HappyYogi
Well-known member
I find this interesting yet sort of offensive.
I visit a blog for a long time single woman in her 40's. She is very erudite, intelligent, makes a great living but she is very frustrated, and lonely at being single and talks about it freely (and anonymously) on her blog.
Once again today she mentioned how she fears getting involved (friendship or otherwise) with anyone with mental health issues or financial issues. She said she worries that getting involved with these people might "overturn her boat" and risk her survival.
I found this very odd and not emotionally generous.
I myself am friends with people who have less than I do and I have never ever thought of dumping them because of it. Ditto for men I have dated.
Also, "mental health issues" is very broad....if a person is basically nice, and I enjoy sharing chatting with them, I will have no issue making friends with them. In fact, I enjoy being a source of strength for my friends...as I hope they can be for me when I need it. It's an opportunity to give.
I have never been afraid that befriending or dating someone with some issues would ruin me! In fact, I have no issues with befriending the poor, the old, the "outcast", the lonely...if I enjoy them, I enjoy them, period.
This woman has a great income, a very stable job yet she can't bring herself to befriend anyone with less? I don't get it. Where is the generosity? Where is the kindness and acceptance? Since she does not have financial issues...why does other people's financial problems bother her?
I really believe that in order to get love, kindness, acceptance and all those wonderful things....we must give it. And I really like to give it! I mean I don't like everyone...but I never "size people up" to see if they are "good enough" to be my friend. My best friend is a poor immigrant but we connect and can talk and share about many things, that is where it matters.
I think this has to do with this woman. I think since she cannot yet tolerate her neediness, her own problems, her own insecurities, she cannot handle anothers.
I really think that to be a loving person one needs to be strong and aware.
What do you think? I am appalled at the lack of inclusiveness/tolerance/acceptance a significant portion of the population practices. I don't get it...my life and suffering have only taught me to be more loving, accepting, not less.
???
I visit a blog for a long time single woman in her 40's. She is very erudite, intelligent, makes a great living but she is very frustrated, and lonely at being single and talks about it freely (and anonymously) on her blog.
Once again today she mentioned how she fears getting involved (friendship or otherwise) with anyone with mental health issues or financial issues. She said she worries that getting involved with these people might "overturn her boat" and risk her survival.
I found this very odd and not emotionally generous.
I myself am friends with people who have less than I do and I have never ever thought of dumping them because of it. Ditto for men I have dated.
Also, "mental health issues" is very broad....if a person is basically nice, and I enjoy sharing chatting with them, I will have no issue making friends with them. In fact, I enjoy being a source of strength for my friends...as I hope they can be for me when I need it. It's an opportunity to give.
I have never been afraid that befriending or dating someone with some issues would ruin me! In fact, I have no issues with befriending the poor, the old, the "outcast", the lonely...if I enjoy them, I enjoy them, period.
This woman has a great income, a very stable job yet she can't bring herself to befriend anyone with less? I don't get it. Where is the generosity? Where is the kindness and acceptance? Since she does not have financial issues...why does other people's financial problems bother her?
I really believe that in order to get love, kindness, acceptance and all those wonderful things....we must give it. And I really like to give it! I mean I don't like everyone...but I never "size people up" to see if they are "good enough" to be my friend. My best friend is a poor immigrant but we connect and can talk and share about many things, that is where it matters.
I think this has to do with this woman. I think since she cannot yet tolerate her neediness, her own problems, her own insecurities, she cannot handle anothers.
I really think that to be a loving person one needs to be strong and aware.
What do you think? I am appalled at the lack of inclusiveness/tolerance/acceptance a significant portion of the population practices. I don't get it...my life and suffering have only taught me to be more loving, accepting, not less.
???