The whole single scene is awkward for everyone.
Even if you had been in many relationships.
Dating women or hitting on women is a diminishing SKILL.
Its all about exposure and a learning curve.
You'll simply have to take the body first then the mind will follow.
What benifit and helped me.
Im not a public speaker but Ive been attending support groups
for over 20 years. Sometimes I talk about really personal stuff
in front a group of people...men and women. It helps me to not
worry about being judged.
I was also a procurment manager for years. Most of my sale peaple were women. I simply had to interact with them everyday on the phone,email, or lunch...mix in a little bit of bussiness and pleasure. Im constantly negociating with these women...
So when it comes to sex..its almost lke a bussiness deal.
Lots of trust, demands, jumping through the hoops to make
honeysuckle happens...you make it happen. Thats why I was a manager.
Sometimes honeysuckle dont happen so easily..not without working
through alot of problems. Correcting mistakes and applogiozing
to my sale people. I was held accountiable for everything. Even
with my boss and clients. My boss didnt wanna hear honeysuckle...other
than everything was going fine.lmao
At the sametime. I also had to tell alot of my salepeople "NO".
"Sorry babes...But Im already in bed with this other chick on this particular project"lol
Some would try to change my mind more than others. Some makes me better offers and all kind of honeysuckle.
Bussiness eithic or personal ethic..Its all the same.
Sometimes tell them..."you went and messed up...Please take corrective measures, Sweetie.lmao
" I'll go fucken across the street if you dont work with me and that's that....I have the other *****(clients) thats totally demanding
on the other line too...if you really wanna know. She wants her honeysuckle and she wants it NOW!!!! yestersday."LMAO
It's building a relationship or partnership.
So Im not afriad to ask these women for what I want and need.
None of them will leave extra money on the table.lmao
Of course these saleswomen are rather well dress when they
visit me or take me out to lunch. They make most of the women
that hang out in bars look like dog meat.lol
And when we have lunch...we get tired of talking about bussiness.
We talk about life, get to know each other and become friends
over the years...Some closer than others.
So in some sort of weird way...Ive gone on a sort of first couple of dates with women...by the huundreds.
One of them just have to fall in love with me.lol..Of course it would happen...it's all in the odds and numbering.
Emotionally....women will always tugg at my emotions.
So if you're just a guy trying to hit on chicks....
You have this challenge of simple exposure of actaually
talking and enteracting with variety of women CONSISTENTLY.
It's just simple actual enteraction time....No matter where you get your tips, advices or intructions
of how to hit on women. You simple just going to have to put all the theories to the test.
Apply all tips you have been given. You'll simply go through a learning curve and make corrections
as you go..If you are persistent of putting yourself out there and going out.
It's like a fucken chore sometimes. You dont meet women everyday nor are presented with good opportunities.
Sometimes the fish arnt always biting. Other times you simple just need to find different places to hunt for different
games....If you approch it like that...you're not going to take it so personal...with the shy guy, nice guy, badboys... Bullshit.
I simply sit at a bar counter...near the ordering sections.
Variety of women well come to the bar counter and I'll talk
to them. Some will even buy me drinks and hang out with me...
Rather than trying to talk to her and introduce myself to her
in front a group of strangers.
It just depends...some chicks will be with just one of her gf.
I'll take my chances on that becuase it's less awkward for
me and them....
Ive also had women separated themselve fron thier groups
of friends just to get to know me. If she's interested...she'll
make some sort of attemp to make herself more avaliable to me.
It's exposure and the time Ive spent playing the fields to notice stuff like this too...