So yesterday I was getting anxious when a person I care about a lot wasn't replying to my messages. I was getting very anxious and very worried that they were angry and upset with me (and they were).
I wanted to see if other people were like me, completly ruled by whether people did a simple thing like respond to a message.
And I saw this line by a guy who described it as an insecurity created by "the life-long result of negative reactions from people."
I thought that was so true and so accurate. Like many people here, I was the shy awkward kid, and people made fun of me for my hair, my looks, my teeth, my voice, whatever. I was never really popular, I felt like no-one every would have wanted to be my friend, and that there was nothing decent or worthwhile about me. My family are brilliant, but we are don't do displays of affection, so no hugs, and no "I love you's".
So I'm insecure and this person is annoyed with me for it, says I should be mature and not make an issue about it. But I'm the guy who can't even join Facebook, I'm so afraid of people looking at my profile/pics and deciding I'm worthless.
There was a thread recently about what should happen to bullies, and I concur completely. I can still hear all those names and insults, so many years later.
So I wanted to post this here, a place where people would understand. I know others have it a lot rougher than me.
I want this person to like me for me, and that's to accept that sometimes I will be insecure. I don't think they do though.
I wanted to see if other people were like me, completly ruled by whether people did a simple thing like respond to a message.
And I saw this line by a guy who described it as an insecurity created by "the life-long result of negative reactions from people."
I thought that was so true and so accurate. Like many people here, I was the shy awkward kid, and people made fun of me for my hair, my looks, my teeth, my voice, whatever. I was never really popular, I felt like no-one every would have wanted to be my friend, and that there was nothing decent or worthwhile about me. My family are brilliant, but we are don't do displays of affection, so no hugs, and no "I love you's".
So I'm insecure and this person is annoyed with me for it, says I should be mature and not make an issue about it. But I'm the guy who can't even join Facebook, I'm so afraid of people looking at my profile/pics and deciding I'm worthless.
There was a thread recently about what should happen to bullies, and I concur completely. I can still hear all those names and insults, so many years later.
So I wanted to post this here, a place where people would understand. I know others have it a lot rougher than me.
I want this person to like me for me, and that's to accept that sometimes I will be insecure. I don't think they do though.