tusk said:
Lonesome Crow said:
well...I know becuase. When I was with fiance. I didnt have these achy breaky heart feelings.
I felt alive..jevilated. I felt lite. I felt i could breathe again.. My vision were clear.
I can look at a simple sunraise and feel peace...
Peace that's the difference...Over all I felt peace.
Today I dont feel that peace.
It's way differnent than having a heart burn after dinner.
Yep; so the question becomes how you would define that achy breaky heart feeling. That's the problem, but maybe one should just accept that feeling, not trying to define it further, just knowing that it can go away in at least one way.
But I think I want to dig deeper: what property in a relationship is it that I'm actually looking for? Which property's lacking is causing those feelings? I think that can be enlightening, maybe make it easier to resolve the situation and go back to feeling content.
K...
Please dont take it the wrong way, think that i know more than
you, or better than you. Cauase there's a lot of honeysuckle I still cant
figure out and dont understand....obviously Im still looking for
some sort of answer.....
I enter recovery at a very young age. Somewhere alone the line
I felt something wasnt right.lol I was actaully one of those young
adults that a group of older people tried to help or raised again.
They loved me until i could learn to lve myself. Bascailly they were
like grandparents, uncles, aunties i never had. They also passed on
a lot of informations and living tools to me. Very enlighten people.
I also had professional help and theropy. Lots of one on one teachings with a spiritaul advicsor or counselor. Lots of one
on one work with my sponsors. Lots of teachings and concepts/conceptions ive never heard of. Lots of personal reserch
and developments. Lots of workshops and siminars. Lots of conseling from my so call second mom ( my best friends mom). Im like her second son.
One of the exercises I was asked to do...
Make a list of emotions to expand my emotions volcabuaries....
To get in touch with my feelings.....
Such as sad, blues, down, tired, upset, irritated, depressed,despair, grieving....ect.
Do the samething with positive good feelings.
It helped me to more define my emotional scale.
So I can distinguish feeling tired from feeling sad.
So if I didnt get proper rest, sleep..ect I know Im just tired...not lonely. Im just feel tired.
K...within recent years I find this to be rather helpful.
It's like breaking down the components.
I was able to separate myself from my feelings or emotions....
Notice the wordings.....
I FEEL angery..verses I'm angery.
In other words...Im not my feelings. I have feelings.
This helps me to feel what I need and want to feel.
It also helps me to not react to my feelings in a negative way.
It also helps me to not to beat up on myself for feeling angery.
Its' how I respond to my feelings of anger.
There's options to make actions....
I can simply vent...to release or process my feelings of anger.
I can write music to express my feelings anger
I can throw rocks to release my feeling of anger.
I can even break things to release feelings of anger.
(such as breaking bottles)
I can even take positive actions through my feelings of anger.
I also kind of understood the concept of energy transfer because
I worked at an electricity power generation plant.
It's all based on energy transfer..wheather it be nucelur, biomase,
water, steam,mecahincal or solar...Energy simply gets tranfer into
electricity...The electricity then gets transfer back into mechanical
energy again....such as an electrical motor driving a water pump.
So if..I apply the same concept with Feelings of loneliness...
Loneliness is just a feeling.
I feel lonely at the moment...Nothing wrong with feeling lonely.
Lonely is just one of hundreds or thousands of feelings I might feel or chose to feel.
It's the samething with fear...I feel scared, I feel paranoid..ect
Fear is just another one of my feelings..such as I feel frieghthen.
Such as content....Content is just another feelings.
So it's kind of cool...to have many many feelings...
It's like a candie store...
Everything comes down to a simple chioce or perferernce.
After a while...Logically. i would choose to feel good feelings or positive feelings.
I also know how to trigger positive feelings. It just takes practice.
It's about focus or pivet. When negative feelings arrised or gets trigger.
I'll simply make a chioce..run with the negative feelings or trigger positive feelngs.
When I feel heartaches...I feel the heartaches. I know why I feel those heartaches.
I feel hurted...so it's how i repond or react.
Sometimes i'll simply just sit still..embrace it.
Other times I'll just go hug a chick with big titays. It donst always have to be an inside job.
It's not any differenent than going out for an ice cream or a simple walk in nature to trigger good positive feelings.