I guess this is what means to be lonely

Advertise with us!
Find deals on ebay
Shop on amazon
Loneliness, Depression & Relationship Forum

Help Support Loneliness, Depression & Relationship Forum:

This site may earn a commission from merchant affiliate links, including eBay, Amazon, and others.
K

kurandera

Guest
It's a rainy Wednesday afternoon and as cliche as it may sound I'm down with the dumps again.Which is pretty silly really considering I'm relatively normal.(I've got friends,I have nice family etc.)

The thing is,I've always been surrounded by people who never know me.For almost 20 yrs. I've struggled to make them somehow understand who I am.I tried being a friend,daughter,a part time lover,hell,how about a shrink but no one seems to cut close.As pathetic as this sounds but I talk to my pillow because it comforts me better than any of my companions do.Crazy isn't it?

I am not alone but I'm lonely..(which amounts to the same thing)

My lil sis tells me it's just my unused ovaries talking.lol(sigh)

Suddenly I'm singing along Elton John's "I want love" song.Except change the man part to woman.

Right..

I've read a forum here with one person telling everyone here to get out to beat loneliness.it must be nice to be able to fake feelings.I don't want to live my life like that.But I'm doing it because i have no choice.(or rather I have..dunno)

Tell me what you all think,I'm free to suggestions even hilarious ones,I'm that desperate.

Good day

[One may think we're alright but we need pills to sleep at night,we need lies to make it through the day,we're not okay-Pills,The Perishers]

 
I'm sure there are a lot of his who have felt or feel the way you. I have a problem were I'm not socializing with enough people who have the same interests as I do which can be very frustrating.

I've come to realize that loneliness doesn't have to be a perpetual state. Sometimes I get so caught up with visiting a friend that I completely forget I was ever lonely. Then eventually, perhaps a day or so later, the feeling comes back.
 
"The modern city hardly knows pure darkness or pure silence anymore, nor does it know the effect of a single small light or that of a lonely distant shout."

Hmm,you're right or I'm probably hanging out with the wrong crowd.hoho

It's hard to find sincere persons these days, with everyone wallowing on shallowness.Incredible what commercialism and the media does to people my age.They tell me I'm an old soul and I need to fix that.Sarcastically,I tell them I'm just narcistic.

Thank you for your insight,love your quote by the way.
 
find someone you don't at all know, who doesn't at all know you, and talk to them. see what happens. faking feelings is hell, too bad pillows can't talk back.
 
Yeah too bad..Kinda like that cartoon character in "Peanuts" the one who thumbsucks and has that ever reliable blanket..(^-^)
 
Howdy Ma'am. Welcome to the Forums! I know how you feel. For most of my early life, no one actually knew who I was. I was always so polite and witty most of the time, people would be shocked when I would do something serious or get angry, and it bothered me quite a bit. It's frustrating to think that nobody understands you for who you really are. I don't actually have a solution for ya on this one (My "hobbies" thing doesn't really apply!), but just lettin' you know you aren't the only one who experiences this! The pillow thing is a good idea; I bottled mine up for quite a while, and by no means is that fun. But because I always try to throw in a suggestion, I'll try to think of one.

Alright, here we go. I want you to meet someone new, and when you do, act as honestly as possible. Act yourself; no being extra special polite, or changing your opinion to go with theirs, or any of that. Tell this person what you honestly think or feel, and act normal. It's really satisfying. It doesn't even have to be in person; you can do it through chatrooms, internet gaming even! And the brilliance of it all is that because it's a new person, you won't feel too horribly pent up about it. If you were to reveal all these sorts of things to someone who thinks they've known exactly who you are for a few years, it might come as quite a shock to them. With this, its a win win! Well, my suggestion is a little silly, but it'll do. Good luck!
 
Reading this forum made me feel better already lol. nice forum

Poll aka Yuri aka okc
 
Howdy Ma'am. Welcome to the Forums! I know how you feel. For most of my early life, no one actually knew who I was. I was always so polite and witty most of the time, people would be shocked when I would do something serious or get angry, and it bothered me quite a bit. It's frustrating to think that nobody understands you for who you really are. I don't actually have a solution for ya on this one (My "hobbies" thing doesn't really apply!), but just lettin' you know you aren't the only one who experiences this! The pillow thing is a good idea; I bottled mine up for quite a while, and by no means is that fun. But because I always try to throw in a suggestion, I'll try to think of one.

Alright, here we go. I want you to meet someone new, and when you do, act as honestly as possible. Act yourself; no being extra special polite, or changing your opinion to go with theirs, or any of that. Tell this person what you honestly think or feel, and act normal. It's really satisfying. It doesn't even have to be in person; you can do it through chatrooms, internet gaming even! And the brilliance of it all is that because it's a new person, you won't feel too horribly pent up about it. If you were to reveal all these sorts of things to someone who thinks they've known exactly who you are for a few years, it might come as quite a shock to them. With this, its a win win! Well, my suggestion is a little silly, but it'll do. Good luck!
Click to expand...

That was some great advice. :)
 
thank you for your replies,I'm very touched having support from strangers.recently I got my violin fixed again,my sister says music is much better than my medication.I guess it does,I actually am finding humor in annoying our neighbor's dog.It's very therapeutic.thank you once again,and i'll be trying hard to beat this.
 
i feel so lonely. like many people i feel like no one truly knows me. to escape i drink, bad idea i know, im having trouble today (not to drink), so i thought id try and get some answers from the net. it has helped reading other peoples thoughts.

sometimes i can feel a physical feeling in my heart, like its gonna burst out my chest.

im in a relationship, 10 years now. just kids when we got together. its not been good at times. i feel wrong with this person but life takes over and time goes by so fast. im in love with someone else have been for years but i aint got the guts to leave and today he told me his circumstances have changed. i wish him happiness, he cant wait forever but i feel ive now lost the one person that does truly know me.

so as usual ill put on a brave face while inside im hurting. thats what people do, right?

 
i would just like to add that my relationship with the other guy is not physical and im sure you'll be shocked to know that my patner knows my feelings though it hasnt been mentioned for some time.
 

Similar threads

Lukon
Wondering whether my loneliness has driven me crazy.
Replies
1
Views
223
okidoke
okidoke
U
Alone I break
Replies
9
Views
1K
abbynormal
A
DragonflytotheMoon
For Those With Mental/Emotional Struggles, do You Go Incommunicado Sometimes?
Replies
3
Views
316
TheRealCallie
TheRealCallie
usernamesarehard3009
I need help
Replies
8
Views
718
okidoke
okidoke
D
Rock Bottom
Replies
12
Views
913
Intrama
Intrama

Latest posts

Back
Top