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Who is the "perfect" woman/man?
#1
I was looking at shopping flyers when I came across this image. Obviously it was altered to make the light-haired girl look alienishy thin. I really don't understand the whole airbrush thing. It just sells the idea of our society's standard of "perfection", but I guess lots of people think that's the ideal. I know that this kind of garbage affects girls' self-esteem, we're bombarded with these images at an earlier and earlier age. Do you guys feel the same pressure to be perfect due to advertising? I'm wondering how this affects everyone's self-esteem, I know that for me, it was bad for many years. I couldn't meet those standards of "perfection" so I didn't even try to be with anyone...there was even a time I considered plastic surgery...when I really don't need it - and truthfully, I don't want to go that route ever. I've been told I look young for my age...but I used to see one wrinkle and I was all over the beauty sites trying to find a solution for it...wasting money on marketed products that really don't work at all.

To be honest, since I stopped watching television, those ideas have not been so prevalent in my thoughts and I've been able to heal a lot of that damaged self-esteem. I do take care of myself but I no longer try to reach those fantasy standards of perfection. It saddens me to hear people talk about the "perfect" or "ideal" beautiful woman or handsome man...is that based purely on looks? I'm rambling a little but I guess this photo really annoyed me.

[Image: Airbrush.jpg]
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#2
I feel like I should work out more.
"The True Gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self-control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity...a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe."

John Walter Wayland

“When you can't cheat the game, you'd best find a means to cheat the players.”

Scott Lynch, Red Seas Under Red Skies

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#3
There's no such thing as perfect...the girls in that picture are not attractive to me - they are just too thin (sorry to any very thin women out there).

I think that when people nitpick about their looks by comparing themselves to the ideals in magazines, they lose sight of the fact that almost no people they know or come into contact with actually look that way (party because the magazines are airbrushed) - think about the men you have known over the years that you were attracted to - do any of them look like Brad Pitt or [whoever you think is a good looking celebrity]? I'm guessing no - so if you don't hold the men you date up to the "ideal" standards, why would you hold yourself up to those standards (or why would you think that guys would hold you up to that standard)?

Another way of saying that is, do you think that guys are undateable (or unloveable) just because they don't look like Brad Pitt? If not, then why would you think a woman is undateable (or unloveable) just because she doesn't look like Angelina Jolie?

By the way, I saw your picture on the other thread, and you are plenty pretty.
I hope my arch nemesis is as lazy as I am.

"Everyone has a plan 'till they get punched in the mouth" - Mike Tyson

Perfect is the enemy of good.
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#4
It's never bothered me. I like nice looking things and I like to look nice myself. But I prefer natural beauty when it comes to people. Natural beauty is generally pretty easy to achieve with me. If you bath regularly, brush your teeth daily and eat properly (not too much/little) you'll properly look good to me lol. I do see the pressure though and how it effects people.
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#5
This means different things to different people.
"You must be the change you wish to see in the world." - Mahatma Gandhi
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#6
If I see a male model I just kinda shrug and immediately assume he's gay.
“It's now very common to hear people say, 'I'm rather offended by that.' As if that gives them certain rights. It's actually nothing more... than a whine. 'I find that offensive.' It has no meaning; it has no purpose; it has no reason to be respected as a phrase. 'I am offended by that.' Well, so fucking what?"
-Stephen Fry
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#7
Limlim.
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#8
As adults, we are more logical about things and can see what's phony and what's not, I just worry about the young girls out there who don't have that capacity for mature thinking on this subject. And thanks theraab :-) I certainly don't compare myself to stick figures, nor any other woman.
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#9
Limlim.
"The True Gentleman is the man whose conduct proceeds from good will and an acute sense of propriety, and whose self-control is equal to all emergencies; who does not make the poor man conscious of his poverty, the obscure man of his obscurity, or any man of his inferiority or deformity...a man with whom honor is sacred and virtue safe."

John Walter Wayland

“When you can't cheat the game, you'd best find a means to cheat the players.”

Scott Lynch, Red Seas Under Red Skies

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#10
Well see, that's the thing. There is a "perfect" but it varies from person to person.
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