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I look on them every now and again. I do a search and look at the women. Every woman - I think 'she wouldn't be interested in me' - I go down the list until it ends.

I do this every 3 months or so.

 
Online dating-sometimes I think that hitting myself over the head with a hammer would be less painful.
What makes you think that the women wouldn't be interested in you? You always seem interesting and thoughful on here.
 
Tiina63 said:
Online dating-sometimes I think that hitting myself over the head with a hammer would be less painful.
What makes you think that the women wouldn't be interested in you? You always seem interesting and thoughful on here.

thank you for your kind words.

lots of reasons to answer your question. Mainly I look shockingly bad in photo's so women would take one look at me and that would be it.

I went onto google and I typed 'dating sites for ugly people' - as a joke really. I find a website, I added myself and had a look. The women were nice not ugly at all. I added my profile and a photo of me when I was 10 !

I winked at about 20 women. They all looked nice and had interests like me.

I also saw this woman I was dating before xmas. (She was the one who pretended she was on holiday and sent fake texts from another country ! while she was in fact still at home with another man) - god help any man who meets her !

 
putter65 said:
Tiina63 said:
Online dating-sometimes I think that hitting myself over the head with a hammer would be less painful.
What makes you think that the women wouldn't be interested in you? You always seem interesting and thoughful on here.

thank you for your kind words.

lots of reasons to answer your question. Mainly I look shockingly bad in photo's so women would take one look at me and that would be it.

I went onto google and I typed 'dating sites for ugly people' - as a joke really. I find a website, I added myself and had a look. The women were nice not ugly at all. I added my profile and a photo of me when I was 10 !

I winked at about 20 women. They all looked nice and had interests like me.

I also saw this woman I was dating before xmas. (She was the one who pretended she was on holiday and sent fake texts from another country ! while she was in fact still at home with another man) - god help any man who meets her !

I joined one and it cost £20 for one month.

I don't want to pay anymore. I've sent a few messages but I don't know what really to put. It seems alot of work for little reward. It all seems a bit of a con with extra money for this and extra money for that. And I'm getting emails left, right and centre saying all these women are interested blah.

 
It's been a total waste of time for me personally, on them.

I would advise being prepared for alot of time spent not getting anywhere whatsoever.

Paying for them would be even worse for me tbh, I gave up for good. They say most are not even real profiles nowadays
 
dannyr22 said:
It's been a total waste of time for me personally, on them.

I would advise being prepared for alot of time spent not getting anywhere whatsoever.

Paying for them would be even worse for me tbh, I gave up for good. They say most are not even real profiles nowadays

But we all know what websites you go on, eh? ;)
 
I used them alot a couple months ago. Every week I'd change my profile and pics. Never got any messages. I was on one for over a year, it was as if I wasn't even signed up. I don't blame myself for it anymore - it's a problem with the human race internally.
 
I don't think anyone should use them. You can't "find" love. It's something that just happens.
 
Hoffy said:
I don't think anyone should use them. You can't "find" love. It's something that just happens.

If you can't find love via dating websites then that would conclude you can't ever find love.
 
blackdot said:
Hoffy said:
I don't think anyone should use them. You can't "find" love. It's something that just happens.

If you can't find love via dating websites then that would conclude you can't ever find love.

wtf????
honeysuckle...man
Ive even had chicks hitted me up from this site.
You dont even know.....
1 chick is only 25. She's drop dead goregous.
She told straight up to fall in love with her.lol
She still talks to me every now and then on fb.

Another chick was gonna drive 500 miles just to come she see me...she dont care.lol
She used to call me everyday. We would have interesting conversations.

Yeah man...
Women actually cream in thier pants just talking to me. Trust me I know.
You dont even know.

Anyway Putter...
Do you have anytype of communications skills that you might need improvements on
with women? If you're gonna go the on-line route. Mature conversations.lol

I know women can be hard to understand becuase our parents or fathers didnt know
WTF to do with them.lmao So we wernt properly informed or educated on the matter.
There's plenty of informations on the web or books avaliable now adays, pretaining to women
and thier sexuality. To help men understand women better.

There's also plenty of books, vedios that will teach you now to get a woman off.
Not all women are gonna be the same...but it'll cover many aspects of it.
Totally get her off. She'll go into a spaziam for a couple of minutes as if she's having siezure.
But she'll have twinkle in her eyes after.lol
Anyone that say sex is boring and it's just mechanics..Just dont know better or had experinced.
You just gatta be mature and an aduilt about it....

It's like anything else in life...We must educate ourselves better.
It'll improve our chances. Not just dating but building relationships with them too.
Do our homework...So we're dont have to wing it or shot from the hips all the time.
 
Lonesome Crow said:
blackdot said:
Hoffy said:
I don't think anyone should use them. You can't "find" love. It's something that just happens.

If you can't find love via dating websites then that would conclude you can't ever find love.

wtf????
honeysuckle...man
Ive even had chicks hitted me up from this site.
You dont even know.....
1 chick is only 25. She's drop dead goregous.
She told straight up to fall in love with her.lol
She still talks to me every now and then on fb.

Another chick was gonna drive 500 miles just to come she see me...she dont care.lol
She used to call me everyday. We would have interesting conversations.

Yeah man...
Women actually cream in thier pants just talking to me. Trust me I know.
You dont even know.

Anyway Putter...
Do you have anytype of communications skills that you might need improvements on
with women? If you're gonna go the on-line route. Mature conversations.lol

I know women can be hard to understand becuase our parents or fathers didnt know
WTF to do with them.lmao So we wernt properly informed or educated on the matter.
There's plenty of informations on the web or books avaliable now adays, pretaining to women
and thier sexuality. To help men understand women better.

There's also plenty of books, vedios that will teach you now to get a woman off.
Not all women are gonna be the same...but it'll cover many aspects of it.
Totally get her off. She'll go into a spaziam for a couple of minutes as if she's having siezure.
But she'll have twinkle in her eyes after.lol
Anyone that say sex is boring and it's just mechanics..Just dont know better or had experinced.
You just gatta be mature and an aduilt about it....

It's like anything else in life...We must educate ourselves better.
It'll improve our chances. Not just dating but building relationships with them too.
Do our homework...So we're dont have to wing it or shot from the hips all the time.

i can talk to anybody about anything.

If i get the chance that is. I got 2 messages back, both wanting to see a photo of me. Makes you think doesn't it ?

 
putter65 said:
i can talk to anybody about anything.

If i get the chance that is. I got 2 messages back, both wanting to see a photo of me. Makes you think doesn't it ?

Really...you dont have a problem talking dirty to a chick.
Getting into graphy details of what you would do to her
to get her off?

 
Lonesome Crow said:
putter65 said:
i can talk to anybody about anything.

If i get the chance that is. I got 2 messages back, both wanting to see a photo of me. Makes you think doesn't it ?

Really...you dont have a problem talking dirty to a chick.
Getting into graphy details of what you would do to her
to get her off?

no, i thought you meant talking about politics or history or current affairs lol

 
I know that I have had the same thing happen on online dating sites-you write a nice letter which you have put a lot of effort and thought into to someone and get a one sentence reply asking you for your photo.
 
Tiina63 said:
I know that I have had the same thing happen on online dating sites-you write a nice letter which you have put a lot of effort and thought into to someone and get a one sentence reply asking you for your photo.

Well...yeah. It's like you're a freaken politicain or a salesperson
selling everything including the kitchen sink. looking for that
1 vote. LMAO

I didnt struggle that hard with getting replies from women
from on-line. I got used to chit chating with women from
verious parts of the world on interpal. For me it was mostly
just getting to know different people..different life style.
Differnt beliefs. Differnt cultrue. Differnent governments
and political system they live under.It helped open my mind
in a good way. All the women were pretty much my pen pal.lol

It has the same effect as just having female friends.
My intentions wasnt to have an intimate relationship with them
Being able to communicate with women. I felt more relaxed if
I wanted to date a woman.

My profile was off the wall laughable stuff...not the usual.
Not much to really go by.
As far as chating back and forth or flriting with women on line
I got used to it.

Never the less..on-line date site didnit work out too well for me.
I kind of got strung alone by a chick..coffee or a date in a couple
of days..for a couple of weeks.
So that was enough of that bullshit for me.
On line dating just created another barrier or obsticle for me. Instead of assisting me.
Just another fishing ground with more red tape.

I'll still get request from various site that I havnt even completed
a profile to. I dont even respond to them anymore.

So I went back to face to face. Yes or No right off the bat.
What they saw was what they were going to get.
The last time i was single or dating was decades ago.
I had enough experince with getting dates face to face.

Ive been into and out of real relationships in real life for the past
2 years...not just coffee or dating. Relationships as in playing
house and moving furniture.lmao

Anyway...you can tell if a chick is secure about her looks...
She'll have plenty of pics of her...full body shots in bikini or tight clothing.

You can try Fubar...that's a hell of a site.lmao
There's plenty of wild and crazy women in there...straigth up, they arnt shy.
Its a free socail network site for the party hardy people.
Kind of like my space on crack.lmao
 
Tiina63 said:
I know that I have had the same thing happen on online dating sites-you write a nice letter which you have put a lot of effort and thought into to someone and get a one sentence reply asking you for your photo.

yes happened to me. No hello's or anything like that. Just 'I want to look at your photo'



Limlim said:
Aren't you supposed to put a photo on your profile?

I only had one of me when I was 10. I have put a modern one now.

Lonesome Crow said:
Tiina63 said:
I know that I have had the same thing happen on online dating sites-you write a nice letter which you have put a lot of effort and thought into to someone and get a one sentence reply asking you for your photo.

Well...yeah. It's like you're a freaken politicain or a salesperson
selling everything including the kitchen sink. looking for that
1 vote. LMAO

I didnt struggle that hard with getting replies from women
from on-line. I got used to chit chating with women from
verious parts of the world on interpal. For me it was mostly
just getting to know different people..different life style.
Differnt beliefs. Differnt cultrue. Differnent governments
and political system they live under.It helped open my mind
in a good way. All the women were pretty much my pen pal.lol

It has the same effect as just having female friends.
My intentions wasnt to have an intimate relationship with them
Being able to communicate with women. I felt more relaxed if
I wanted to date a woman.

My profile was off the wall laughable stuff...not the usual.
Not much to really go by.
As far as chating back and forth or flriting with women on line
I got used to it.

Never the less..on-line date site didnit work out too well for me.
I kind of got strung alone by a chick..coffee or a date in a couple
of days..for a couple of weeks.
So that was enough of that bullshit for me.
On line dating just created another barrier or obsticle for me. Instead of assisting me.
Just another fishing ground with more red tape.

I'll still get request from various site that I havnt even completed
a profile to. I dont even respond to them anymore.

So I went back to face to face. Yes or No right off the bat.
What they saw was what they were going to get.
The last time i was single or dating was decades ago.
I had enough experince with getting dates face to face.

Ive been into and out of real relationships in real life for the past
2 years...not just coffee or dating. Relationships as in playing
house and moving furniture.lmao

Anyway...you can tell if a chick is secure about her looks...
She'll have plenty of pics of her...full body shots in bikini or tight clothing.

You can try Fubar...that's a hell of a site.lmao
There's plenty of wild and crazy women in there...straigth up, they arnt shy.
Its a free socail network site for the party hardy people.
Kind of like my space on crack.lmao

I've joined dating sites, wrote nothing in my profile, not included a photo and had dozens of replies from women wanting to meet me. It's a con of course to get you to pay money.

 
putter65 said:
I've joined dating sites, wrote nothing in my profile, not included a photo and had dozens of replies from women wanting to meet me. It's a con of course to get you to pay money.

Pretty much...
if i didnt complete or made a freaken profile to begin with..
how in the hell are the women going to click on my file.lmao
It's just a stupid letter head a program sending out emails.

What i did do was did a serch for women avaliable
in my area..( during the free trial) No recent activities for months
and very few women from my area actaully use any of those on-line sites.

Not unless I was willing to do long distance and phone sex.

I dont know about you..but if you had been in real relationships
for most of your life going skin to skin...there's certain factors.lol

Sites like those are better for people that lives in metropolis
or bigger cities. Very fast pace.

You used to live in SD...you simply seldom see the same faces
twice. You simply learn how to approach women and ask quick.
Plus you kindda get to act out and not worry so much..becuase
if you did make and ass out of yourself...you're not going to
see those people again anyway.

San Diego is a big ass metropolis with beaches, nigth clubs, hangouts,
social groups, clubs...ect. The SoCal life style. There's chicks walking
around in bikini everywhere. Pretty beach blonde chicks are dime a dozen.
So you basically aproach women more..becuase there's always more.
Plus there's a sort of anynominity..becuase you selmod see the same faces twice.
There's always something to do somewhere.
The women act out more too of course....
You get expose to that...it's not a big deal anymore.

Verses living in a smaller town...if you fresia up or do certain
things...you get a reputation.
 
Lonesome Crow said:
putter65 said:
I've joined dating sites, wrote nothing in my profile, not included a photo and had dozens of replies from women wanting to meet me. It's a con of course to get you to pay money.

Pretty much...
if i didnt complete or made a freaken profile to begin with..
how in the hell are the women going to click on my file.lmao
It's just a stupid letter head a program sending out emails.

What i did do was did a serch for women avaliable
in my area..( during the free trial) No recent activities for months
and very few women from my area actaully use any of those on-line sites.

Not unless I was willing to do long distance and phone sex.

I dont know about you..but if you had been in real relationships
for most of your life going skin to skin...there's certain factors.lol

Sites like those are better for people that lives in metropolis
or bigger cities. Very fast pace.

You used to live in SD...you simply seldom see the same faces
twice. You simply learn how to approach women and ask quick.
Plus you kindda get to act out and not worry so much..becuase
if you did make and ass out of yourself...you're not going to
see those people again anyway.

Verses living in a smaller town...if you fresia up or do certain
things...you get a reputation.

I'm not going to pay anymore than a month. £20 that's it.

I actually sent some messages to a woman who was nearly 60 ! She wanted to know what I looked like lol !

 

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