I hate mininum wage jobs and how shy I am.. anyone else agree?

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sorat116

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I absolutely HATE being the new girl at jobs.. I am a college student so I have to work these low rent, shitty, min. wage jobs until I graduate and I live in the south and people are very very closed minded and ignorant (especially the kind at these jobs). I have a very different kind of personality then most people, and everyone has told me that my entire life. I'm very smart and intuitive, but I don't come off as smart because I am a slow worker. I work hard, but slow, and I try to go faster but it always still looks slow apparently. So people think I am stupid or weird, and I have a very hard time socializing at work and being natural. I'm pretty good at making friends in real life situations but at work I am stiff and very very painfully shy.. I don't know why. It's just hard for me and today was my first day at my new job and I made some mistakes and I walked in on my manager saying I was dumb to the other manager and it just makes me angry that it is ALWAYS like this at jobs.. will it ever get better?? Does anyone else have this problem??
 
sorat116 said:
I live in the south and people are very very closed minded and ignorant (especially the kind at these jobs).

I live in the South. I'm neither closed minded nor ignorant. Im curious to know how many of "those kinds of jobs" you've actually worked. You said you're a college student - that would indicate you aren't that old and couldn't have worked that many unless you're a job-hopper.
As for your question, will it ever get better - chances aren't all that great. I've been in the work force for a lot of years and almost anywhere you work, there will be people who you don't mesh with, for whatever reason.
 
I live in the South too! *Cries*

I think that you're just unlucky to be where you are. Sounds like you're around a lot of not so cool people. I'd say come and work more East. But it's probably worse here xD
 
Graduate, and get on out of there. ;)

Or, find another job, if you can, lol. I'm sure not everyone is closed-minded.
 
I've worked at a lot of jobs in during high school and throughout college.. I have many friends and am a part of a really nice sorority on my campus and have no problem making friends but for whatever reason whenever I work at jobs people find me to be very unlikeable.. I don't really act like myself. I have tried to get more comfortable in the work area, but it never seems to work.

I guess I'm the only weirdo with this issue, but it is a terrible issue. I have felt like a complete loner at every job I have worked and have never once become friends with anyone I work with yet everyone else seems so buddy buddy. It truly sucks.
 
Minimum wage jobs are rather tidious and manotainus.
It depends what jobs you have. If you work in a factory it's ridiculus.
Some jobs are really dirty. Moral is low at best in most places.
Turn over rates are high. Most bosses are rather rude.
Ive had several of them. Luckily the last one I had I was able
to work alone with my MP3 on all day. Even then the stupid
***** that sits on her ass day, dont do honeysuckle, dont know honeysuckle , was like
a fucken slave driver just becuase her husband owned part of the company.
Eventaully those stupid asses lost the company...greedy basturds.

So dont take any of it personally or internalize it, as best you can while
you're exposed to a lot of negative in the work place.

Maybe in the mean time you can apply for other jobs where the work place
is more mellow or a slower pace...such as a local hardward stores
where there's not a too many customers. Be a check out person or a sales
rep. at Best Buy,,ect Or many a secutary at a front office that just greets clients
and take phone calls....Not too labor intensive but you gatta deal with demanding
and rude clients sometime and keep your cool.

Or you can be like my girls and go for broke.
One bar tend, one strip dances on and off, one is a porn star.They BANK IT.
It's just intertainment. They have to deal with a lot of bullshit.
Drunken horney men that throws money at them. Sounds degrading...NO?
Wait until one of your rude bosses makes a sexual advance at ya.
Two of them are attending college....
Some people dont have the stomuch for those types of things.
Just like some people dont have the stomuch to do open heart surgery.
I love my girls very much. Life isnt always fun and game.
The chioces my girls have to make arnt always easy.

I know a couple of MD as friends. They have depression or PTSD
from all the blood, gore and death they witness all the time.
They make more money but they pay a high price also.
Chioce people have to make arnt always easy.

I lived 100 yard from the gulf of Mexico in TX just a while back.
Thats pretty **** south. Im not from TX. Im from CA.lol
Some people are still in a bubble and have never traveled out
of TX or within 100 miles of where they live.
Im asain...my finace is a white chick.
It was a rather amuzing experince even in 2012.
I lived in Albilene TX for 4 yrs 20 odd years ago too.

Racist honeysuckle still exist..but you know some people arnt well traveled, closed minded
becuase they lived in a box all thier lives. Not everyone was like that..

I didnt take it personal. Tried not internalized it.
Mostly just annoying to me.

Anyway...
Kelsie (my daughter) told me this oneday....
"Daddy...dont forget to put on your hatter blockers on when you go outside today"LMAO

I was like "WTF???...do you mean hatter blockers?" " Dose it comes in a bottle like sun tan lotion?"

Kelsie..."yes daddy, just rub it all over ya.... like mosquitos repellent"hahahaaaa
 
I have had the same problem several times. No matter how much you try to be friendly and to fit in, it doesn't work. In these sort of situations I feel as if I am in an animal pack and the other animals know I am a different species, so they home in on me and put me down/bully me/think I am stupid etc. I don't know if it will get any better for you-maybe if you get a better job after college with people who are more like you, you might find that you are not so isolated and shy.
 
Tiina63 said:
I have had the same problem several times. No matter how much you try to be friendly and to fit in, it doesn't work. In these sort of situations I feel as if I am in an animal pack and the other animals know I am a different species, so they home in on me and put me down/bully me/think I am stupid etc. I don't know if it will get any better for you-maybe if you get a better job after college with people who are more like you, you might find that you are not so isolated and shy.

That is EXACTLY what happens to me everywhere I go. I'm in the same situation now at Hibbett Sports. Everyone already thinks I'm the dumb girl and it was only my first day. I even walked on my manager calling dumb to someone else because I didn't find a shoe fast enough.. it was literally my first day.. how rude is that?

 
Your manager was very rude and nasty and its the sort of thing I have often been on the receiving end of as well. People can be so insensitive-many can't put themselves into the shoes of another person and feel what it is like to be on the outside. And to be so critical when it is your first day as well. It can take a while to remember where products are in a shop. I worked in a shop many years ago (ended up with a nervous breakdown) and it took a long time to remember where everything was in the storeroom.
Is there anyone else at Hibbett Sports who is an outsider as well, someone you could maybe become friends with at work so that you have an ally? Or are you the only one who is on the outside?
 
Tiina63 said:
Your manager was very rude and nasty and its the sort of thing I have often been on the receiving end of as well. People can be so insensitive-many can't put themselves into the shoes of another person and feel what it is like to be on the outside. And to be so critical when it is your first day as well. It can take a while to remember where products are in a shop. I worked in a shop many years ago (ended up with a nervous breakdown) and it took a long time to remember where everything was in the storeroom.
Is there anyone else at Hibbett Sports who is an outsider as well, someone you could maybe become friends with at work so that you have an ally? Or are you the only one who is on the outside?

I'm the only new person.. I just really couldn't believe. Most people cut you slack on the first day, you know?

 
I agree-on your first day you should be cut some slack. I would go further and say that you should be cut some slack for far longer than this. It takes a while to settle at any job and when you are shy and nervous, it takes longer. And being on edge worrying about possible criticism heading your way doesn't make it easier at all for you. I wonder how that manager coped on his first day? I bet he made mistakes as well, which he has conveniently forgotten.
 

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