Everyone tells you that you shouldn't be looking for a relationship, that they should just happen. I've never understood that, until some two weeks ago. I've been longing for a girlfriend since elementary school, but it has always felt like it's something out of reach for me. Either I'm ugly or I just fail at courting, or maybe I just can't find someone I'm truly interested in. Having had this longing and feeling of lack for about 14 years, during my whole teenage years and growing up, I'm afraid it has programmed my brain negatively. It's also that I don't believe in attraction, that I can't get attracted to someone, and she attracted to me, and we can just let stuff happen. I always feel like I have to force it.
Anyway. I lost this feeling of lack some two weeks ago and it lasted for about a week and a half, it felt great to actually not be desperate for a relationship! I finally understood what people were talking about, and that I can actually feel that way. It was a bit magical...
But then it went away. :'( Now, I'm back to the way I used to be... sad that I don't have someone to love, to hang out with. Sad that the outlook is so bleak. Not because there are no girls, it's just that I can't bring myself to go to places where there are girls. It's my brain that is putting up all the barriers. I think I would like to go to bars and practice talking to strangers, but there's such a strong force making me not do it... I think the feeling I get is anxiety. I'm not even sure I really want to do it.
Anyway. I lost this feeling of lack some two weeks ago and it lasted for about a week and a half, it felt great to actually not be desperate for a relationship! I finally understood what people were talking about, and that I can actually feel that way. It was a bit magical...
But then it went away. :'( Now, I'm back to the way I used to be... sad that I don't have someone to love, to hang out with. Sad that the outlook is so bleak. Not because there are no girls, it's just that I can't bring myself to go to places where there are girls. It's my brain that is putting up all the barriers. I think I would like to go to bars and practice talking to strangers, but there's such a strong force making me not do it... I think the feeling I get is anxiety. I'm not even sure I really want to do it.