to watch and then maybe pick up a girl to make a more 'complete' lapdance privately Tough they're a bit overpriced in those places.

If you don't wanna talk to them, you are in no obligation to do so... make them go away, you're only saving them time as it was said above. They don't really wanna talk to you lol.

I'd tell her right away, it would surprise me that her motive is to make friends lol. If she sticks around , well at least she has been warned that she wont get any money out of you.

I do that with guys when i go out, they ask me to dance, i tell them '' if your trying to pick me up your wasting your time. Some just leave, others stick around and we end up dancing and having fun all evening.

Haha, I know exactly what you mean. I usually just screw around and ask them about stuff like their biggest ever party.

IambicBlonde said:

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I prefer the term descerning. I like lapdances, but only from dancers that appeal to me. After all you wouldn't get a haircut from someone who does a shitty job cutting hair, would you?

Im feeling pretty horny after the whole affair to be honest. Interested in some man loving?

IambicBlonde said:

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Um, I'm sorry, but I've been to strip clubs too. How does that make him a loser when the MAJORITY of the population have been to a strip club at least once?

Oh and NO, I wasn't stripping...

I have to say, the idea of strip clubs in general makes me a little uncomfortable. Perhaps that's illogical? I don't know.

It's just sort of the concept of guys paying to look at girls take their clothes off is kind of weird to me. My idea of etiquette in such a place would be to stare at the floor from entrance to exit I think!

Not that I'm passing judgement on people who do that, of course. I think in your position Limlim, perhaps you should just say "Hi, I'm not interested in anything else, thanks."

At least that way you're being polite and at the same time you're not wasting the girl's time? She almost certainly just wants to maximise her income, so she'd probably appreciate the blunt honesty if anything.

I think that's sort of what makes me uncomfortable with the concept, actually. Just the idea that girls dance like that, but purely for cash rather than any kind of enjoyment or personal attraction. It sounds so cold and clinical to me, kind of as detached as such an interaction can get.

But that's just my take on it, I imagine this thread isn't designed to be all-encompassing on lap-dancing ethics anyway!

I don't accept your apology, Callie. Loser.

IambicBlonde said:

I don't accept your apology, Callie. Loser.

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Well, I sincerely hope you know what SARCASM is....I'd say more, but why ruin it by getting myself in trouble.

Actually, I will say something else. For you to come on a site like THIS and call people losers because you can't see beyond your own life is so low I don't even have words to describe it. The MAJORITY of the people here have VERY low self esteem and OFTEN doubt themselves and to have you come in here and say things like that to people YOU DO NOT KNOW is just wrong. I may not be the nicest person on this forum, but I don't outright insult people and pretend I'm better than anyone else.

IambicBlonde said:

I don't accept your apology, Callie. Loser.

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Stop baiting other users, in "jest" or not, people are finding your comments offensive. If you're not going to post a reply to this thread actually addressing the OP, there is little point to you posting in it in the first place.

Thanks for the replies all! I'll try the blunt method during the next go. Going to be with a larger group this time so it'l be interesting to see how it pans out from their points of view.

Ak5 said:

Excellent question. And, if I may say, it raises a very moral debate.

Anyway, since you're already treating them as objects... If the strip show isn't bad, then why not pay for the lap dance? Just like a waiter at a restaurant, or in this case like Hooters, is kind and submissive, why not give a bigger tip? Good show, attractive strippers, why not get a 20 dollar lap dance? And, morally speaking, strippers also have to make an honest day's living! If I can recall, being a stripper is the second oldest profession in the world.

So, it is held in my highest of moral beliefs, that if the stripping is good, you should always get the lap dance.

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I don't know why. This made me lol

I some how highly doubt, if you interrupt the foreplay leading to trying to coax you into a lap dance, that the stripper will act any less annoyed. She may even act even more offended and try to play it off as she was actually just sincerely interested in you ever so slightly and how dare you assume all she was after was your wallet. I mean if I was putting on an act, I probably wouldn't jump out of character like that and respond to social gratuity, when the gratuity I'm after is money.

On a side note, I think lap dances would suck. I can't think of a bigger way to achieve blue balls, and to add insult to injury, the pain of the blow to your ego when your wallet size diminishes afterwards, heh.

I dont have to pay for lap dances and I dont get blue balls.lmao
She's not a stripper by profession. She loves dancing and being faminian.....
There's a pattern.Every woman that ive ever gotten into a relationship with dances for me.
Its also kind of thier wild sexual fantacy. They like to get in their little sexy outfits.
Some women can pull it off...some can't or dont chose to.
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On the other note I also know people very close to me that's in the entertainment
sexual industry.

So what is the fucken truth do you really wanna know?

Well fresia me...I've kissed mean bosses ass for fucken $20 an hour for years
to decades cuase I cant sale my fucken ass. i got mother fucken pimp

Dude - with all of that money you are spending, you might as well call an escort service - it might be cheaper and the real thing.

Limlim said:

Thanks for the replies all! I'll try the blunt method during the next go. Going to be with a larger group this time so it'l be interesting to see how it pans out from their points of view.

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