lonewolf
Well-known member
Hi folks i seem to be in a bit of pickle.
And this could very well make me come across as a complete jerk, but id appreciate your feedback.
A good while ago i was browsing through forum sites like this one and saw a post of a serious self-harmer (hes like 2 or 3 years younger than me) asking for a bit of company, me being me wanted to help him out and we got chatting through msn, we lost contact and a year later hes back online. I say hi and we get chatting again and hes still very much the same. So we talk and talk and it turns out he was fairly local so i agree to meet him and spend a bit of time with him as a friend.
As the days pass i regularly saw him to comfort his feelings and had some real heart to heart conversations, he does in the end open up and agrees to stop self-harming and seek more professional advice (which he does).
But as time goes on he now seems to be the most possessive individual and just wont let me go, its not that i dont want to be his friend i just dont want to have to come running round to his place at his beck and call. I only wanted to help him out not have this serious friendship. Im more than happy to be a mate / shoulder to cry on but not this.
I now feel like a bit of a prick for not wanting him as a friend, i feel bad for not contacting him so much, but end up regretting it when i do. As much i want friends and company.... ive got so used to the solitude..... im not sure im ready for it.
Please give me some advice im just not sure how to handle this?
And this could very well make me come across as a complete jerk, but id appreciate your feedback.
A good while ago i was browsing through forum sites like this one and saw a post of a serious self-harmer (hes like 2 or 3 years younger than me) asking for a bit of company, me being me wanted to help him out and we got chatting through msn, we lost contact and a year later hes back online. I say hi and we get chatting again and hes still very much the same. So we talk and talk and it turns out he was fairly local so i agree to meet him and spend a bit of time with him as a friend.
As the days pass i regularly saw him to comfort his feelings and had some real heart to heart conversations, he does in the end open up and agrees to stop self-harming and seek more professional advice (which he does).
But as time goes on he now seems to be the most possessive individual and just wont let me go, its not that i dont want to be his friend i just dont want to have to come running round to his place at his beck and call. I only wanted to help him out not have this serious friendship. Im more than happy to be a mate / shoulder to cry on but not this.
I now feel like a bit of a prick for not wanting him as a friend, i feel bad for not contacting him so much, but end up regretting it when i do. As much i want friends and company.... ive got so used to the solitude..... im not sure im ready for it.
Please give me some advice im just not sure how to handle this?