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2fresh4youx

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I always hear people say 'We have so much in common" and blah blah blah when they date people. Well, the fact is, I have really weird interests that I'm almost positive, no one would either understand or would simply just write me off over. I mean, I consider myself to be an extremely rare individual with a unique variety of hobbies in things, but most, if not all of these things, no girl would ever find attractive, nor would they be into.

If you met me in real life, I come across as a fairly confident, attractive individual but if you do some digging, you'll find that I'm not what you think I am. I seem to be able to do small talk with people really well, but after a few minutes I always find myself thinking how different I am to these people. I used to lie about my interests and opinions on things but have recently developed a way of simply "telling the truth". Most people don't agree with me, nor do they find anything I do interesting at all. Usually they'll just give me a blank stare or something and their body language usually indicates that they write me off as "Boring!".

And when it comes to friends and relationships, I find the thought mere impossible, because of how different I am and I would in no way be able to hold a conversation with someone. Most of the time, it'll work out three ways:

1. They become bored of me and it just becomes awkward

2. I become bored of them, yet they continue to blabber on about themselves and their interests and never ask me about mine.

3. We seem to get along, they're interested in me, but usually they continue to point out how different I am and snarl everytime I bring up my opinion of something or one of my interests. Really, all they are doing is laughing at me for being different and their pea-sized brains cannot comprehend that not all people follow the trends of society like mindless sheep. I've began being able to not care about what these people think anymore, but it still doesn't help the fact that I'm still different and unique and it doesn't stop them from saying so all the time.

And I'll conclude by saying, that I'm a fairly old-fashioned kind of guy. I'm so different to my generation. Most people my age are so outrighteously opinionated about everything, thinking they know best and more then older generations. I'd love it if a woman was into an old fashioned fellow such as myself :)

I feel like my own personality and beliefs is what holds me back in the dating world.
 
Having strange interests doesn't deter most women - it's only when you talk about only those strange interests and nothing more that it becomes a problem (I'm generalizing here). I have a Master's in philosophy and am building a cuckoo clock, two things that are, although maybe an interesting fact, are not interesting subjects (unless I meet someone into either of those things). My Jackie was really interested in shopping and celebrity gossip - two things I couldn't care less about. We rarely talked about any of those subjects - we would talk about things we did have in common (like enjoying horror movies, going to the casino, etc.). My point is, you must have some interests that are in common with the women you meet, maybe they aren't the things you are most interested it, but things that you hold some interest in.

Also, especially with people I just meet, if I think they aren't interested in a particular subject I'm talking about, I'll say, "Do you want to hear a funny story about..." and then tell them a story of something that happened to me. I mean, who doesn't want to hear a funny story, and then it opens it up for them to tell a story.

But, having said all that, maybe you are just meeting uninteresting people.
 
I don't think being traditional deters all women. You just have to be genuinely faithful to your beliefs and in a way, sell them through yourself.
 
You'd love it if a woman was into WHAT?!

Ohhhh! You said DAGGY! Lol ;)
 
2fresh4youx said:
don't agree with me, nor do they find anything I do interesting at all. Usually they'll just give me a blank stare or something and their body language usually indicates that they write me off as "Boring!".

And when it comes to friends and relationships, I find the thought mere impossible, because of how different I am and I would in no way be able to hold a conversation with someone. Most of the time, it'll work out three ways:

1. They become bored of me and it just becomes awkward

2. I become bored of them, yet they continue to blabber on about themselves and their interests and never ask me about mine.

3. We seem to get along, they're interested in me, but usually they continue to point out how different I am and snarl everytime I bring up my opinion of something or one of my interests.

Ew. Ew. That sounds so uncomfortable.

Also, you seem to know that they're not the best people to hang around with, as you referred to them as having pea-sized brains :) Maybe it's not that they're not smart, but rather that they're younger, insecure, don't have much life experience and so are judgmental towards you.
 
IgnoredOne said:
I don't think being traditional deters all women. You just have to be genuinely faithful to your beliefs and in a way, sell them through yourself.

I would have to agree with this. Only because I'm not a traditional type person - in the sense of getting married, then having kids and whatnot. Yet, Jeremy is. He was raised in a very old-fashion traditional sense. It's something I just don't care much about. I neither agree nor disagree when it comes to that. Point is, him coming from a very old-fashion traditional family didn't deter me. We know where we both stand.
 
Renae and most women Ive been with can really give a rats ass about music theory, avaiations, mathematics, or mechanical contraptions....

I cant dance worth a fresia...but Im smart enough to get out on the dance floor
with her even if i look like a fool.She loves dancing. She taght me a couple of dance
moves or how to dance with her.

Only in recent years Ive taken up photography. Sometime Renae lets me take photo
of her.

Last week we put up a hammock in the backyard together.
Sometimes we hangout on the swing, chillout and watch the sunset together.

We both enjoy the great out doors. Taking walks on the beach or hiking trials
a couple times a week.

Renae recently got a kitten and a parrotkee.
She's teaching the parrotkee how to whistle.
Our kitten can be a handful at times. We both take turns playing
with the kitten and taking care of it.

Our dog ( Billy ) is also a handful at times. We take turns taking Billy
for walks or spend time together playing with Billy.

Ive only recently learned how to cook. Renae dosnt cook much...but
that's ok. I enjoy learning how to cook different dishes she likes.
I never thought I enjoy cooking.

I dont really like country music much....Im more into metal.
There's serval country songs I like, now.
Within recent years...I also started listening to RnB music....

We're both great in bed. Even so...we have sex in different positions or different ways
then we used to. Keeping our sex lives alive and passionate. Doing it the same way
all the time gets borning to us.
Heck sometimes we dont have sex for a day to build up sexual tensions again. Sometimes less is more.

I dont see it as compromising myself. I see it as expanding my horizon.

Renae and I dont have everything in common, all the same interest or see eye to eye on many subjects.
Our beliefs in GOD..how we understand GOD or dont believe in GOD.
One big thing we both have in common is that we love each other very much.

If you dont have the same interest....create things you can do together. Simple common sense. It's a no brainer.
Its not a big deal. Why it's like pulling teeth or complicated for some people is rediculous
 

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